Please tell me some joys of living alone

[Pineappletart7]

My marriage has come to an end after my husband has been having an affair and I’ve finally plucked up the courage to leave and get my own place.
please try and cheer me up by telling me some things you love about living alone 😞

You can go out without having to answer questions about what time you get back or what you did.

No stupid man TV like constant football, your house and things stay tidy. No horrible farts, skiddies in the toilet, piles of rubbish by the sink, dirty clothes or towels everywhere. No ILs coming round ever again!!
No sleeping on the sofa when they snore, no guilt trips, no compromising what you want to watch/eat/listen to, what time you go to bed, what time you wake up.
No living under someone else rules!

(Can you tell I want to live alone again? 😅)

I hope you are ok OP, and after the shocks fades that you enjoy this new time in your life x

You can order yourself a treat from Ann Summers and enjoy yourself whenever you like!

😳😳😳🤣

My lovely big comfy bed.

No match of the day. Ever.

My environment is always clean and peaceful.

I get all of the wardrobe space.

No snoring and a full 7 or 8 hours sleep every night.

If something breaks or needs changing I get it sorted immediately, instead of waiting literally years for someone else to do it while being prevented from getting someone in.

I could go on and on and on…….

You’ll be fine OP. Just sit back and watch your wellbeing rocket ❤️

It's pure BLISS!! Enjoy!

I come home whenever I want and I leave whenever I want. I don't need to worry about waking anyone up. I don't need to make sure what I pick on the TV is something the other person wants to watch - I watch what I like. I play whatever music I like. It's only my car outside. I have the whole bed to myself. I can put the heating to whatever I like, put the fan on if I wanted, open a window or close a window without checking with anyone else. I can go to bed whenever I like. The house can be as messy or as tidy as I want- if I can't be bothered to wash something up that night, I don't have to, versus there is not another person adding to your washing up or messing your place up.
Shower whenever I like. Long bath whenever I like. I can make a big dinner or I can eat chocolate for dinner whenever I like. I don't have to follow anyone else's routines. Save money by not buying things for another- only buying purely what I want. I can be as noisy or as quiet as I like - I'm not bothering anyone and no one is bothering me.
I absolutely love living alone.

Living alone is fabulous,

Can so what I want, when I want, if I want....

Same with travelling solo.

Go for it! Life is an adventure! You only get one.

Oh yes I forgot to add that my house is decorated exactly as I want it (plants! Art I like! Lots of pink!)
And I just watched 4 episodes in a row of Love Island on catch up with no one to comment or judge me or for me to feel like I ought to let them pick!

Getting into a lovely clean bed that you don’t have to share is utter bliss. As is waking up naturally instead of due to a noisy man.

Sounds like a cliche but now you can start to love yourself again. An affair can put a dent in your self esteem and, free from his implied criticism, you will start to see just how amazing you are.

Sleeping alone in a lovely big clean bed.
OP most of us treat ourselves to fresh new bed linen on becoming single, it's so important to experience that "aah" moment as you sink into your calm bed.

An unexpected thing that gives me huge pleasure is getting my own luggage off the carousel at the airport rather than being made to wait behind.

It's astonishing how much the food bill goes down.

Dancing naked around the house with no inhibitions or judgement.

The peace and quiet - it can seem deafening at first but that passes and it becomes something to be relished.

Getting as many pets as you want with nobody to veto. (I got 3 kittens to add to the dog and the pony I already had 🤣🤣)

The clean bed thing is a good one.

When you go to work the house is exactly how you left it. Things are where you put them. No one else's moods to pick up on. Your own schedule can do what you want when you want and don't have to ask anyone's opinion on anything.

I’m not going to lie, sometimes I get a bit sad and lonely being single.
But!
I am forever grateful I don’t have to have sex.
That alone makes it all worth it.
Someone forcing ne to have sex with them / whining about it / angry about it / wouldn’t ’love’ me if I don’t do it…
Nothing makes me happier than bodily autonomy.
For that alone, I’d happily stay single for the rest of my life!

You can be your own boss and spend your earnings how you please. No controlling comments. Personally I find men very negative creatures that lack vision. There is nobody to drain you of your vitality. They are also much more prone to addictions so it is great not being surrounded by booze/cannabis on a regular basis.

For as long as you can afford it and have a few fellow independent women friends living alone can be the best thing since sliced bread! It is a wonder more people do not realise this it really is!

If you struggle with diy you can find a reliable handyman on Spotted on facebook. E.g. Spotted Woking Spotted Norwich. You just need to search where you live that is all. Affordable too. Can recommend.

Everything.

In your home, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, and are never beholden or at the behest of anyone else.

No demands for sex and sulking or worse if you don’t comply.

No damp patch on the sheets.

No piss on the toilet seat or floor, or toilet seat left up.

No mansplaining and manspreading on the couch.

No looking after a manchild who never reciprocates.

Freedom to go where you want, when you want (allowing for work), dress and eat as you want, listen to and watch what you want, socialise when and if you want, get a pet if you want and circumstances permit.

Gosh where do I start!! Bliss of being all alone. Do what you want, eat what you want when you want, watch what you want, fart all the time, talk to yourself, don't need to clean. Pure freedom. I would love this!! Can you tell I'm excited in your behalf! 😆 I'm sure it will be an adjustment OP, but you will be fine and probably enjoy it sooner than you expect

I’m loving this thread, even though I’m married. I was single for a while and the comments on here are making me feel nostalgic. 😂

One of the very best bits I liked about being single was going on holiday. I couldn’t face going completely on my own, so I went with Friendship Travel. The company doesn’t attract singles looking for hooking up. I had five holidays with them and they were fabulous. It’s your holiday, you completely please yourself what you do, it’s extremely liberating. If you want a bit of company there are other singles around but you don’t owe anybody anything. Bliss.

Reading these comments I’m amazed anyone would want to get married/live with someone!

I understand that this thread is very cherry picking, but yeah, I do wonder why anyone would bother.

I think single woman households are dramatically on the rise, so the word is getting out.

No compromising on dinner choice. Sleeping in the middle of a bed in an eggshell blue room with the most gorgeous deep pink bedding and fluffy throws. Scented candles. Reading my book with classical music of my choice on instead of shit TV. Having every room the temperature I want. Never having to pick up someone else's dirty laundry or wipe their pee off the seat. Leaving tidying the kitchen to tomorrow if I want... it's just my mess! LOVE it!

You can eat pickled onions in bed without someone moaning that it sounds like they're in bed with a horse.