am I going mad? Has that nanny thread being deleted or did I dream it?

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"Page62 there really ARE people like that" but people are choosing to focus on them as if they are the norm. I don't know anyone with a nanny who does that.

you're probably right. I think i just get sensitive as i feel i get pigeon-holed in this category as i employ a live-in nanny.

but really, i should be confident enough in my parenting to let comments like this wash over me (smacks myself in the head)

For those who are wanting to know if the OP requested the thread deletion, I can sloemnly swear I DID NOT.

Do you think anyone will confess? I doubt it.

Page62 I'm sending my DD to nursery in Sept at it will break my heart, interested to hear how does it work for you I mean getting the balance with a live-in nanny.

I can smack you if you like, Page62?

I kinda wish I had read it now!

I was going to then ds wash sick and when I came back from cleaning him up it had gone.

Nor I, although I suspect I had more right than most.

*wash sick.

I cant type today.

It's okay, Page62. You and I know you to work for your kids and not in spite of them.

It is funny sometimes to realise others' misconceptions of the job description of a modern day nanny.

lol beaulocks!

Don't remember anything offensive enough to warrant the thread getting deleted.

The fact that this one has started up has mad me PMSL!

I used to work for a bloke and he and his wife both had massively demanding jobs which meant if they weren't travelling, they were working till 9pm most evenings (they were very competitive with one another for career success). They had a live in nanny and also a weekend one when they went to their house in the country.

I had been the bloke's PA and after I'd left, he invited me to the house in the country for the weekend. On Sunday morning when I got up, he had taken one of his kids swimming (with the nanny) and the mum was home with the other one who had chicken pox. When I arrived downstairs, the mum was on the phone and the kid was having a poo and shouting 'Finished!'. Mum put her hand over the mouthpiece and said 'can you see to that please spicemonster?' Now that is outsourcing your childcare big time.

Desi, do want to start a new thread "AIBU to want to know who asked for the thread to be deleted and why?"

Page62, I dont think unless you only see your kids on a Sunday like my best friends parents employing a nanny has anything to do with being a bad mum or crap at parenting.
Its something some poeple have to do to able to work to be able to make enough money.

ARGH!!!
Poeple????
I give up today!

"Imagine feeling uneasy about it but having no choice"

Having no choice but to employ a round the clock nanny and work ten hours a day? Nop, I don't believe it. The average live-in nanny costs more than my husband earns (and many times what I earn, but that's my choice). People work those hours for that sort of money because they want to. Why can't I feel uneasy about the impact this sort of work-centred approach has on the children who barely see their parents?

Nobody has said that "any mother who uses childcare is WRONG and does not love her children"

Eh? Now who has a round the clock nanny? No one I know.

it is this a thread about a thread. that was about a thread?

No, no don't let page62 off that easily or any working mother for that matter :
As per nicetry
"If you have to work reluctantly for financial reasons and use childcare then I sympathise with you but your kids will adjust because I am sure you will rush back as soon as is humanly possible to make up for time spent apart (through desire not guilt). If however, you chose to work for 'you' while your kids are tiny then I sympathise with your children."

Ok, so let me get this straight....

It's ok to be a working mother as long as it's only for a few hours a day?

What about fathers, are we going to advocate shortening their working hours too or speculate about their fitness to parent?

VVV, with you on this. Imagine if it was compulsory to be a sahp, who could not access any form of childcare whatsoever? I vote for freedom of choice everytime.

I know I was a bit naughty there, and linked to another thread, but it was the recent CM thread, so .......

so i repeat is this a thread about a thread that was about a thread?

NO, nobody said "you're only allowed to work a few hours a day" - I said that I feel uneasy about parents delegating their children's care to such an extent that they barely saw them and were not actually parenting them.

Also nobody on the original thread singled out mothers - that was assumed.

2shoes, that is correct

eleusis - Kerry Katona lol

No, eleusis, I don't. I thought your thread was crass. Obviously someone else did, too.