she should used the shower before i come back

[RobynsMama]

lighthearted, mostly 😂

i’m on holiday with some friends from work, first time we’ve ever been away together but we have done nights away.

I’m sharing a room with one person who doesn’t really like sunbathing or being by the pool. Fair enough we’re all quite chill and have been doing our own thing and then meeting up in the evening for dinner/drinks.

She goes back up to the room usually about 1pm to read and chill out whereas I’ll stay by the pool til it gets too chilly probably about half 6/7. We always make a plan for dinner in the group chat and the. I always put a message saying what time I expect to be back at the room because obviously will have to shower and get ready. Every day this week she’s been in the room for 6/7 hours alone and only gone in the shower when i’ve come back from the pool (it’s like she waits for me to get back then runs in there) and she takes forever meaning I have to then rush. I got fed up of this and asked when she was leaving after lunch if i could use the shower at 6 yesterday and she agreed, but when i got back to the room (at 6) she was in the shower! and took a good 45 minutes for i had to rush again.

aibu to think it’s a bit selfish if you’re in the room all day to wait to use the shower until the person you’re sharing with gets back from the pool, making them rush to get ready?

Simple solution, never share a room with someone this selfish again.

Wow, just read your last update, she’s very entitled!

It’s actually quite amusing though, think I would be making it my mission to wind her up and get in first for the rest of the holiday 😂

Maybe she does have OCD, which obviously can’t be easy, but it’s a bit much to be pissed off at you for failing to accommodate her.

OP thought she was normal before this. Now she knows better.

Evidently not, although only OP can answer for certain. She had no reason to imagine Showerzilla couldn't vacate the bathroom at an agreed time like the normal person she seemed to be. Now that she does, I expect they won't holiday together again.

Showerzilla

You don't need to fathom it. Some people are OK going away with people they know who aren't their very besties, and they take a chance on them being as normal as they've always presented to be so far.

Sharing a bathroom isn't particularly intimate. I've done it with complete strangers in youth hostels and guest houses, and in halls of residence. One hopes that if you're room sharing, your room mate will stick to agreed shower times like a normal person. Sometimes you find out they're a loon...lesson learned. Part of life's rich tapestry.

Fail in your own room

My eldest grandson has autism and doesn't behave like this, Just selfish.

What, for explaining something when you said yourself that you couldn't fathom it?

You must have heard people say before that you don't truly know someone until you've been on holiday with them or lived with them? You can be besties for 20 years and still get the shock of your life when you go on holiday together.

I think this is the crux of the matter.

Wants to shower first (OCD, whatever reason) and is triggered into showering by OP's door beep (ADHD, whatever reason)
Fine.

BUT

She got angry about being tricked into showering first, triggered by the door ping.

That means even if she does have OCD/ADHD, the reason she jumps ahead when OP comes through the door is malicious.

She simply wants to be obstructive, and was angry that she didn't get to obstruct OP that day.

My sincerest apologies if I gave you the impression that I care what you think.

However, having proclaimed yourself unable to fathom the idea of discovering more about someone when you holiday with them, I thought you could use the help.

It doesn't require any "gospel". It really isn't as difficult a concept as you think.

It's also malicious to have a 45 minute shower when someone is waiting. If you have ADHD time blindness, you have a 5 minute alarm for the shaving legs/underarms. 5 minute alarm for showering. 3 minute alarm for teeth. 2 minute alarm for getting clothes on. She could then do makeup

I really wish OP secretly got ready in a different room yesterday.

Ops not coming back is she!?

She's in the shower.

On a serious note, I want to know what happened too! Even if it was a non event.

They are duelling by flicking bath mats at each other

That will sting