Partner upset by mum’s choice of phrase

[KatieWhitstable]

My mum very occasionally babysits for us.

Often, when one of us arrives home, my mum will say “Olivia’s had a lovely day with Nana” and then proceeds to tell us what she and Olivia have been up to together.

My partner thinks that this is a weird thing to say and that my mum is being rude. By suggesting “Olivia has had a lovely day” means that she doesn’t normally have a lovely day??? And that my mum is implying that she has a nicer day with her than she does with us.

He wants me to tell my mum not to say that anymore because he finds it patronising.

He also found it insulting that she suggested he shouldn’t keep eggs in the fridge and that you should keep eggs in the cupboard instead, because he is a grown man and can decide where he keeps his eggs. He thinks she is being rude and overstepping by offering unwanted advice.

AIBU by not speaking to my mum about these issues, and are these two examples anything my partner should be getting worked up about?
Is my mum rude or overstepping?

I suspect the busybody mother will be breathing a huge sigh of relief that her daughter is away from this controlling arsehole.

Well done OP ❤️

He is utterly pathetic. Fucking hell.

I hope you’re ok, OP. I can’t imagine what other shit you were putting up with from that complete twat.

He sounds insecure, and he's projecting it onto the things that happen around him.

Our grandchildren went home to their parents saying they had an aaaaaaawesome day with nana and grandad...it became a family joke when they were younger... your husband sounds as if he wants to be offended by everything your mum says.
As for the eggs it's a non issue

He's bonkers!

Is he having any contact with DC? Are you claiming child maintenance?

I walk on eggshells

Tip of the iceberg…

He's a dick. HTH.

This.

What else did he do? I’m really glad you’re free.

Good lord if these are his issues with his MIL he is incredibly lucky!

Perhaps he would be happier if your mum said "Olivia has had a lovely day with nanna, equal to but not exceeding the lovely days she has every day with her mummy and daddy"?

If I was your mum and you said this to me i would wonder what sort of gobshite you were married to.

People who consistently get their toes stepped on need to pull their feet back.

@KatieWhitstableit sounds like your DP is looking for ways to be offended.

Not behaviour I’d want my child to model themselves on.

Is he an only child ? He's WAY too sensitive. Your Mum sounds like she's pleased that she and your daughter had a good time together.As for the other stuff she's probably just trying to make conversation, maybe something she read or heard about ? Is it possible she's a bit lonely herself and just taking the chance to have someone to talk to ?.Mind you some husbands wouldn't listen enough to their mother in law to hear anything they might be offended by.

Just read the whole thing.

Well done for leaving him, he sounds really nasty.

How are you?