Skinny shaming

[Bobski123]

I was doing some moving and handling training for part of my job. The trainer required a volunteer, I offered and she said "Oh no not you, you're far too skinny."
She then chose a larger lady.
I get it's supposed to be some sort of compliment because being thin is 'desirable'.
However if she'd said "Not you, you're far too fat." She'd possibly be out of a job by now.
However it's ok to say the opposite.
I should've responded really.
It's like that meme going around with a picture of Sophia Loren and the caption "I'd rather eat pizza and drink wine than be a size 0."
A few of my colleagues posted it and I just think, yawn. They aren't mutually exclusive, ok, size 0 is very small but the point is you can enjoy pizza, wine whatever and still remain slim. I'm just over it.

Totally agree with this.
As mentioned above, I’ve always been slim and when I am anxious or depressed, I lose my appetite and can’t eat. I then worry about the weight loss which makes me feel worse. And then people comment on it which makes me feel worse.
Youre just trying to get through to day, because you’re having a really tough time and Tracey or whoever from the office is like “you could do with eating more, you’re way too skinny”
And I’m like “yeah thanks Tracey, just dealing with a separation from my emotionally abusive husband but I’ll get on that next”
🤦‍♀️

😂😂😂. Very eloquent

Looks beginning to fade at mid 30s!? That's a sad outlook, have you been made to feel insecure by a certain type of shitty man?

Not at all, when I mean looks, I mean youthful looks. I'm starting to get lines that weren't there before, my chin is starting to sag, pregnancy has left reminders on my body. But I'm embracing the changes, I won't go under the knife or get fillers etc. I'm happy with the way I am.

Exactly this. I’ve been fat and skinny and it’s a no-brainer about what group gets the most toxicity and negativity which literally impact their life.

Try obesity for a week and tell me being skinny bothers you. 🤷🏼‍♀️

People feel like it’s okay because this is more socially aspirational than fat, but it is never okay to comment on someone else’s looks, especially if it’s a negative comment.

One of the most hurtful comments I’ve ever received happened at a public pool when a friend and I took our children together. It went along the lines of, “Wow, you’re like my niece who is also really skinny but doesn’t do much exercise. I guess even skinny people can be flabby and have cellulite!”

Like, what??

Isn't it more like "my trainers are worn out because I run most days and go to the gym to keep my weight healthy"

I don't care if people want to be fat but don't kid yourself that people who are not generally work at it, except for circumstances where they can't which is obviously different. But because I want to be a size 10 and feel better for it, should I be made to feel that I am the freak?

It’s not about whether being ‘underweight’ bothers someone more than being ‘overweight’ bothers someone else, it’s about the fact that commenting on other people’s bodies is inappropriate and unpleasant, whoever the person is and whatever you think of their body.

Anything else is just legitimising body-shaming in general.

They could have phrased it differently then....something like 'sorry you'd be too light'. That would have been better

If you are giving correct manual handling training, your weight should be immaterial surely?

Exactly!

Body shaming is body shaming.

Don't be greedy here claiming that being Insulted because you're too fat is worse than being insulted because you're too skinny.

It's probably because most fat people don't want to be fat, so the easy option is to victimise themselves and think it's okay to body shame a skinny person as they have it easier.

Whatever your weight, you shouldn't be body shamed. It's not just for fat people.

It was me that said I was called a bag of bones, honestly how dare you try and undermine how awful it made me feel. I felt like a freak and I still do sometimes, honest to god you have no idea...

Love how this poster, in the same breath as insisting only fat-shaming is bad, also made a bitchy comment about someone being bigger than they think they are. 🫤

We are sorry you've suffered fat shaming, it's wrong. But how dare you tell us that we have no right to feel upset about shaming in the other way, and almost implying that we should accept it. Disgusting attitude.

I personally think the trainer should recieve trianing on discrimation and how to correctly address people. Nobody should have negative remarks made about their appearence, end of.

On most women they are.

*"it's time people stopped pretending that 'skinny shaming' is the same as 'fat shaming.'"

Why is it better?*

Because it's better to be slim than fat. That's been well and truly established.

And anyone implying that a complete stranger is suffering from a severe mental illness such as bulimia, probably isn't quite alright themselves.

It's a shame you go through life getting so offended by stuff like this. I got told to 'get a bit of meat on my bones' a couple of weeks ago. I'm not remotely underweight and was able to laugh it off.

Phew, I thought you meant me for a minute, see what you mean now after re reading, yes absolutely correct, they sound delightful don't they 😔

The trainer needs speaking to. She shouldn't be commenting on anyone's size.
I'm slim and always have been. Mostly get compliments but I have occasionally had the "You're so skinny, do you ever eat?" Etc horrible comments.
These comments are coming from nasty, unhappy people so fuck them. Can't say I've ever had a comment from a fat person.
I do eat, I do have curves, my body isn't perfect but I'm happy with it and I know how to dress it.

Yes but when you ARE underweight which I'm fully aware that I am, those words really do sting.

It’s all part of a certain mindset that we should normalise ‘overweight’ and make slim people feel like neurotic, joyless fun sponges who do nothing but diet and try to make bigger people look bad. Ok they might look nice but they’re boring and uptight, see? And I may be carrying a few extra pounds (or ‘curves’) but I’m the fun one who actually enjoys life and food.

And these nasty little jibes and personal comments are part of that. Make fun of slim people because ‘it’s not really making fun of them is it’, and when they react and ask you to stop, ‘it’s because they’re uptight, like they are with food’.

And then when they get fed up and make one single remark about obesity, ‘SEE! I told you they were obsessed with weight and look, what a bitch they are’.

we can see what you’re doing.

Out of interest, why did you feel the need to mention their wives' sizes at all? It is weird. Are you trying to make a point about them by shaming their wives? Good lord!

I've a BMI of anything between 15 and 30. So I think I have a fair take on this.

When you are slim and fragile looking - people do tend to treat you better - strangers hold open doors, people thought I was younger. lots of compliments even when I was seriously underweight and wearing children's clothes and I'm tall.
But various people made rather snarky comments - no bottom (true), monitored what I ate, it all became rather bitchy.

When I was overweight - definitely more invisible and strangers think they can make remarks like "there's a lot of padding on you", "fatty" and other such original jibes.

It's very dull and unimaginative being publically weight shamed at whatever end of the spectrum. Some people think they are doing you a favour by commenting you should eat more or less.

I'm skinny and tbh I LIKE being skinny. I used to get "are you anorexic?" but not for a long time now, although I am perennially being asked "have you lost weight?" which is slightly annoying because it makes me wonder if they didn't think I was slim last time they met me.

Anyway I can't get worked up about 'skinny shaming'. It's not a real thing. I am technically underweight, based on BMI, and
if people think that means I don't eat pizza then why would I care? I don't eat pizza anyway.