AIBU to show this to the teacher?

[thirdistheonewiththehairychest]

My daughter was in hospital having an operation the week before half term and her teacher asked a supply teacher to organise the class to make her a card which was very kind.

However I had to remove one of the kids contributions from the front of the card as it wasn't very nice. They had attempted to write in a secret code but it's pretty clear what it says... "You better f*ing be better you b**ch"

I don't know this girl at all, my daughter never mentions her. I think it was probably a misguided attempt at humour but was obviously really inappropriate.

Should I show it to their teacher so she can deal with it? Or should I just leave it and put it down to childish silliness?

Sorry, don't know why the pic is upside down!

I'd leave it personally. What does your dd want you to do?

What age group?

Or did you remove it before showing your dd and she doesn't know about it?

How old are they?

are they primary aged children?
yes I would mention it. It would ar the very least prompt the teaching staff to check these kinds of things before sending them out in future!

How old are they?

If at secondary it may be an in joke between the girl and DD. If you removed it I assume you haven't address this with DD

If younger I would mention it to the teacher.

I’d mention it in a casual “just thought I’d make you aware” tone definitely not go in all guns blazing or complaining

How old? My early teen niece and her friends would put things like this to each other, like an in -joke. Primary age - I'd show the teacher or mention it.

I think the teacher should know, but I wouldn't make a big deal about it. It looks like a friend trying to be funny to me rather than a malicious comment. Do you know if your DD and this student are friends?

Nice balloons!

They're in Y5. I took it off before giving it to DD but I think she later saw it as I found it on the floor in her room.

Have you asked your DD about it? I'd just say "x wrote something odd. Those words are quite rude, is she usually a friend of yours"

I would . It's a safeguarding issue for the kid who wrote it. Maybe the school is collating evidence about her having an unsafe homelife, after all it's an aggressive thing to put on the front of a card.
Shows the child doesn't understand the difference between abusive words/messages and fun, caring missives to a friend.

Yes secondary school this could be an in joke thing. My DD’s friends often call each other bitch as a term of endearment.

Primary school the language is a bit questionable it still could be a clumsy attempt at a joke though.

Talk to daughter.

Is it an 'in joke' or aimed to upset?

If the first just leave it.

It is absolutely not a safeguarding issue. It is inappropriate and should have been picked up by the teacher, but it is perfectly everyday language for young teen girls. They use it to each other in a jokey way.

They’re year 5, that’s 9 and 10 year olds. I would mention it.

If you cared enough about it to remove it, why did you leave it where she could find it? Surely you would destroy it or put it somewhere she couldn’t accidentally happen on it. Looking for drama?

At Y5, yes I would mention it to the teacher.

I’m a teacher. I would definitely want to see this.

What?? Why would I look for drama? I'm the least dramatic person out there.

I put it on a really high shelf where none of the kids can reach and where I thought it would stay until I removed it.

Hope that helps.

I kept it because I was unsure whether to show it to the teacher after the holidays. I'm now asking whether I should do that as I don't want to be inadvertently being 'dramatic'.

Judging by what what written on my DS's year 6 leavers' shirt, I'd say joke. I would have left it and spoke to my child.

Something very strange here.

the drawing is good but the actual writing looks like it’s from a P1 child., except for the language.

Very peculiar.

I would ask my child about it first!