Baby head butted me, OH livid

[Hol932]

I have a 3 month old baby and today he accidentally head butted My front tooth. He screamed in pain when he did it and his forehead went slightly red. It resolved in a few minutes and he’s fine in himself, currently feeding.

Basically it’s the second time it’s happen (him Head butting my tooth, although the first time it didn’t hurt him). He’s also hit the back of his head accidentally from flinging it back too hard on one occasion, again no damage. I’m a FTM, and my OH was absolutely livid at me, stormed off and said I need to stop hurting our son. He then told me to go buy some Calpol because it’s my fault that he’s in pain. He recovered pretty quickly and I’m well aware that I do need to be more careful, I’m not disputing anything he’s said. I just feel like such a sh*t mum right now with all these accidents. I am trying my best. I think I’m just posting for support as I’m really upset and my OH has made me feel 100x worse.

OP
It’s really important to support their head. Lots of posters posting about 6 month and older babies or even toddlers- this doesn’t apply to a 3 month old. Babies do not have head control or the ability to support the full weight of their head until they are 6 months old.

@ReleasetheCrackHen you're talking cobblers. Yes, when lifting a 3 month old from lying down, you should support their head. But they can typically support their own head seated and otherwise supported. Mine certainly could.

@Hol932 You are doing a brilliant job. You did nothing wrong, babies fling themselves around. Your H is a twat.

Your husband is being completely ridiculous, accidents happen...youre doing great and its not ok for him to treat you like this x

No, 5-6 months is normal. Your DD was ahead of the curve.
https://www.babycenter.com/baby/baby-development/baby-milestones-head-control_6579

No, not typically. You are over generalising based on your one DD.

Your OH is a massive douche.

Babies head butt, they can’t help it. Your husband can help by not being a dick.

What the NHS says
https://www.nhsinform.scot/ready-steady-baby/early-parenthood/your-baby-s-development-from-2-to-12-months
”Supporting your baby's headHeads are very heavy and it takes babies some time to strengthen their muscles so that they can support their own head.
In the first 3 months babies have quite weak neck muscles and need to be fully supported with your hands, a V-shaped cushion or bouncy cradle.
By 4 to 6 months your baby will gradually need less support as their muscles strengthen. There are simple things you can do, and games to play, that can help your baby develop muscles and control.”

3 months- babies still need their heads & necks supported.
4-6 months- you gradually taper off the support.

Jesus my kids have given me all sorts of injuries (some which have hurt us both of course).

The worst ones are when they are in your lap and you’re getting them dressed and they fling themselves back and headbutt you!!! My youngest was terrible for doing this! Almost broke my nose a few times even though I was really careful

Your dh is being ridiculous, sure if you were being careless and baby got hurt then of course he’d be annoyed. But baby was just babying. Absolutely 100% normal baby behaviour

Your DH is a dick, loads of babies do this! I work with a woman who needed surgery on a detachment of her retina after her baby flailed himself at her and his first caught her eye!

Your OH is unbelievably nasty.. you're not hurting him.. Baby has no spatial awareness
At a similar age mine head butted me and gave me a black eye
You're not a shit mum.. You're a great mum who does her best for her DC
Your OH... isn't

I’ve had several black eyes, and quite a memorable nose bleed on Christmas Day from baby’s head butts. It’s normal, and very annoying, but just due to proximity (on you ALL the time). They will injure themselves in far more ridiculous ways, so be prepared!

I use to this the head butts at that age were bad, my DD is now 16mo and managed to bust my lip a few days messing around ending in a lovey head butt, she was fine it always seems to be me in pain 😂. Ignore DH your little one more than likely cried through shock rather than pain and even if it was pain you couldn't have stopped it! If he's being that much of an arse tell him to do everything you normally do and once it's been a day and he's been head butted and realised how ridiculous he's being he'll soon change his tune.

Babies are always flinging themselves around. You haven't done anything wrong, it sounds like your dh is being really overdramatic tbh.

This is hilarious!! In retrospect, of course - and no harm having been done. Babies are mentalists.

He hid your car keys to teach you a lesson? Fucking hell. What an arse.

I thought the same - wtaf?!!

1st time mumma here too just wait till he’s sitting my little one took many tumbles when he first sat and head bangs happen sometimes he cried but we have cuddles and keep an eye on it don’t feel bad your doing amazing tell your OH to get a grip

Don't worry OP. My second child had very jerky head movements and headbutted me too many times to remember. I remember I disliked putting DC2 to bed for years because she would invariably end up hurting me when I was trying to read to her by jerking her head around/up/down suddenly just as I thought she was falling asleep and wasn't on guard for her head jerking. Some kids are just like that. You're a great mum and you're doing a great job. If you DH thinks he can do better, hand the baby over to him and have a nice relaxing shower and an early night!

Your husband sounds terrible, frankly. You, however, do not.

Your OH is an arsehole! Babies have little bumps all the time, wait until it's crawling/walking!

I had my first nose bleed ever when head butted by one year old son. It was bloody painful and horrible as I've always had a bit of a phobia about nosebleeds. I'd have been annoyed if DH hadn't been a bit sympathetic.

Babies don't just sit still and head butting seems a popular passtime.

Tell him that feeding Calpol to a 3 month old when he doesn't need it is a hell of a lot more harmful that minor bump against your tooth.

than a minor bump, not that minor bump.