she should used the shower before i come back

[RobynsMama]

lighthearted, mostly 😂

i’m on holiday with some friends from work, first time we’ve ever been away together but we have done nights away.

I’m sharing a room with one person who doesn’t really like sunbathing or being by the pool. Fair enough we’re all quite chill and have been doing our own thing and then meeting up in the evening for dinner/drinks.

She goes back up to the room usually about 1pm to read and chill out whereas I’ll stay by the pool til it gets too chilly probably about half 6/7. We always make a plan for dinner in the group chat and the. I always put a message saying what time I expect to be back at the room because obviously will have to shower and get ready. Every day this week she’s been in the room for 6/7 hours alone and only gone in the shower when i’ve come back from the pool (it’s like she waits for me to get back then runs in there) and she takes forever meaning I have to then rush. I got fed up of this and asked when she was leaving after lunch if i could use the shower at 6 yesterday and she agreed, but when i got back to the room (at 6) she was in the shower! and took a good 45 minutes for i had to rush again.

aibu to think it’s a bit selfish if you’re in the room all day to wait to use the shower until the person you’re sharing with gets back from the pool, making them rush to get ready?

Don't tell her when you'll be back and go have a shower at 5 and hog it.

Definitely tell her you're coming back later than you are then sneak in the shower! It sounds like she's using your return as a trigger to get off her arse and doesn't realise it's selfish to hog the shower

Tell her you want to shower at 6 , arrive back at 5.30 and say now I am early I will jump on the shower. Then take an hour

Write in the group chat that you want to change roommates.

Sneak back at 5:45 and stay in the shower till gone 6:30

I had a flat mate do this but when I went on holiday for a week, coming back late on the Sunday and had work early the next day. He knew what day & rough time I’d be back. Then I text him the day before to say what time I’d be home, then a few hours before, then when I was about 20 mins away. The second he heard my key in the door he pressed ‘go’ on the washing machine and got in the only shower for 20 mins. It is selfish!

Surely pop back at 5, she’ll run into the shower, and then you go back to the pool for another hour?! By the time you’re ready to head to the room for real, she’ll be ready.

Just say "what time will you want the bathroom for getting ready tonight and ill work round it either before or after?"

Surely she could have a shower earlier and then sit on the balcony and read. That's what I normally do. Come back to room, shower stick pjs on and chill for a couple or so hours with a book (or Mumsnet) before getting dressed and quickly straightening my hair to go out again

This is why, now that I am older and can afford it, that I refuse to share a room with friends anymore.

What do you say when she heads for the shower?

Honestly just get back 15 mins earlier and say "as I'm a bit quicker than you can I use the shower first tonight". Say this either as she's heading for the shower or as soon as you get in.

hahaha i think you’ve hacked it! haven’t thought of that

I'm with you total PITA sharing.

OP go back at 5.30 and run into the bathroom

honestly the speed at which she gets into the bathroom is a sight to behold. the room lock makes a beepy sound before it unlocks so it’s like she gets a pre warning. i barely have time to say hello before the bathroom door is shut

i will definitely think twice about the next time

Definitely try getting to the room at 5, let her jump in shower then you can go back out till 6 and then she’ll be finished.

If she's alerted by the door lock thingie, you'll barely have to step in the room, so you could leave your stuff down at the pool, pop up to the room and then back down again for an hour.

play her at her own game

Ok I'm invested now. Try the pretend coming back thing at 5 tonight.

Yeah she's being selfish. My 13 daughter for the last two years on holidays always goes up to the room about an hour or so before us to chill awhile but is always showered for us getting in so we can get in and get ready without me even having said. If a teenager can manage it and work out it makes sense, surely she can.

it’s like she gets a pre warning. i barely have time to say hello before the bathroom door is shut

Not sure why I found this so funny, just the thought of her waiting all day for the sound of the "BEEP", bath mitt in hand -- and SHE'S off! Like a rat out of a trap 😂

If she is on the balcony, could she be watching you at the pool and as soon as you are getting your stuff together she knows you are on your way?

Me too, please do that OP. She's a pisstaker.

I meant she does seem to be making a point about something with her silent thorough shower protest , does she think she is being asked to work around the OP? . She's not here to tell us .

😂

She's deffo being selfish.

Maybe go up to the room at 4.30/ 5, open door, watch her do her sprint to the bathroom, then go back down to the pool for another hour? Then return at 6 for your shower.

I used to holiday with a friend who claimed that, as the hot water was limited, she should shower first as showering in cold (tepid) water gave her a migraine. Fine, except that she wouldn't ever cut short her shower so that I could have a bit of the hot water. I still don't know why I put up with that 😂

🤣 you have to report back tonight

She may not be making a protest. My ex-FIL used to go in the single bathroom for an hour every morning, just as everyone else was waking up. We had two young children to get ready and it didn’t seem to even cross his mind that other people might need to use the toilet. I don’t think he was being mean or making a point, it was just his standard routine. Some people are just like that.

Good luck with all the ruses, OP. It sounds thoroughly annoying.