To still be seething she made a cake

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We threw a small party a few weeks ago for DS's birthday. My mother had offered to make a cake. This was very kind of her, however it's our child's birthday and we really wanted to provide the cake. Explained this to her and asked if she could make something else instead.

Skip to party day, she turns up with the 'something else' AND a cake! Ultimately the centre piece of a birthday party.

AIBU to still be quietly raging about this?

Yes - get over it, she was just trying to be nice and it's only a cake

No - she didn't listen to you, didn't care what you wanted and tried to take over a little bit

I don't think that's a fair comment. So anyone who still has a mum has absolutely no right to ever be annoyed?
Op I would be a bit miffed at this but depends on intent as much as anything

I have spent 60 years being undermined by my overbearing mother. Asking her to not do something pretty much guaranteed that she would not only do it, but would present the faît accomplis in company, and in such a way that to not be accepting in a socially conventional manner would have appeared churlish. She knows this. I can still be annoyed at things she did 25 years ago. YANBU