Please tell me some joys of living alone

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My marriage has come to an end after my husband has been having an affair and I’ve finally plucked up the courage to leave and get my own place.
please try and cheer me up by telling me some things you love about living alone 😞

all the replies are giving me some hope that I can feel happy again 💜

@MrsDanversGlidesAgain seconded!

OP, you've got this. You'll probably feel wobbly a couple of times in the early stages, but it does get better. I very much enjoy living alone (although my son is back from uni right now), and the freedom is wonderful.

No consultation or consideration of anyone else 👏 Freeeeeeedom

Total sofa ownership is pretty good also, no fitting around bloke.

Flip the question...what was so good about living with him? Did he buy you treats? Run you a bath? Make your favourite dinner? Do anything you cant do yourself and enjoy knowing you dont have to consider him?

I'm not in your situation but I feel for you. I think you made the right decision to go your own way, so now follow that path! Take your time to rearrange your life, find some new occupations and make new friends. Don't force anything. You'll ne fine 😘

You don't have to live with unbearable emotional weight of an argument on the horizon, or feeling lonely despite someone being there, or nagging, or being disrespected. Just pure calm.

You don't have to share a bed when your married either?

OP, I have two major puzzlements in life; the first is why people take so long in public loos (what are they doing??)
The second is why on earth any woman of maturity would taste the sweet, sweet manna of living alone, and then go and fark their utopian existence right up by moving a bloke back into it!
Date, if and when you’re ready, but the sad truth is that cohabiting doesn’t seem to bring out the best in men, and generally, isn’t a great deal for women.
As I’ve said before on a similar thread, climbing into bed without someone’s angry inch boring into your back is a gift that just keeps on giving. Being able to bend over or remove a jumper without a (selfish) sex klaxon going off is another.

No problem living alone. You can eat healthy food without anyone moaning or having to make 2 separate meals, you can drink 2 glasses of wine without anyone tutting. You have control over the TV. No one cares if the dog gets in the bed, no one leaves dirty clothes on the floor and expects you to pick them up and wash them. No dirty shower or toilet when you want to use them and usually have to clean them first. You can go to bed on a sunday afternoon with the radio and a glass of champagne and no one complains. Need I go on?

Op it's going to feel rubbish at first as it's a big change but I honestly think living alone might be the best thing that's ever happened to me.

I can listen to cheesy music without feeling judged. If I don't want to cook or clean I just don't. I have made some really bold decorating choices that no way would my ex have been happy about. I can take a bath every day without snarky comments. There is total peace and I know that no-one is going to come in, in a mood, and burst my bubble. I don't feel lonely because in retrospect I wasn't being given much anyway. I also seem to have made way more friends and have a better social life / more fun as I don't feel obliged to be at home.

Everything!!!! Watch what you want. Eat what you want. Go out when you like. Stay out. Your holiday choices. Sing badly, dance around, leave the washing up for a night. You're free xxx

You don't have to love it straight away. I didn't, I hated it. And somewhere over the last few years it became the most perfect way of life that I will never ever change even though I'm madly in love.

It will be hard at first but you can do it. Believe in yourself. You are stronger and more capable than you ever believed.

My EXH didn't think it was ladylike for women to fart so I spent a lot of time holding it in. I now trump around the house laughing. My digestive system is soo much calmer but the neighbours are slighty alarmed😁

No, but the majority of people do.
Plus the op was looking for positives, that’s one of mine 🤷‍♀️

God I love this thread.
OP same happened to me. Love lovelove living alone. Immediately I filled his wardrobe space.
Deleting his items off sky planner was very cathartic
I love
Peace after a busy day at work
No expectation that my lazy ex for once would unload the dishwasher or tidy up
Not living with someone else's moods
Peace and calm
Happiness sat on sofa by myself with control over remote
No skids in toilet
No empty loo rolls left on floor
Noise when you want/quiet when you want

Would never cohabit again.
Seeing a lovely man now but No way would I live with him

Sleeping diagonally on clean sheets. Reading in bed til the early hours. Starting a healthy eating regime and having full control of what food comes in and out of the house so you never slip up. Cleaning and everything staying perfect. No sport on TV. Creating a beautiful-smelling sanctuary with candles and listening to your favourite music. Inviting friends round for fun evenings. Food shopping for yourself knowing that all the little treats are just for you.

According to research, single women report higher levels of happiness than married women. They also live longer. Men are ten times more likely to leave when their partner contracts a chronic illness. Make of this what you will.

Autonomy. You can have things just as you want them, cook the meals you like/want, peace and quiet, stress free home.

When you're engrossed in a really good book, you can read it all night long without anyone moaning about the light being on.

No-one moans if you want to stay in bed all day and read, either and there's no-one to interrupt you or moan about the fact that you've always got your head in a book and are being anti-social.