To ask him to stay at his parents for the week?

[ErinAndTonic]

I'm not sure who is being unreasonable here.. happy to be corrected if I am, this has caused some contention in the house this morning 😅

Partner has come down with a stinking cold. Probably self inflicted for buggering off camping this weekend, while I stayed home cleaning like a good little house maid as usual. (So yes a little resentment there haha)

Anyway, he's come down with a stinking could and is spluttering everywhere, sneezing, a giant hot mess. I am going to be the maid of honour at my best friends wedding in like 4-5 days time. My immune system is also rather crap. I can't be in a wedding party with eyes streaming and good knows what else.. or even worse pass it to the bride! I've got a speech to do, I'm walking down the aisle first etc so I can notttt get ill this week and have done so much for this wedding!

His parents live around the corner. They aren't vulnerable or particularly old. They're healthy, his mum enjoys fussing over him anyway so he'd get treated like a prince! Am I unreasonable to ask him to go there for a few days so I don't catch this and mess up everything at the wedding?

It's going to be harder for me to relocate, I have a very important work presentation to do this week with external clients (wfh) and need a desk with 2 screens and any options I have wouldn't have a proper work space, or probably much peace and quiet. Bride has said I can stay with her but then I will struggle to concentrate from a work perspective, it's also miles away so I'll need to be travelling back every other day for personal training sessions, visiting a sick relative etc. so it's just not as practical.

My partner is still working (also from home) so it's not like he's super poorly and unable to just push through. His response was he doesn't want to make people ill by going there. If it was any other week I wouldn't be asking, but in this circumstance am I being unreasonable? He doesn't seem worried if I get ill and then the bride & co do when I stay there the night before the wedding. But doesn't want his parents to catch it when they're both fit and healthy and have nothing happening this weekend.

AIBU or is he?

You were foolish to tell her your husband was sick IMO. I understand why you care but she could get sick from going anywhere and now you've just made yourself an easy target. You and her both sound a bit bridezilla with your attitudes towards a sick person!

Also love that you turned off voting because it was quite obvious you were being unreasonable 😂

This isn't about me so clearly you've not RTFT. I couldn't care less about me, I don't want to cause issues for other people.

What? What are you talking about? I never had any voting and don't even know what that is/how it works.

The level of assumption on this thread is just ridiculous.

Good idea. When everyone else in the house had Covid I slept on the sofa and washed in the downstairs toilet for 10 days and didn't get it. I also made all the meals in the kitchen and delivered them to everyone else. It can work.

If you're with him now then I wouldn't bother, he's likely already given you all the germs he going to. You sure it's not hay fever, pollen count is very high at the moment and he's been camping presumably near all sorts of green stuff.

You could try living separately in the same house for a few days? Take turns sleeping on the couch. Be carefull not to use each other's glass or cutlery. That and wiping doorhandles and light switches with a disinfectant. Come on girl, how did you manage during covid???

I managed by saying 'fuck it' and we got it together. Hence why I've said in this particular situation.. not how can I be a massive drama Queen and have overreact as not to get my partners cold.

If I didn't have the whole wedding issue to worry about there would be no reaction.. he would be sleeping next to me and id be expecting it to come my way in a few days most likely!

The whole wedding issue? It's not your wedding

Maybe you both could mask up & keep your distance from one another, and use fastidious hygiene practices.

Right? I have never seen someone that was so invested in someone else's wedding, (aside from immediate family of course). It's just a wedding. It wouldn't fall apart without OP, they would manage. I am betting that the bride is a bridezilla though. Yuck.

@ErinAndTonic I don't think you're being unreasonable at all - I totally get your dilemma. He should stop being a twat & just go to his mum's for a couple of days. Sorted. 🤷‍♀️

@WetBandits exactly. We all went through covid, no? My son, dil and GC lived here for two months because of works on their house, they all 3 got it. I took the right measures and DP and I didn't get it. Still, I wiped and cleaned all the time ánd cooked for everyone. Anyway, the OP could wear a mask, no?

Ha I don’t think the request is particularly unreasonable it wouldnt kill him to go to his parents. As other people have said though probably a bit late now! but you did say in the op that you were happy to be corrected yet you are extremely defensive towards everyone who has suggested you are not in the right!
also you say the bride is your main concern however speak about how you look in photos at the top table 🤷🏼‍♀️

How the fuck is he being a twat???

It's his house and he's sick, I wouldn't want to be going anywhere in his position! Laughable attitude throughout from
OP 😂

You won’t be making her sick for her own wedding day. She won’t become symptomatic on the day IF you catch it. She will be fine and have a wonderful day whether you have a cold or not.

If you’re that concerned you stay with his parents.

Possibly.But she must be 20 pr 30 years old than you and your DH

We have a winner!!
Well said!

I'd sleep separately. Anti bac surfaces/handles etc. ask him to sneeze into tissues and dispose of them. Take echinacea and a good multivitamin plus Vit c and zinc. If you start to get signs Vicks first defence is good