13 year olds DD sleepover with boyfriend

[spudulike1]

I have a 13 year old DD that wants to sleep over at her 15 year old boyfriends house (I know there is an age gap but he is quite immature so i am not overly worried about it and dont really need comments on that as I know them both so am comfortable with it as all time is spent in our house or his with parental supervision)

My Dd says all her friends parents allow their boyfriends to sleep over. I just want some parents to let me know if they would allow it. Im sure if the answers but am going to show her I'm not being unreasonable!!

No and I would be keeping a close eye on them incase he has already coerced her into doing anything.

Great big fat not a chance. She’s 13 years old.

I have a 13 year old daughter and absolutely NOOOOOO

Is this a wind up?

13 😳
You are definitely not the only parent who would say no. I don't think many would say yes and then I'd question their parenting!

Nope. And no to phones overnight too.

No, no, nope. Sounds like she thinks she can pull a fast one on you! Noooo.

Speak to the BF's parents too. In case they go for triangulation!

Taught a girl who went for a sleepover at her boyfriend's. His parents were away and he had a few mates round. They didn't let her go until they'd all done what they wanted. That's the kind of information you can't share on MN as it scares people.

No chance and I would be concerned that he’s pushing her into things she’s not old enough, mature enough or could impact her mental health

13?

Fuck no

At 15 going on 16, I was allowed. At 13 there wasn't a chance in hell.

He is a nice kid and I don't think he would but he is 15 and hormones are a tricky thing. Don't worry she will not be sleeping there. His parents are lovely and I don't think would allow it either

Not a fucking chance.

Abso-bloody-lutely not!

I have shown her your responses and now she is truly pissed off!!

Jesus, NO!

@spudulike1 glad you said No.

I can't even imagine the boys parents being happy about the idea either. Nobody wants a teenage pregnancy on their hands.

Absolutely not

She is a child, however grown up she may think she is.

Absolutely no.

Nope.

Do parents actually buy the 'but everyone does it..." line?!

How do you feel about being a grandparent in 9 months?
Reality is that some 13 year olds will be having sex whether we like it or not and that is the risk you are taking giving them permission to sleep over. Sleeping over also moves a relationship onto a new more intimate level even if they don't have sex.

Of course they can. I assume you want grandchildren soon.

He's a 15 year old boy. She's a fool, bless her, if she thinks he wont want to do anything with/to her. And with what they're teaching the kids in school these days his head will be FULL of ideas and images of just what he CAN do with her. Shudder.

Bloody hell, just ridiculous, no. I trust my dd too but there’s no reason to do this at this age.

I have a 15 yr old son. Not a chance in hell would he be allowed a 13 yr old girlfriend to stay 😳