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she should used the shower before i come back

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RobynsMama · 30/06/2023 12:14

lighthearted, mostly 😂

i’m on holiday with some friends from work, first time we’ve ever been away together but we have done nights away.

I’m sharing a room with one person who doesn’t really like sunbathing or being by the pool. Fair enough we’re all quite chill and have been doing our own thing and then meeting up in the evening for dinner/drinks.

She goes back up to the room usually about 1pm to read and chill out whereas I’ll stay by the pool til it gets too chilly probably about half 6/7. We always make a plan for dinner in the group chat and the. I always put a message saying what time I expect to be back at the room because obviously will have to shower and get ready. Every day this week she’s been in the room for 6/7 hours alone and only gone in the shower when i’ve come back from the pool (it’s like she waits for me to get back then runs in there) and she takes forever meaning I have to then rush. I got fed up of this and asked when she was leaving after lunch if i could use the shower at 6 yesterday and she agreed, but when i got back to the room (at 6) she was in the shower! and took a good 45 minutes for i had to rush again.

aibu to think it’s a bit selfish if you’re in the room all day to wait to use the shower until the person you’re sharing with gets back from the pool, making them rush to get ready?

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ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 30/06/2023 14:07

taking! not talking.

kitsuneghost · 30/06/2023 14:12

Just jump in the pool before you go up
Job done

Catspyjamas17 · 30/06/2023 14:14

KimberleyClark · 30/06/2023 14:01

If she showers at say 5 she's not going to get dirty sitting in an air conditioned room until dinner.

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Yes, quite. But you need a shower after swimming in the pool. My hair is always borked. The other daft cow could have a shower in the morning if she is sitting in the room all day doing nothing.

Quiverer · 30/06/2023 14:16

RobynsMama · 30/06/2023 12:20

i understand wanting to shower just before dinner; but if she’d said yesterday that she would rather shower at 6, i’d have come up and had a shower at half 5. but she agreed and then hogged the shower anyway

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Have you asked her why?

TheWalrusdidbeseech · 30/06/2023 14:17

RobynsMama · 30/06/2023 12:20

i understand wanting to shower just before dinner; but if she’d said yesterday that she would rather shower at 6, i’d have come up and had a shower at half 5. but she agreed and then hogged the shower anyway

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then she is 100% rude. 45mn in the shower is ridiculous, make-up etc should be done in her own room anyway.

Can you ask her what time SHE wants the shower?

hennaoj · 30/06/2023 14:18

After 10 min, knock on the bathroom door every 30 seconds until she comes out.

Zanatdy · 30/06/2023 14:20

Book dinner for later, save all the aggregation

Hintofreality · 30/06/2023 14:21

She’s clearly going up to the room to have several hours of frantic sex with a waiter, makes him leave at the last minute and then jumps in the shower.

honeylulu · 30/06/2023 14:24

It sounds like she thinks the room is more hers than yours perhaps because spends so much bloody time there! I'm also wondering if she's a bit of a princess type and wants to be the one who gets to use the shower first after it's been cleaned by room service.

magicstar1 · 30/06/2023 14:25

I have it! Go back up about 5.30 and don't use your key....knock at the door. When she opens it, run straight for the bathroom and stay there as long as you like.

Growlybear83 · 30/06/2023 14:39

How can anyone possibly spend more than five minutes in the shower, or maybe ten if they have long thick hair to wash?

Brightbear · 30/06/2023 14:41

RobynsMama · 30/06/2023 12:37

i might try this and report back 😂 even if she does jump in before me at least i’ll not be rushing as much 😂

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Yeah do this!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 30/06/2023 14:43

Hintofreality · 30/06/2023 14:21

She’s clearly going up to the room to have several hours of frantic sex with a waiter, makes him leave at the last minute and then jumps in the shower.

Whilst he climbs down from the balcony? 😅

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 30/06/2023 14:46

I agree with the “I’ll be back at 6” but actually arrive at 5.30 plan

That or ask her what time she wants her shower and explain you just want to make sure you both get a chance

Anyport · 30/06/2023 14:52

Why don't you go back to the room at 5 or 5.30 and go in before her?

User9753224 · 30/06/2023 15:00

magicstar1 · 30/06/2023 14:25

I have it! Go back up about 5.30 and don't use your key....knock at the door. When she opens it, run straight for the bathroom and stay there as long as you like.

😂

Throwncrumbs · 30/06/2023 15:03

Just say I’m having a shower first tonight and don’t listen to any of her excuses.

Susuwatariandkodama · 30/06/2023 15:04

I went away on holiday had one friend that liked to spend a hour or more in the shower, we were all sharing the same space and at first we shrugged it off but it became absolutely infuriating when we had booked to be somewhere.

We were all left scrambling to get ready because of it, we finally mentioned it and they said they liked to use their shower time as their chill time which is fine but not when there’s a whole group of you needing to use it!

I think some people can just be oblivious to how their own habits can affect other people.

Housekeeperbatcocoa · 30/06/2023 15:05

This is why i never share rooms.

TheWalrusdidbeseech · 30/06/2023 15:08

Susuwatariandkodama · 30/06/2023 15:04

I went away on holiday had one friend that liked to spend a hour or more in the shower, we were all sharing the same space and at first we shrugged it off but it became absolutely infuriating when we had booked to be somewhere.

We were all left scrambling to get ready because of it, we finally mentioned it and they said they liked to use their shower time as their chill time which is fine but not when there’s a whole group of you needing to use it!

I think some people can just be oblivious to how their own habits can affect other people.

the only solution with these individuals is to physically stop them to use the bathroom until everyone had their turn, then rushing them when it's time to leave 😂

thenightsky · 30/06/2023 15:12

mistermagpie · 30/06/2023 12:34

That's what I'd do too!

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And me!

TheRealHousewife · 30/06/2023 15:19

You are totally right on this one! This is why whenever I go away with anyone I pay for my own room for my sole use. I realise it’s more expensive but imo totally worth the investment for the sheer privacy and flexibility that it allows. Enjoy the rest of your break @RobynsMama

ItsNotRocketSalad · 30/06/2023 15:19

RobynsMama · 30/06/2023 13:36

😂😂😂😂 if i could sneak into the room i recon i could get in the shower before her but the bloody door announces my arrival before i’ve even entered the place

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Knock on the door, put on a high pitched voice and say "ROOM SERVICE" with a bad accent. Wait for her to open the door, push past, yell "THIS IS SPARTA!" and lock yourself in the bathroom until five minutes before dinner time. It's the only reasonable solution.

lovemelongtime · 30/06/2023 15:25

"I'm quicker than you so do you mind if I jump in the shower first"

bonzaitree · 30/06/2023 15:27

LindorDoubleChoc · 30/06/2023 13:57

God what does she do in that room all day? What a boring person! Why on earth is she on this holiday <slightly misses point of thread>.

I’m also thinking this. Why is she in the room? Is she having a bad time??