Baby head butted me, OH livid

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I have a 3 month old baby and today he accidentally head butted My front tooth. He screamed in pain when he did it and his forehead went slightly red. It resolved in a few minutes and he’s fine in himself, currently feeding.

Basically it’s the second time it’s happen (him Head butting my tooth, although the first time it didn’t hurt him). He’s also hit the back of his head accidentally from flinging it back too hard on one occasion, again no damage. I’m a FTM, and my OH was absolutely livid at me, stormed off and said I need to stop hurting our son. He then told me to go buy some Calpol because it’s my fault that he’s in pain. He recovered pretty quickly and I’m well aware that I do need to be more careful, I’m not disputing anything he’s said. I just feel like such a sh*t mum right now with all these accidents. I am trying my best. I think I’m just posting for support as I’m really upset and my OH has made me feel 100x worse.

He’s in for a shock when baby turns into a toddler and starts throwing themselves around during tantrums.

OH seems like an arse. Assuming he’s not the type to be educated on how babies and accidents work? I feel for you.

I've got a cracked tooth from DD flailing suddenly at about 6m old and smacking the bottom of a coke can I was drinking from. She was fine, as is your DS. DP was just concerned I'd been hurt, because he's not an arsehole.

What a revolting man your DH is..... in these scenarios. I wonder if he's revolting every day in other types of situations?

Your DH sounds horrible, really nasty.

What a horrible way to behave towards a new mother. This was an accident that could happen to anyone, and had happened to many. I wouldn’t think calpol was even really needed.

DD1 gave me a black eye when she head butted me as a toddler. I had a dreadful headache all day and my DM was very unsympathetic. So it's not just partners that can be a bit shite.

Babies and toddlers spend the best part of their time trying to injure themselves in creative ways.

If your husband is shocked by this, he hasn't been doing his fair share of parenting.

Urgh, can't be doing with neurotic men. Tell him he's in for a shock once junior starts walking.

Your DH is a bell end.

Is he like this about other stuff? Makes a big thing out something being your fault?

please don’t be upset. I have a 9 month old and this has also happened to me - I too felt shit but he has since also flung his head back and hit the bannister etc. they do it a lot! It is normal to have these little accidents I have learnt, don’t be too hard on yourself.

Your DH has not reacted very well at all, he should be reassuring you not tearing you down.

I was more worried about your tooth when I read this! Things like this happen all the time. Your OH needs to get a grip. You're not a shit mum. At all.

Your OH shouldn't be policing you like this. Hope you're OK

I'd be more worried the baby has damaged your tooth than you'd damaged the baby! Sorry to hear about your husband's reaction. Is he the same in other situations?

Ditto haha!

Definitely not your fault OP. Please don't let him make you think it is.

Babies do this all the time, you sound like your doing a great job.

Get his mum to talk some sense into him if you can.

Sending hugs. Tell him to sort it the F* out, your a FTM and don't need that, he should support you not ctiticize.

He's a twat. Babies do this all the time and why does he think their skull plates are not fused?
Tell him to get a grip

ExH is like this, it's been horrible and I have avoided seeking medical attention for my dc at times (normal accidents, but probably more than there might have been if I was constantly on the back foot worrying what he would be cross about next and not paying enough attention to the children) because I was scared of his reaction.

Maybe you should tell your husband you are going to be livid with him if he cannot stop over reacting and letting his child witness a mental breakdown every time an accident happens. What would he be like in a real crisis? Tell the man to pull himself together.

Remember what your DH said and repeat it to him when your child inevitably catches him in the balls some time in the future

I remember getting head butted so many times! Babies are dangerous!

Is OH getting enough sleep or just a dick? He should have asked if you were OK

You've reminded me of the time one of mine threw his head backwards and caught me in my windpipe, for a few seconds I thought I would die.
I can laugh about it now, it was around 7 years ago.
And yes, your husband is being an utter shit.

Your DH is being very, very unfair.

DD used to do this all the time. At 3 weeks she threw herself backwards out of DH's arms and hit a metal laundry bin and gave herself a black eye!

She cried for 20 seconds, he cried for 5 minutes...

I took her to A&E I was so scared she'd fractured her eye-socket or something. She hadn't.

Referral to social services who were lovely about it, and I had to take 12 week old baby around for weeks on London transport with a slowly fading black eye. Nearly put a sign on the pram saying 'she did it herself' I got so many looks!

3 months - not 3 weeks!

Just wait until your baby starts toddling about.
They don't learn to put their hands out straight away when they fall.
Both mine had terrible bruises on their foreheads/faces at times.

They both used to throw themselves backwards when learning to sit as well, we had to put cushions behind.

Anyway, your DH doesn't sound supportive at all.

stormed off and said I need to stop hurting our son.

So he's accusing you of deliberately hurting your baby?

Why would he do that?

I’m not disputing anything he’s said.

Why not?

You've done nothing wrong & he's talking shit!

Ignore him. Hopefully he’s soon the recipient of a headbutt to the nose. That makes your eyes water!