Hi
Still fizzing about this and would like some perspective before I either bin this friendship or create further distance.
long and short of it I have a pal who I’ve known over 20+ years and haven’t seen since way before the pandemic.
Ask if they can come up to visit me in me for a couple of days, obviously not a problem.
Its a long trip to mine, 12 hour drive, and they decided to commute by car.
Things started off fine but a few things made my blood absolutely boil.
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Friend smokes, I don’t and my partner is trying to quit. No issue with them smoking outside, but Friend stood in door way with all internal doors open so smoke drifted back into house making it stink.
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Friend kept walking about the house belching loudly, when I said ‘excuse me maybe?’ They just laughed and continued doing it.
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We had a take away one night, fish and chips, so oily wrappers. I have a suede leather sofa (you can see where I’m going) They were given a tray but decided to put the wrapper on the couch, staining it with oil, obviously I was quite upset about it, and I just got a feeble apology and no offer to help clean it, just continued to sit there eating loudly and burping away.
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Last but by far the worst……
Friend advised they would be leaving the early hours to get home, again not a problem, and agreed for 5am…… Friend decides to get up at 3am, crash around like a herd of elephants, crashed around the kitchen getting food
(For context the sleeping area in my home is the opposite end from the kitchen on the same floor, but you can close the internal doors and then no one is disturbed)
I obviously angrily got up and made a sarcastic comment along the lines of ‘You’d make a shit ninja’ to which they laughed and said ‘I wasn’t that loud’
My partner and I had work that day, needless to say we were exhausted with our 3am wake up!
Im livid, and I never want them to stay again or at the moment see them again!
AIBU??