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Myself and my husband...

177 replies

LaPerduta · 07/07/2023 22:07

Please make it stop!

My husband and I went out to dinner.
Our friends invited my husband and me to dinner.

It's not rocket science.

OP posts:
Thunderpunt · 07/07/2023 22:34

Why not bugger off to Pedants Corner, rather than look snobbishly down on those who don't have a the perfect grasp of the English language that you have OP.

momtoboys · 07/07/2023 22:35

It makes people sound like absolute idiots. It makes me insane.

Hbh17 · 07/07/2023 22:35

It's awful, and what's shocking is how many so-called professional people do it thinking they're being smart.

MoneyMoneyPit · 07/07/2023 22:36

People think they sound more ‘educated’ and polite using those words I think.

My mum made dinner for my husband and I.
Please could yourself get back to the restaurant to confirm.

My ears bleed every time.

noglow · 07/07/2023 22:39

When do you use "and I"?

ThisIsUncool · 07/07/2023 22:44

noglow · 07/07/2023 22:39

When do you use "and I"?

When you are the subject, e.g. "My friends and I went to a party".
Think of what you'd say without the "My friends and" part of it: "I went to a party".

NannyGythaOgg · 07/07/2023 22:56

totally agree

NannyGythaOgg · 07/07/2023 23:03

The Queen said 'My Husband and I' not 'My Husband and Myself'

Myself/Yourself etc is reflexive. Use it otherwise if you want (i can't stop you). Show yourself to be totally fucking pathetically unable to use correct English

CrazyArmadilloLady · 07/07/2023 23:06

NannyGythaOgg · 07/07/2023 23:03

The Queen said 'My Husband and I' not 'My Husband and Myself'

Myself/Yourself etc is reflexive. Use it otherwise if you want (i can't stop you). Show yourself to be totally fucking pathetically unable to use correct English

I think Prince William is sadly prone to the odd inappropriately-placed ‘myself’…

INeedAnotherName · 07/07/2023 23:06

LaPerduta · 07/07/2023 22:07

Please make it stop!

My husband and I went out to dinner.
Our friends invited my husband and me to dinner.

It's not rocket science.

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Coyoacan · 07/07/2023 23:09

Eveninginparis · 07/07/2023 22:12

Well, I myself personally speaking think that anyone who splits an infinitive should be boiled in oil....

Except that it turns out that the ban on splitting infinitive dates from some fool eighteenth-century academics who erroneously modelled English grammar on Latin grammar

Icenii · 07/07/2023 23:10

I see this all the time but perhaps explain reflective to people because it isn't necessarily clear. Honestly, I did not appreciate it until I started writing.

Skodacool · 07/07/2023 23:14

LaPerduta · 07/07/2023 22:07

Please make it stop!

My husband and I went out to dinner.
Our friends invited my husband and me to dinner.

It's not rocket science.

Absolutely agree with you. I’m losing heart at the way our language is being abused.

Skodacool · 07/07/2023 23:15

Icenii · 07/07/2023 23:10

I see this all the time but perhaps explain reflective to people because it isn't necessarily clear. Honestly, I did not appreciate it until I started writing.

I think you mean reflexive - autocorrect?

Hibiscrubbed · 07/07/2023 23:15

Phew, your title gave me heartburn.

W1h · 07/07/2023 23:18

Yanbu.

I recently watched a promo video for a (well regarded) local school in which the English teacher advised people to contact 'myself' if they had any questions. I'm still angry thinking about it. The students at that school don't stand a chance.

NameChange245 · 07/07/2023 23:21

Myself and my husband don't get too worked up about these things!

I'm an aerospace engineer by the way! (Rocket science isn't really a thing, you should in fact say 'its not aerospace engineering you know'. But I'll let you off 😉)

Skodacool · 07/07/2023 23:21

Thunderpunt · 07/07/2023 22:34

Why not bugger off to Pedants Corner, rather than look snobbishly down on those who don't have a the perfect grasp of the English language that you have OP.

It isn’t snobbish to want to use English properly. It isn’t about having a perfect grasp it’s about being prepared to learn and improve our skills

Gowlett · 07/07/2023 23:22

Totally normal thing to say or write, where I live.

Thunderpunt · 07/07/2023 23:24

It is snobbish when comments such as
'It makes my ears bleed'
Or
'I want to boil myself in oil'
Or any other number of sanctimonious comments. Like I said take yourself off to Pedants Corner, but don't expect the great unwashed public to all have had the same level of education as some of you. So if they aren't grammatically perfect, accept it without the sneering and stay in your own fucking lanes

Nanny0gg · 07/07/2023 23:24

junebirthdaygirl · 07/07/2023 22:23

In lreland it comes from the lrish language. It's a direct translation so l'm afraid we seem to have spread it all over the world!!

No! It sounds totally different when it's said by the Irish

ItsNotTheGirlsWhoRiotAndStartWars · 07/07/2023 23:25

CrazyArmadilloLady · 07/07/2023 22:09

Grin

I don’t know where it’s come from, TBH.

I do enjoy a well-placed ‘himself’, ‘herself’, ‘yourself’ from an Irish person, though.

Yep!

But also OP yadnbu

KimberleyClark · 07/07/2023 23:26

While we are discussing bad English may I raise a couple of things tha5 have annoyed me recently.

On Facebook, abc “be like” xyz. It doesn’t make sense.
More generally, ‘I’m so excited for my holiday”. No you are not you are excited about it.

LulooLemon · 07/07/2023 23:27

People are averse to saying 'you' or 'me' because they think 'yourself', 'myself' and 'I' are more polite.

Someboysaretryintoohard · 07/07/2023 23:29

Your title made me myself squirm op.