I don’t really have anyone to speak to IRL about this, but MIL has just upset me when I don’t need it!
She does have a history of undermining me, whispering about me to DH etc.
Our whole family has just been hit by an awful vomiting bug. I’ve been in bed all day.
MIL and FIL came round at teatime, as they often do. They treat our house like a drop in centre! Calling in whenever they like. They’ve done it since DS was born.
As soon as MIL stepped thru the door she started whinging about how DS is nearly three and he’s not potty trained. We are trying with it and DS will sit on the potty at certain times. She said I need to “encourage “ DS more. I said “ well I try my best “. She just looked at me blankly and I couldn’t help it but I started crying. My dad has been in hospital for heart surgery today and I’ve spent most of the day being sick. I work part time but called in sick today.
MIL just sat there and looked at me. She carried on playing with DS. I went upstairs.
DP then came in from work and came upstairs. I told him about his mum and why I was upset. He just said “ ok”. He has a big history of backing his parents up or being neutral in these situations.
For context, my own mum passed away last year and I’m an only child. My dad is my only family.
If I ever appear upset or anxious MIL just asks DP next time she sees him what was wrong,she never asks me.
AIBU to think MIL should be slightly more caring considering I’ve lost my own mum?Also worth mentioning that MIL also has a DD with kids who lives two hours away. She partly lives there to be away from MIL!
Thanks for sticking with it if you’ve read this long! I have no friends to chat to and feel so alone.