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There are two sexes…

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ItJustFellOutLikeWordVomit · 23/06/2023 13:34

Well just that really….I have gay, straight, bi sexual and transsexual friends and absolutely have no problem with that, very much a do what makes you happy person.

Butttt….AIBU to think the world is going a bit mad with all the non-female, cis female and whatever other labels are floating about. I’m a woman and that’s that, you are either biologically a male or biologically a female and I don’t mean that in an insensitive way dress how you like and date who you like but surely we can’t just be inventing different/new sexes and telling straight women they are no longer a woman they are now XYZ?

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Tippingadvice · 24/06/2023 08:38

@Julioop PCOS stands for Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome I.e. you have to have ovaries to have it.

Funnily enough only females get PCOS. I know, let’s call them women. We can then call all the people who can’t get PCOS non-women. Shocker that means there are just two sexes women and non-women.

I used to have PCOS pre menopause - It is not a DSD.

loislovesstewie · 24/06/2023 08:47

It won't be long before a man tells us that he has PCOS because he's got too much hair and finds it difficult to conceive.

ArabeIIaScott · 24/06/2023 08:51

I'm surprised at how many people think that disorders of sexual development or intersex conditions make a third sex.

I wonder if this misunderstanding has come about by accident? Or is it a result of the 'I' being tacked onto LGBTQIA, and subsequent disinformation campaigns?

nothingcomestonothing · 24/06/2023 08:56

porridgecake · 24/06/2023 00:01

Perhaps they got mixed up with sealions. Easy mistake to make.

Sealions are lions!!

Educate yourself and do better, bigot

Helleofabore · 24/06/2023 08:57

Julioop · 24/06/2023 07:07

You hear “it’s basic biology” as an argument all the time. But we’re incredibly complex, and basic doesn’t cover it at all. There are more intersex people than people with green eyes or red hair. This ranges from things like Turner’s syndrome which is what Jamie Lee Curtis is rumoured to have, to being born with both sets of genitals. They’re even currently exploring the idea that PCOS is under the intersex banner, as it is an overproduction of testosterone in women (and something like 1 in 10 women experience this). And this is all without talking about gender and its cultural significance throughout history, such as the two spirited people within Native American tribes who had both male and female roles and were revered for this.

In terms of the word cis, it would only be used in a context when discussing trans people e.g. cis women and trans women. It’s a Latin prefix that has been used for centuries. Also you can be a cis woman and be a lesbian or bisexual, it is just simply that you identify as the sex you were born as.

On another thread just in the past few days a male person wrote that women were “a constellation of statistically linked elements that together describe something almost intangible and linguistically elusive”

and then added

"I'm an adult human, and I recognise within myself a constellation of data points that I identify as female”.

Do you think that this is something you would agree with to categorise female people?

Because you don’t seem to understand that biology is really very basic and reliable. Even though it is also incredibly complex, the very principles of categorising sex is basic. But hey, maybe this male person’s definition of ‘female’ suits your purpose better.

Hillcrest2022 · 24/06/2023 09:02

SummerLovingg · 23/06/2023 13:42

Some people are born neither male or female.

Very rare outliers. Outliers are outside of the normal categories and normal definition. They don't change the categories or the definition.

nothingcomestonothing · 24/06/2023 09:03

FOJN · 24/06/2023 07:43

I can only assume you either haven't read the thread or you are being intentionally offensive. Posters have pointed out MANY times that the word intersex is outdated and offensive but you persist, why? Are you prioritising gender ideology at the expense of everyone else?

When people say its "basic biology" they are pointing out that there are only two sexes and that DSD's (differences of sex developments) are not evidence to the contrary. Regardless of variations, all people with DSD's are either male or female. The number of people born with ambiguous genitalia is a very small percentage of those with DSD's and advanced testing can easily determine their sex. PCOS is not a DSD. Please do not use internet gossip to speculate about the health of people you do not know, especially for such a deeply personal issue.

I'm not sure why you are referencing "two spirit" people in a paragraph where you are berating the rest of us for having, in your view, an over simplified understanding of biology. You do know sex and gender are different, don't you? Sex is fixed and immutable, there are two, male and female. Gender is socially and culturally constructed and changes over time. The two things are not the same.

