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13 year olds DD sleepover with boyfriend

158 replies

spudulike1 · 06/07/2023 18:03

I have a 13 year old DD that wants to sleep over at her 15 year old boyfriends house (I know there is an age gap but he is quite immature so i am not overly worried about it and dont really need comments on that as I know them both so am comfortable with it as all time is spent in our house or his with parental supervision)

My Dd says all her friends parents allow their boyfriends to sleep over. I just want some parents to let me know if they would allow it. Im sure if the answers but am going to show her I'm not being unreasonable!!

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spudulike1 · 06/07/2023 18:15

@HeckinBamboozled I don't listen to it but wanted proof from lots of people to show her. She is my youngest so I have dealt with teens before so this isn't my first rodeo. I thought it would help her to see that just because some do most don't

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TeenDivided · 06/07/2023 18:16

One of DD's primary friends got pregnant at 13, baby at 14.

sassyduck · 06/07/2023 18:16

No. No chance in he'll.

Oxborn · 06/07/2023 18:16

Absolutely no way

CakeBeautifulCake · 06/07/2023 18:16

I have a 15 year old boy and wouldn't allow it! Definitely not a 13 year old girl! Well done for standing your ground!

Twonewcats · 06/07/2023 18:16

Not a chance in hell.

Meeting · 06/07/2023 18:17

Never in a million years.

And as for her telling you what all her friends are allowed to do, that's nice for them. Although I very highly doubt it.

Yerroblemom1923 · 06/07/2023 18:17

No way!

LittleBearPad · 06/07/2023 18:18

No

And the 15 year old boyfriend - at 13? Ick.

Whattheactualwhatnow · 06/07/2023 18:18

Absolutely not.

Gytgyt · 06/07/2023 18:19

Notmineagain · 06/07/2023 18:06

Wth is she doing even having a boyfriend at 13?? She's a child Fgs. Go be a parent and stop this nonsense of sleeping over at her 'boyfriends' house. I despair.

Are you a parent yourself? OP can't stop her DD from having a BF it's a part of life. However she doesn't have to encourage sex by entertaining sleep overs at 13, no. Having a boyfriend is a normal thing you can't cage your kids.

x2boys · 06/07/2023 18:21

LittleBearPad · 06/07/2023 18:18

No

And the 15 year old boyfriend - at 13? Ick.

I mean i don't agree with it either but why the ick?
That's two years or less 🙄

TwoPointFourCatsAndDogs · 06/07/2023 18:21

Absolutely not.

Ibloodymissgluten · 06/07/2023 18:22

I’d laugh my dd out the room.

And there’s no way my ds would ever have been allowed a gf to sleep over either.

itsmylife7 · 06/07/2023 18:22

At her age I wasn't allowed boys at my front door. 😁

Regardless of how immature you think the 15 year old is, his hormones will be racing !

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spudulike1 · 06/07/2023 18:22

@Notmineagain and others that have said it's not right. I agreed and then met him. He is a sweet and immature lad. I'm not going to go into aspects of either of their lives on here as it isn't appropriate but neither have had it easy and so they have found a friendship in each other as they are so alike. My DD is still a bit of an age when she makes faces at people kissing on the to so there is no way she is ready for anything really. Tbh they hang out together and have a laugh. It's not really serious from her point of view. Sexually I mean, I know her asking for a sleepover doesn't suggest that but we are very close and I know her.

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IknowYouButIdontLikeYou · 06/07/2023 18:24

No! No matter how immature you might think the boy is, he's 15 and will have certain thoughts - letting your 13 year old daughter stay there at night would be asking for trouble. Surprised you even have to ask.

Flippingflamingo · 06/07/2023 18:25

Definitely not.

pilates · 06/07/2023 18:25

A big fat no.

It’s the oldest trick in the book to say but my friends mums do.

IhaveanewTVnow · 06/07/2023 18:26

Nope. Two teenagers together no way. Girls and boys hormones are all over the place.

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spudulike1 · 06/07/2023 18:26

@IknowYouButIdontLikeYou like I said in the OP this was more to show my DD that many other parents think the same as me. This is not going to happen. If everyone had said it was fine I wouldn't have shown the thread to her and still said no! She will not be sleeping over!

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strawberry2017 · 06/07/2023 18:27

At 13 hell no! I do not for one minute believe her friends parents are allowing this x

AffIt · 06/07/2023 18:28

Why are you showing your child - YOUR CHILD - the thoughts of adult women - ADULT WOMEN - to convince her what you say is okay?

FFS, I don't even have kids and even I know this is absolute fucking nonsense.

badluckorbadvibes · 06/07/2023 18:28

You have lowered you position as her parent by bringing in recruits in the form of a MN thread.

Why? What's the need? 'Told you so' is playground stuff, not adult behaviour

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 06/07/2023 18:29

Not a parent, but no freaking way. Also wouldn't allow a 13-year-old to have a "boyfriend."

Children have friends, not romantic partners.

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