Please tell me some joys of living alone

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My marriage has come to an end after my husband has been having an affair and I’ve finally plucked up the courage to leave and get my own place.
please try and cheer me up by telling me some things you love about living alone 😞

In my case all those hours of sport on tv will be a thing of the past.

Was scrolling through to see if anyone mentioned no more sport. Win. And that's before all the other things people have mentioned.

lol

love how specific this one is.

Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t take to it straight away.

It took me several years to fully embrace living alone after my marriage ended.

If it isn’t for you at first - don’t feel hopeless. MN is here if you need some support.

I don't live alone, but can think of loads:

• sleeping alone
• not having to tidy up after anyone other myself. And not having to tidy at all if I don't fancy.
• Not having to cook meals unless I feel like cooking.
• Making all decisions - budget, decorating, etc on my own
• Quiet
• Not having to take anyone else's feelings or plans into account

Basically full autonomy to do what you want when you want.

you will have been trodden down, and emotionally through the mill, so don’t expect this bed of roses initially. It can feel really hard at first as you build your self confidence again and just get over the pressure cooker of stress you have been living in but I hope these posts reassure you that a brighter, more relaxed future is ahead x x

Wis words there, OP. You'll have wobbles, and you'll feel lonely, and you'll wonder if you did the right thing. The thing is now you have time - time to recover, time to reflect and time to heal without anyone else breathing down you neck (metaphorically speaking) when you get home. Your time is yours and yours alone to decide what to do with.

Been living alone for years after exactly the same situation. It's bloody brilliant amd I'm never living with anyone again.

*WISE words. Why do I always see the typo after posting??

liberation, autonomy, privacy, independence full agency, bliss

1. You wake up everyday and you don’t have to see them, or interact with them.
2. Everything you couldn’t do be before, you can now do.
3. All the things you had to do before (keep the peace etc), you never have to do again.

Yeah I lived sometimes on toast and picky food. He is housing me for free whilst my new house is being built. My contribution was to buy food and cook for him. I thought I was a meal planner. Not so much

Everything. You don't have to put up with other people's moods and mess. You can be in a bad mood if you want and make a mess if you want. You can paint the ceilings fuchsia pink if you like . . . my kitchen's designed how I wanted it. All my friends think it's weird (why's there no draining board? you keep your paper towel holder up THERE? orchids on a KITCHEN windowsill??). I've got a library downstairs in the sitting room and my telly in the spare bedroom.

It's bliss.

Lovely thread.

The satisfaction of knowing that whatever you do - YOU DID IT.

I’ve been a member of MN for over 10 years and this is the best thread EVER!!!!

My mum and dad divorced over 25 years ago and neither of them have ever lived with anyone else since.

My mum has been with her partner for about 12 years and about 4 years ago, because my mum was so adamant that she couldn’t live with anyone again, they decided together that he should buy the house next door to my mum……so that’s what he did 😂

My mum is delighted as it’s the closest thing she can get to living with him without actually having to live with him 😂

My sister split up with the father of her children about 9 years ago and she had lived on her own (with the children) ever since. However, her current partner moved in with her about theee months ago and she HATES it 😂 They’ve been together for about two years and she’s considering asking him to move out again 😂

I was terrified of living alone after a 25 year relationship.
Now I couldn’t imagine ever living with a man again - I love my peace, space and being able to do exactly as I choose.

It does take a bit of getting used to OP bit honestly once you get there, you will embrace it x

Ooh it’s fantastic. No sweaty ball sac on your nice sheets and no skid marks in the toilet!

Calm, peaceful atmosphere. Make my own decisions in my own time. No annoying crap lying about that he just 'didn't see.' Things stay nice and tidy. DC are more chilled. If I want to paint or buy new cushions or whatever I don't need to think about anyone else's choices or opinions. Once I've cleaned something it stays clean. I don't know why I ever wanted to live with a bloke actually

Where to start. You lucky lady.

One of my biggest regrets is my boyfriend moving in, I'd lived alone happily for over 10 years and I don't think I realised how much I needed my own space or not having to look at someone else shit all over my house.

It will be a bit weird to start but you'll end up loving it.

There's a great line in Queen Charlotte (the new Bridgerton)

The newly widowed Lady Danbury turns down a very eligible potential husband because she wants to 'breath her own air'.

I live with my husband and kids, but I think about that a lot.

No snoring and a full 7 or 8 hours sleep every night

How could I forget this. I looked and felt better.

When I was really feeling down, I reverted to student days. I realised I was eating beans direct from the tin.
I have improved since then: honest I have!😎

I loooooove being able to decorate to my taste. Change the cushions if l choose. Put a big picture on a plain wall, and remove it if i change my mind. Order pretty bedding. And plan bedding. For change of mood days.

Eat what and when i choose. Lose weight and not have to cook for a big eater. Get a pet.

Have my mum over without worrying she will move "his" stuff cos she cant help tidying up.
Read in bed with the lamp on at 3 am. Have the bedroom window open. Or shut. Shop when I feel like it. Or not.. live on leftovers and bits.

Oh its fab !

THIS

I was wondering where no. 12 was going 😂

Walking around the house naked, coming home from work to everything the way you left it,not having to explain where you're going or when you'll be back,doing what you want when you want to do it

Not cooking but eating pizza in bed 😊

Some of these are making me quite envious, although I do love my DH and enjoy our life together too!