Cis assumes a belief in gender ideology, it assumes that I need to tell the world I "identify" as a woman. I won't stop being a woman even if I refuse the prefix cis. Your history lesson on cis is wasted, lots of us already know the background and we reject it. You admit it would only be used to differentiate between women and men which say they are women. We already have words to make that distinction. Do not dare use cis to refer to me, feel free to call yourself what you like.

Thank you for your service in patiently explaining reality, again, for whose who have uncritically swallowed the lies of gender ideologues. As PP have said, I hope at least some lurkers are noting the lack of critical thinking and even basic respect evident from some posters who confidently blaze in to educate us bigots, armed with nothing but crap they have read on twitter

viques · 24/06/2023 09:05

caringcarer · 24/06/2023 02:56

Genius.

Well if nothing else this thread has proved beyond all reasonable doubt that nominative determinism is alive and well. 🙂

Tippingadvice · 24/06/2023 09:11

Matt Walsh uses, what I think is, a good question:
Q: How many legs does a human being have?
A: Two
Q: So are people born with a missing leg not human beings? Are people who lose a leg no longer human beings?

This is just a basic example that not every foetus develops as expected. DSD is a foetus not developing as expected, but it still has a sex of either male or female. A trans person can have surgery but their sex is unchanged.

Tippingadvice · 24/06/2023 09:16

ArabeIIaScott · 24/06/2023 08:51

I'm surprised at how many people think that disorders of sexual development or intersex conditions make a third sex.

I wonder if this misunderstanding has come about by accident? Or is it a result of the 'I' being tacked onto LGBTQIA, and subsequent disinformation campaigns?

It’s not a misunderstanding it’s a deliberate tactic to bolster gender identity theory.

It’s being used to prove a falsehood and sadly people with DSD are not being respected when they ask to be kept out of the trans umbrella, the trans debate etc.

caringcarer · 24/06/2023 09:25

loislovesstewie · 24/06/2023 08:47

It won't be long before a man tells us that he has PCOS because he's got too much hair and finds it difficult to conceive.

Hilarious 😂😂😂

eurochick · 24/06/2023 09:34

This thread illustrates why it is important that not every thread on this topic is swiftly whisked away to the "naughty corner" of the sex and gender board. The ignorance on display is astounding. I hope some of the knowledgable posters have managed to debunk some of the myths and misunderstandings on display.

On Caster, the Court of Arbitration for Sport award has been made public and makes clear the DSD applicable to Caster and its effects.
It is not that long and worth a read for those who are concerned that a "woman with high testosterone levels" has been unfairly treated.

Begsthequestion · 24/06/2023 09:40

Helleofabore · 24/06/2023 08:05

”Julioop”

I suggest that you expand your reading repertoire. Your post reads as if you have consumed all the misinformation from current gender theory and regurgitated it here on this thread. Without even reading the last two pages and the contributions from people with the medical conditions you breezily have politically used to make your point. Plus your points are all based on ideological thinking and seem to only superficially understand what you believe you know.

However.

And this is all without talking about gender and its cultural significance throughout history, such as the two spirited people within Native American tribes who had both male and female roles and were revered for this.

Do YOU understand the cultural significance of the very people you are politically utilising here? Do you understand that there are people from those groups, and many of the other cultural groups also similarly appropriated by activists, that have pointed out those were male people who were homosexual? You have just supported the othering of homosexual males in your statement. Did you mean to do that?

Sources?

Sounds like you are the one denigrating other cultures because they don't fit in with your binary view on gender.

viques · 24/06/2023 09:45

Julioop · 24/06/2023 07:07

You hear “it’s basic biology” as an argument all the time. But we’re incredibly complex, and basic doesn’t cover it at all. There are more intersex people than people with green eyes or red hair. This ranges from things like Turner’s syndrome which is what Jamie Lee Curtis is rumoured to have, to being born with both sets of genitals. They’re even currently exploring the idea that PCOS is under the intersex banner, as it is an overproduction of testosterone in women (and something like 1 in 10 women experience this). And this is all without talking about gender and its cultural significance throughout history, such as the two spirited people within Native American tribes who had both male and female roles and were revered for this.

