To think this lady was rude

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We are at the seaside and I took my DD4 to a little place with pond and ducks, a few animals like rabbits and goats and a cafe so I presumed kid friendly but I felt we were not welcome. My Dd wanted an ice cream so asked for which one she wanted and said please and as the lady was making it she said ‘I want my chocolate ice cream please’ and the lady almost shouted saying ‘I’m making it CHILD’ but not in a jokey way and then she grimaced at us. I asked which way the animals were as it didn’t say and she was very snappy

Kids wants an ice cream, says she wants an ice cream - you NTs baffle me!

The woman was a complete arsehole.

Glad for all the people on here who have immaculately behaved 4 year olds at all times. Fuck me.

Your child is only 4 so it wouldn't bother me at all if she said this. She was probably just excited to be getting her ice cream. The woman should have understood this. Don't give it another thought.

OP I'd let it go in this instance but you could also use it as a learning opportunity for your DD that she must have patience - when she orders things she has to wait a few minutes for them to make it for her and it's rude to ask again for the item immediately after ordering. So in future when she orders an item you can immediately remind her "Now we wait while the lady makes it" so she doesn't ask again.

I work in a supermarket and sometimes parents will let their children do the paying and then they have zero patience to wait the few seconds while I get their receipt so I have had to try and politely correct them with a gentle "Hold your horses, the machine just needs a second to print, then you can have it/Just a minute, I'm getting it for you now" type of comment and I try to be as nice as possible whilst trying to highlight that they have to wait.

However, on occasion I will admit I have been at the end of my patience/having a bad day/been listening to the same child being rude or demanding before they even got to my till and have snapped at the demanding child "I'm doing it now, just wait please!" in a less than polite tone. I'm not proud of it but sometimes your mouth reacts before your brain and you come out with something that you immediately think "I should have worded that better" or "That was not the right tone to use there" but it's too late at that point as it's already been said.

She'd already asked for it and then given that it takes maybe 2/3 minutes to get it together, really quickly asked again. That's really, really fucking annoying. Nothing to do with being NT

What put me off getting ice creams in a cone is when someone said ''The ice cream man's hands have probably been scratching his sweaty balls.''

A cardboard tub is probably a safer option.
I used to love eating the cone, but no longer.

Your child was rude and you didn’t correct her.

Do you seriously hold a 4 year old little child accountable? This is just too much. You’re weird.

Your DD was impatient but aren't all four year olds. The way the lady dealt with it was rude.

Something tells me you’re not a pleasant individual. Imagine calling a little 4yo rude. That’s not normal.

Yes if my dd had said that, I would have gently answered that I can see how much you would like your ice cream but we need to be super patient whilst it is being made.

I would not allow my child to start demanding I want ice cream when the lady was already making it! How is a child supposed to learn any form of social etiquette unless we point it out? Honestly I think your post speaks volumes, manners are important and it’s best to start early.

If an adult went to the till and said, "I want" they'd just be served, so why is it ok to be a dick just because a child said, "I want"?

My child has grace and manners but you don’t. You put down a little 4yo child and you’re claiming you have manners??? Time to look in the mirror.

Imagine how much better your life would be if you didn’t hold a 4 year old to the same standards as a grown woman who choose to work in the service industry 🤣

Depending on the check out person, not necessarily, people are less likely to put up with rude adults than they are children

Don’t be ridiculous 😂
The child was rude, but she is 4 so she doesn’t know any better, it is the parent’s job to show children how to be polite.

Hardly rocket science.

You should have told the servant “my DD always has what she wants when she wants it. “
There comes a time when servants need to be put in their place.
😉😁😁😁

This thread is making me laugh 😆 am I the only one 🤣

It's the I want she was probably annoyed at. Please could I or can I have chocolate sounds better than I want. It sounds a bit winy like when you hear a child saying I want this I want that.

So the parent is at fault in this scenario, if she had spoken to the child the icecream lady wouldn’t have needed to say anything.

Some children can sound like brats, Veronica types.

https://charlieandthechocolatefactoryfilm.fandom.com/wiki/Veruca_Salt

Veruca Salt springs to my mind!! And you know what happened to her 😂

I know - anyone that doesn’t like “rude” 4 year olds should think about exactly how children are supposed to learn good manners and consider that maybe rude adults are part of the problem.

“I want” is the problem. It sounds awful.

Agreed, if she had said may I or please can I it would have made all the difference.

Absolutely! There was a thread about a 16 year old boy over 6ft throwing something at his Mum and everyone was saying 'he's still a child, it was just an over reaction'.

But here a 4 year old girl is in the wrong over an adult!

What is wrong with people.

The woman was out of order. The 4 year old had more manners asking politely.