To think this lady was rude

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We are at the seaside and I took my DD4 to a little place with pond and ducks, a few animals like rabbits and goats and a cafe so I presumed kid friendly but I felt we were not welcome. My Dd wanted an ice cream so asked for which one she wanted and said please and as the lady was making it she said ‘I want my chocolate ice cream please’ and the lady almost shouted saying ‘I’m making it CHILD’ but not in a jokey way and then she grimaced at us. I asked which way the animals were as it didn’t say and she was very snappy

She was rude. I work with kids, you can't take offence to what they say. You did the correct thing as a parent.

I know people working in childcare are often the least capable of doing so unfortunately.

I would've told my DD 'yes, the lady knows and she's making it.' If she doesn't know how to wait, you have to be the buffer between her and the world.

@BlinkeredBay that wasn't performance parenting, it was teaching basic behaviour and boundaries and that bad behaviour has consequences. A shame it's gone out of fashion. According, particularly, to dd who is in her second year of teaching, and frequently says "my pupils (yrs 7 to 16) would have far fewer problems if they had better parenting". She's only 25 but seeing the consequences of entitlement, lack of respect and non existent boundaries.

@WeeWillyWinkie9 mum i not a manager, mum is the parent. The poor kid was jst being child ffs
I think you mustve been the rude icecream lady.

Sorry but making a small child write a card saying sorru, when in reality they could not give a shiny shit is performance parenting and frankly ridiculous.

But they could give a shiny shit. They were brought up to give shiny shirts about the feelings of others. It's basic human socialisation. They missed their post shopping trip to the park and had to go shopping again the following day.

How is teaching right from wrong performance parenting?

Silly sorry cards..other stuff fine and normal parenting!

if I’d have been the assistant I would’ve rolled my eyes so much!!

Well they weren’t very well behaved that day were they!! Why not? What made them so terribly behaved that day?

Oh the problem is with ME, is it? If an adult had tried to rush the ice cream woman like that then she would also have been stern with the adult I have no doubt.

I don't object to them being in the same space, but I do object to rudeness.

@BlinkeredBay well you weren't the assistant and actually they were very pleased and touched.

No he wasn't at all well behaved on that day. And he didn't behave like it again.

Well, I don't, no. But as I said, if I wanted to tell a child off, then I'd probably use the word "kid" and not the word "child". And yes, it would be "rude". That's why I said "wanted to be abrupt".

Perhaps you could calm down and read people's words (not only on this thread- you seem to be scattergunning aggression all over MN the last few days, you seem very angry) instead of mouthing off at everyone. You might enjoy MN more.

No the mother corrected her DD.

Your use of the term “it” referring to a child, is the name of a book about the cruel abuse of a child.

What makes you refer to a child as it? You know she’s a girl?

When you’re appointed MN police please come back and address me!

I’ll now AS and see what I can find ….?

Feel free. This name is in use since last weekend when a load of us old timers were talking about how nice MN used to be.
I use another 3 for various types of thread. 👀
But I don't tend to appoint myself as spokesperson for any OPs.

Oh when MN was nice 😂! Those days!

So you had ordered the ice cream, lady was making it and your gangster asked again. You know she took it as your dd being rude and trying to rush her

Been around a long time various accounts closed, I think you’re looking through rose tinted glasses.

OP, the woman was rude, you had it all under control.

I agree that the daughter should have waited and been patient, but gangster is a bit much 😉

I have always quite envied people with assertive confident little kids like this. Mine were quiet little mice who wouldn’t stick up for themselves ever.

If u are getting that upset about someone dissing ( in your eyes) your child, maybe you need to de-stress a little.
It's too hot for a start. You should have told your DD to be a little patient and smiled at the grumpy lady. I know she is only four but no doubt she is starting school soon and needs to understand how demanding she might sound to others. What happens when she asks for lunch for example.?

Don't little mini dramas become big ones or it will eventually become the norm and everyone will begin to piss you off 😁

Is this the first time you’ve ever met a slightly grumpy person?

Yes she was rude. Might have been better if you’d interrupted DD and said”Remember your manners, DD! The nice lady is getting it for you”
But, these things happen sometimes so just move on.

She was rude

Four year olds can say things like that sometimes. They don't understand. They have no filter

Dont go back. Hospitality survives on repeat custom (unless heavy tourist area) and she was
Foolish to snap at a pre schooler

Why are you wasting your life asking peoples opinion on this non event? What is knowing the opinion of others going to do? Are you going to go back to the park and say something? Literally, what is the point?!