Would this stop you from dating someone/ give the ick?

[Rossannah]

Sorry for the title, I didn't know how else to word it. I'm 38, single and have late primary aged children.

I know this guy, have known him for a while and last night at an event got chatting. Prior to this, I knew very little about him, just to say hi.
After we got chatting, I realised I was very attracted to him, he's not my usual type physically but is really nice looking, funny and completely different to my previous preconceptions about him.
We flirted all night and he asked if we could go out just the two of us (a date?!) We have texted all day, very flirty and I was really looking forward to it.
I facebooked him.
His profile is kind of semi private, there is info there.

He is 33.
There is a profile picture of children, 6 of them, they look aged between 2 and 14, it was uploaded in March. Don't know if it's old or not.
He has an new photo uploaded 2 weeks ago. Of a new baby. Brand new.
From the comments and further digging, this is his grandchild, born 3 weeks ago.
We have not talked specifics about children other than, yes we have them.
I don't know why but it has knocked me right off him. I don't know now if the youngest (2year old) in the profile photo is his child or grandchild. I don't know how many children are his, how many mums etc. It just looks so chaotic now and not something I want to get involved with. But I really like him. I'm pretending to be asleep so I don't have to answer him but we were supposed to be going for Sunday lunch tomorrow
Would this put you off a person?

Haha it didn't get that far but I know exactly what you mean by this.

We have texted non stop all weekend. I am dying for a bit of him tbh but yeah, he won't be going in with no hat on.

I would like to see him again on a casual basis, he is so likeable, his personality is as attractive as his face. But I can't get involved in all of that chaos. Although I can see how so many women have been taken in 😆

Why on earth are people saying that they would go on a date? He has six kids! He has grandchildren at a time when most people are thinking about having their first child.

Don't do it he has magic sperm! Not worth it.

Bet he keeps having more as well.

Well, if you see him again, you are getting involved. And you sound like you are being taken in, to me.
Bear in mind, if he hasn't been able to make it work with the last four mothers to his kids, it's looking an awful lot like it's a him problem.

I'm trying to think up a text to let him down. It's been a lovely weekend but reality is back tomorrow, I'm back to work and my children are home. The romanticism will be well gone. He is truly a jezza kyle candidate tbf

Aged 33, 6 kids by 4 women and 2 grandchildren already? Whoever said he sounds like something off Jeremy Kyle is spot on.

Run for the hills. You can do better than this.

It sounds like you’re smitten though op.

OP - just text him saying that you enjoyed lunch, but have no intention of being "baby momma" number 5.

All 6 children in the photograph are biologically his. There are 4 baby mommas.

All at the age of 33...yeah, the hills really are that way, OP!

We have texted non stop all weekend. I am dying for a bit of him tbh but yeah, he won't be going in with no hat on

would there be any harm in having a bit of (him) fun with him? You’re old enough and adult enough to walk away any time you like.

Op, in 9 months 🤣.
Well done on your decision.

Thanks for updating but, wow, what a nightmare. How does he even have the time and money for all this? The ickiest ick.

Made my MIL a granny just shy of 38. We were married as well before conceiving

No way would I be going anywhere near his pole, protected or not.

Of course he's charismatic because he's good looking and knows what women want to hear.

He's going to say he's an involved father. More like his mum is.
Who was looking after all those kids while he was out with you and chatting all weekend with him?

I wouldn't wonder why he is not wirh the children and their mother...is he widowed, or broken up with the mother. Then, are all 6 children with one mother, or several? I guess I would not be sure of how life would be with 6 step children plus my own dc.

That's grim

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Read your last post, yeah he is not bf material. Sounds very irresponsible. I'd have to tell him I didn't think we were a good match, thank him for a lovely date.

@Rossannah seriously…just say it out loud to yourself. He is a 33 year old grandfather, with a slew of kids by different mothers that lives at home with his mum (a great grandmother at 49 perhaps?!). You might accept one of these, but all of them together? More red flags than a Chinese Communist Party Parade. Just how slim are the pickings in your area?!

‘I am dying for a bit of him tbh but yeah, he won't be going in with no hat on.’ - marvellous. Take a cold shower and raise your standards quick, before you make a mistake. When did we allow our standards to fall so low?

Have some fun and stay safe and leave it there? Don't move him in. Don't get serious.

Ignore everyone who thinks they are above people and see him again if you enjoyed it.

@Alstoybarn - I guess the other FOUR ‘baby-mommas’ of this grandad to two and father to six ‘just enjoyed it’ previously and weren’t even a little concerned before. That’s why OP is posting her concerns.

Not only the 6 children and being a grandad at 33 but anyone using the term "baby momma" needs instant binning

I'm glad you had a good time and seem to have your head screwed on. I'd be careful though. That much charm might be difficult to resist over time, so I'd keep my distance.

In terms of 'ick' having a child so young would be a passion killer for me. I dated a very handsome Italian in my 20s. All good fun until he told me about losing his virginity at 13. Gave me the ick and put me right off him.

Do what he would do to you …. Ghost him