Of course YABU. Trying to babytrap a man is a terrible idea. It happens a lot more than people think - or will admit though. You get the 'ooh a man should wear a condom if he doesn't want a baby' type comments so the woman cannot possibly be blamed. But if she is on the pill, and he thinks she is on it, and is taking it properly, then he has no reason to use a condom! This is one of the most stupid comments I hear on here.
I know this won't go down well on here, but basically, it's the woman who is always left with the baby, so she needs to be the responsible one and make sure she has her birth control covered, and in place. Yep that's what I said. Cannot trust a man to do it. He doesn't care. He's not going to be stuck with the baby is he? It's always the woman. Don't act all faux shocked and horrified when you fall pregnant when you KNOW you skipped some pills/stopped taking it, and the man leaves, because he didn't want a baby, and he let you KNOW he didn't want one.
I know 4 women RIGHT NOW who have done this @Definitelynotagoodidea and with all but one of them, it did NOT work out. The man left. With 3 of them, they had been with the man for 2-4 months and were all in their early 30s, and 'accidentally' fell pregnant. Shockingly the man did not stay. All 3 men left.
Each one of these 3 women is now struggling alone with a 1 to 2 year old, paying soaring nursery costs herself, having to cut her hours at work, or having to pay childminder fees. Also doing all the night feeds and night waking. No help from the 'dad' at all. 2 of them don't even know where he is.
2 of the women constantly post stuff on facebook about dads who fuck off and leave their children, and leave the mother to cope alone. Whilst I think this is a shitty thing for man to do, in the cases of these 3 women it's farcical. I have had food in my fridge longer than they had been with these men. They were barely even relationships. They didn't live together, they had met about 10 to 12 times, and the women pretty much admitted they wanted a baby for a year or more before 'accidentally' falling pregnant by some rando they met in a bar/online and dated for a few weeks!
Woman No 4 is still with her man btw (married 3 years together 7.) He wasn't ready for a baby and was fuming when she said she was pregnant - both 33. But the baby is 15 months old now and he adores her. So yeah it CAN work out, but it's more likely NOT to. Woman No 4 had been with her man for 7 years, married to him, got a home together, decent income etc, so that's possibly why he warmed to the idea in the end.
Doesn't mean every man in that situation will though! Several years ago I knew a woman who 'accidentally' fell pregnant whilst married (had been married 7 years, together 10, both 34 y.o.) He left when the baby was 3 months old. Said he never wanted children, and stuck with it. He was furious from the minute she said she was pregnant, and ended up fucking off and leaving her with the baby. She also deliberately babytrapped him. Told everyone she did had done this! (Come off the pill and not told him.) He found all this out when the baby was 3 months old, and that's when he left her.