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Baby head butted me, OH livid

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Hol932 · 01/07/2023 20:18

I have a 3 month old baby and today he accidentally head butted My front tooth. He screamed in pain when he did it and his forehead went slightly red. It resolved in a few minutes and he’s fine in himself, currently feeding.

Basically it’s the second time it’s happen (him Head butting my tooth, although the first time it didn’t hurt him). He’s also hit the back of his head accidentally from flinging it back too hard on one occasion, again no damage. I’m a FTM, and my OH was absolutely livid at me, stormed off and said I need to stop hurting our son. He then told me to go buy some Calpol because it’s my fault that he’s in pain. He recovered pretty quickly and I’m well aware that I do need to be more careful, I’m not disputing anything he’s said. I just feel like such a sh*t mum right now with all these accidents. I am trying my best. I think I’m just posting for support as I’m really upset and my OH has made me feel 100x worse.

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Hol932 · 01/07/2023 23:54

Lidlpopdrinker · 01/07/2023 21:10

Babies head but all the time.

I bet your OH is the type to have a go at you when the baby nuts you, but when the baby nuts him he’ll be furious with the baby. That’ll probably be your fault as well eventually. He sounds like a knob.

This has made me realise once when he was a few weeks old he did blame the baby for something. Can’t remember what exactly but my response was just to tell him not to blame the baby.

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pinkwattle17 · 01/07/2023 23:56

From your posts I'm getting the impression your husband doesn't like being a parent much.

QueenFlamingo · 02/07/2023 00:07

They're like little bobble heads at that age. It happens a lot more than people think. Have a cuddle and they're trying to lift their head and it wobbles. Ignore DH, bet it would have been ok if it happened to him

whynotwhatknot · 02/07/2023 00:36

Hes a dickhead-they do this all the time how the hell is it your fault

smilesup · 02/07/2023 00:44

LunaLula83 · 01/07/2023 20:23

It's one of the most irritating things babies do. Mine used to do the same just as I was launching a kiss oh her head. Oh the pain!
I feel for you re your husband. Mine hid my car keys as 'a teachable moment' after I distracted baby with the key. Still incenses me 7 years later. Arse! Don't worry I found plenty of ways since to make him feel shit. And you aren't a shit mum!

Your husband is a nasty piece of work. I hope he is your ex.

808Kate1 · 02/07/2023 00:45

Ah OP don't feel bad. All 3 of mine did this. And it sometimes comes from nowhere or so fast that their strength can really catch you unawares - I had scratches, headbutts, bites, headbanging, the lot.

Your OH needs to be read the riot act however.

allmyliesaretrue · 02/07/2023 00:46

Your OH is being a total dick.

porridgeisbae · 02/07/2023 00:50

You've had a few threads over the last few months haven't you OP?

This relationship doesn't sound nice for you (and for your LO) at all.

You didn't do anything wrong, it was the baby that moved and happened to do that.

sanityisamyth · 02/07/2023 00:50

Babies are suicidal. It was an accident. Your OH is a dickhead.

LuluBlakey1 · 02/07/2023 01:02

I currently have a small black eye from my 3 year old doing the same thing when I picked him up to put him to bed and he was almost asleep. He caught under my eye with his flailing hand and I got a small bleed under the skin. I look like I've had a fight.

Fraaahnces · 02/07/2023 02:35

I think your DH sounds potentially dangerous. Just get out while your BF and keep BF for as long as possible.

JaneorEleven · 02/07/2023 04:14

I read FTM as Female to Male, and couldn’t make head nor tale of anything.

Im on MN far too much.

Catsmere · 02/07/2023 04:17

JaneorEleven · 02/07/2023 04:14

I read FTM as Female to Male, and couldn’t make head nor tale of anything.

Im on MN far too much.

I read it that way the first time I encountered it here - I'm used to seeing the other meaning from when I was on on Ovarit.

Allmyghosts · 02/07/2023 04:46

Your oh is a twat. Babies are random as fuck. This website really makes me happy to be single.

MrsMikeDrop · 02/07/2023 04:51

pikkumyy77 · 01/07/2023 20:22

Tell your dh to take over all childcare duties. Then criticize him mercilessly. He will learn.

This. Wait til he does something the crucify him. Dickhead

georgarina · 02/07/2023 05:33

He sounds a bit abusive tbh punishing you and blaming you for the baby doing something babies do

Jongleterre · 02/07/2023 06:08

Livid at you for being on the receiving end of a baby flinging his head around?

Accuses you of hurting your baby?

Stormed off?

It sounds like you are married to a very nasty and immature man who has a very low opinion of you.

Do not let him treat you like this. Unless you stand up to him now and tell him that he's talking crap, he is going to bully you until you are in such a weakened state you won't know what day of the week it is.

Costco121 · 02/07/2023 06:17

Lol what does he think calpol will do an hour later and not thinking about paracetamol indcuded liver damage much is he? Calpol like any other medicine should only be given only when really needed,sure you know that but seems he dosent.

his behaviour is more than bizarre, head butts in any age with babies is so common- either lack of head control to toddlers being overly raucous.

you are not a bad mum there is something wrong with him

Dibbydoos · 02/07/2023 06:18

Your DH is being a twat, OP. You can't control your child flinging his head about! i take it he doesnt provide as much care as you do with your DS.

Anyways, loads of mums end up with broken noses, black eyes due to this.

I stopped sitting my son with his back to me but sat him side on once he'd bashed my nose enough to break it. I'd suggest doing the same to save you both the pain!

LookAtThatArtwork · 02/07/2023 08:25

Please ignore what your OH said op. Babies do this.

I was happily bobbing my ds on my knee whilst he was listening to music, next thing I know he'd whacked his head into my nose ( whilst I tried to kiss him ) and blood was everywhere. He carried on bobbing along whilst I cleaned up and panicked my nose was broken. Ds was fine!

A few weeks later ds was sat on my lap, I leant down to kiss the top of his head again and he jumped up and whacked his head into my chin. I bit through my tongue and there was a bit hanging off I was in so much pain I couldn't even cry. My mouth was filled with blood. I think it hurt more than when I gave birth to ds!

It could have easily been your OH that this happened to so it's really not your fault.

PeapodBurgundy · 02/07/2023 08:36

My youngest was a complete nightmare for flailing herself around! She stood up out of the newborn fold in the stretch wrap, so she had to be frog legged from birth so she had nothing to brace against. She also tried to launch out of my arms at about 2 months resulting in her so nearly going into the dish bowl that she had soap suds on the back of her head!

She's now almost 5 and doing just fine.

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