Baby head butted me, OH livid

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I have a 3 month old baby and today he accidentally head butted My front tooth. He screamed in pain when he did it and his forehead went slightly red. It resolved in a few minutes and he’s fine in himself, currently feeding.

Basically it’s the second time it’s happen (him Head butting my tooth, although the first time it didn’t hurt him). He’s also hit the back of his head accidentally from flinging it back too hard on one occasion, again no damage. I’m a FTM, and my OH was absolutely livid at me, stormed off and said I need to stop hurting our son. He then told me to go buy some Calpol because it’s my fault that he’s in pain. He recovered pretty quickly and I’m well aware that I do need to be more careful, I’m not disputing anything he’s said. I just feel like such a sh*t mum right now with all these accidents. I am trying my best. I think I’m just posting for support as I’m really upset and my OH has made me feel 100x worse.

My baby did that a few times, and even does it occasionally as a 3yo! You are around him probably a lot more than your OH is, so it's just more likely it happens with you. X

oh my god tell him to get a grip. all 3 of mine did that

Lots of stupid little things like this will happen over the years.

Today I accidentally caught DS1's chickenpox blister with my fingernail while taking something out his hand. Previously, I have gesticulated while talking and (lightly) backhanded a child that was approaching from behind.

Kids get tripped over, bumped into, fingers trapped in doors, all sorts.

Your DH is either highly anxious, or trying to make you feel like a shit mum on purpose.

As a mum of 3 and nana of 2 your OH is being a knob frankly
Babies fling about its what they do. Tell OH to grow up! Youre doing fine lovey, dont ket him make you think any different. My eldest broke someones nose when she was 4 months old and he made less of a deal about it than your OH is xx

Babies do this all the time!! They are learning to control their heads and for the most part unavoidable.

Ignore your husband! Wait until baby is crawling and rolling then.. There will be plenty more to come!

Has he never met a baby before? They're not exactly known for their head control.

I was literally complaining to a friend earlier that I don't think I've got much longer with my front tooth, as all 4 of my kids have regularly headbutted it. Newest DS is only 9 months old, so I've still got a good few headbutting months left.... if the tooth survives that, I'll be made up 😄

On a serious note, DH needs to give his head a wobble. Does he hold the baby much and know that this is just what babies are like? If not, he needs to do that more.

That's what babies do. Your DS will be fine.

Your other half needs to get a grip and realise children do random / blatantly stupid things and they are almost always totally fine.

Is your husband one of those who likes to criticise others all the time?
he can buzz right off , or take care of the baby full time and you can stand there and give him feedback 🤬

I've lost count of how many times my son has nutted my teeth. Tell him to come say something to me, or he can grow the fuck up and realise it's normal. I bet you're doing great.
They're going to hurt themselves alot, it's fine. It is not a reflection on you as a mother. It's not a reflection on him either, if that's what he's worried about, if he's putting you down a lot though then this is not good.

It wouldn't surpise me if you and your baby are normal and fine, and that your partner is being a dickhead.

Babies aren't stiff, stationary dolls ffs. They are still very much still learning motor skills and spatial awareness.

Another one here who thinks he should get a grip. And what's more, he will likely find out soon enough by getting a surprise head butt himself.

DH once had to go into work for a week with TWO black eyes from an enthusiastic backward-flung skull of the toddler on his lap meeting the bridge of his nose. This followed a week where a sharp 2yo fingernail had caught him under the eye and left a long bleeding cut on his face.

Any small injury he ever got after that was met with jokes like "did you get that at Baby Fight Club mate?"

From the title I thought your DH was livid that your DC had head butted you and was upset on your behalf.

Babies head but all the time.

I bet your OH is the type to have a go at you when the baby nuts you, but when the baby nuts him he’ll be furious with the baby. That’ll probably be your fault as well eventually. He sounds like a knob.

One day soon your child will be just the right height to run full pelt and headbutt your 'D'H right in the nutsack. Please do fuss over your child and make sure they're alright.

Happens all the time. My headbutter is old enough to apologise for trying to break my face each time now. He still hasn't quite worked out how to not do it in the first place!

Just wait till he's a toddler and covered in bruises. All your fault of course. Babies can be vicious with their head butts. Hope your teeth are okay. My kids always aimed for my nose.

Your husband's an asshole.

And don't go giving your baby Calpol, totally unnecessary, not to mention it's banned in some countries for good reason. Awful stuff.

OH was absolutely livid at me, stormed off and said I need to stop hurting our son.

I could never ever forgive that comment. And I mean ever. I would 100% not be with a man who said that to me.

I know I shouldn't — your story had me laughing out loud, so I've had to read it out to the friend who's staying for the weekend and now she's roaring with laughter too...

Wow it’s going to get so much worse once he’s crawling, walking, at nursery, running, climbing.

Your DH needs to chat to some other parents and stop being a dick.

Tell him to bugger off. Believe me it has nothing to be with being a FTM, i am a mum to 3, auntie to god knows how many and Granny to 5 and last month my 16 month old DGD in the space of an hour head butted my nose, punched me in the eye and belted a toy off my head will have many more to deal with.

Sounds familiar.

Unless he apologizes and acknowledges he totally overreacted asap then I would be on your guard from now on or everything always being your fault, and your parenting to always be questioned.

Bitter experience

Sorry if I am way out of line but this is a BIG red flag!!

We refer to it as “that time I threw you in the bin” 😂

Your husband is absolutely ridiculous! Accidental head butting is just something babies do, and undoubtedly will happen to your husband at some point. Bet it’s the baby’s fault then!

I thought the same. Just as an aside why are you saying he headbutted your tooth twice. Surely a baby's head would hit both front teeth at least ?