In terms of the word cis, it would only be used in a context when discussing trans people e.g. cis women and trans women. It’s a Latin prefix that has been used for centuries. Also you can be a cis woman and be a lesbian or bisexual, it is just simply that you identify as the sex you were born as.

But if you are born a woman you don’t need an adjective for confirmation, it is what you are. There are so many appropriate adjectives that women can use to describe themselves, clever, funny, black, mixed race, white, old, young, adult, ,menopausal, fat, skinny, working, pregnant, British, French etc etc etc, all of which add to your knowledge of that woman, your understanding of her.

so cis as an adjective is unnecessary, she is a woman, that’s a given, we all understand that, it’s the other parts of her life , history and heritage that make her a vibrant adult human female being.

and incidentally using the adjective trans in the context trans woman is equally ridiculous, you might as well talk about a feline dog, or a feathered horse, the adjectives have no meaning or relevance to the noun.

if people want to invent a new word and call themselves transwomen then let them, that is one for the language police to figure out, but don’t start adding adjectives to the word my sex uses to describe ourselves and assuming that that makes you one of us.

Helleofabore · 24/06/2023 09:51

Begsthequestion · 24/06/2023 09:40

Sources?

Sounds like you are the one denigrating other cultures because they don't fit in with your binary view on gender.

https://amp.theguardian.com/music/2010/oct/11/two-spirit-people-north-america

https://www.ihs.gov/lgbt/health/twospirit/

Here is somewhere for you to start with. I am sure if you use google you will come up with more.

The second link refers to the very rare population with differences of sex development. So they were othered as well. Sure ‘revered’ sounds nice, but they were in reality ‘othered’.

The 'two-spirit' people of indigenous North Americans | Antony and the Johnsons | The Guardian

<p>This week's guest editor, Antony Hegarty, is a fan of the book The Spirit and the Flesh. He asked its author, Walter L Williams, to write a feature for the Guardian/music on the 'two-spirit' tradition in Native American culture</p>

https://amp.theguardian.com/music/2010/oct/11/two-spirit-people-north-america

CaptainWarbeck · 24/06/2023 09:53

I think previous posters continually use the term intersex because it fits with their view of sex being some kind of spectrum. Using the term DSD with the word 'disorder' in it probably doesn't fit as well into their thought processes.

Wassa123 · 24/06/2023 10:06

Why are people using DSD's to justify their odd reasoning when DSD's are literally based on the fact that there are two sexes.

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 24/06/2023 10:15

Begsthequestion · 24/06/2023 09:40

Sources?

Sounds like you are the one denigrating other cultures because they don't fit in with your binary view on gender.

We don't have a binary view on gender, what we have is a binary knowledge about sex

Deadringer · 24/06/2023 10:20

If anything DSDs prove that there are only two sexes. A man with a DSD might have female looking genitals, but he is still a man. As a man who takes hormones and has his genitals changed to look female, is still a man.

WickedSerious · 24/06/2023 10:31

Wassa123 · 24/06/2023 10:06

Why are people using DSD's to justify their odd reasoning when DSD's are literally based on the fact that there are two sexes.

Damn those pesky facts,they ruin everything.

thebloodycatwontstopmeowing · 24/06/2023 10:36

loislovesstewie · 24/06/2023 08:47

It won't be long before a man tells us that he has PCOS because he's got too much hair and finds it difficult to conceive.

Brilliant 😆😆

thebloodycatwontstopmeowing · 24/06/2023 10:43

loislovesstewie · 24/06/2023 08:47

It won't be long before a man tells us that he has PCOS because he's got too much hair and finds it difficult to conceive.

Reminds me of this article

www.parents.com/pregnancy/everything-pregnancy/transgender-man-gives-birth-to-healthy-baby-talks-navigating/

So woman gives birth 🤣

loislovesstewie · 24/06/2023 10:45

Yes, good old PIV sex makes babies, who knew?

sanluca · 24/06/2023 10:46

Why is cultural appropriation bad, but appropriating two spirit culture to uphold gender ideology, which is white male focused ideology, good?

MoirasSaggyBundles · 24/06/2023 10:48

A friend told me last week that there are middle aged men claiming they are going through "menopause" - no doubt as a result of all the focus during the last couple of year on the effect of menopause on women in the workplace. Women can't even have the shit stuff to ourselves.

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