AIBU to show this to the teacher?

[thirdistheonewiththehairychest]

My daughter was in hospital having an operation the week before half term and her teacher asked a supply teacher to organise the class to make her a card which was very kind.

However I had to remove one of the kids contributions from the front of the card as it wasn't very nice. They had attempted to write in a secret code but it's pretty clear what it says... "You better f*ing be better you b**ch"

I don't know this girl at all, my daughter never mentions her. I think it was probably a misguided attempt at humour but was obviously really inappropriate.

Should I show it to their teacher so she can deal with it? Or should I just leave it and put it down to childish silliness?

Shocked by some of these responses. I teach KS2 and find it totally unacceptable. Joke or not, the person who did it would get a punishment as it's completely unacceptable for school. You can't just let these things slide! It's important children know the boundaries.

I’d speak to the teacher. Mainly because a year 5 child should be able to spell you and be.
As for a ‘red flag’ and a safeguarding issue, I do sometimes wonder what kind of world some people live in. Some people would be shocked if they knew what their children do and say at school.

I’d have a chat with my child about it first, my daughter had a couple of girls in her class who I can imagine writing something like that, they were nice kids with no issues but it was their type of humour, I know a few parents who let their primary aged children swear as they don’t view the words differently to any other words in their vocabulary.

I’d mention it.

How the hell did it get past the teacher in the first place?

Terrible handwriting for Y5, but very competent balloon drawing. Odd.

As for a ‘red flag’ and a safeguarding issue, I do sometimes wonder what kind of world some people live in. Some people would be shocked if they knew what their children do and say at school.

Agreed. The comment is unkind, but it's not a red flag or a safeguarding concern.

Show it to the teacher because at that level in primary schools they talk about kind and unkind words.

thos whole thing is about showing it to the teacher? how can she show ot to her if she had it destroyed like a dangerous dog?

Umm they can spell - the mixed up letters are the 'code'.
For those who think it's fake because the writing isn't neat enough for Y5 it is neater than my Y8 DS's. Dyspraxia is a thing.

At the end of the day, even if this a
is a joke and not malicious, it is not appropriate for a get well card. ‘Jokes’ can have negative impacts on people and this child needs to learn what is and isn’t appropriate. Tell the school.

I get the feeling it’s meant to be funny.

Having read DDs class group chat - she’s ten - ‘bitch’ is common. I also supervise an activity and they all call each other it and fall about laughing. They’re no strangers to the f-bomb either. Not in writing, sure, but whoever created this has sort of encoded it, possibly the oh so edgy joke is juxtaposition between a lovely card (great balloons) and an offensive message? You see cards like that ‘Happy Birthday You Old C*nt’ etc. Can’t remember the name of the shop but one place specialises in it?

So I don’t think I’d mention to the school unless you get a sense from DD that this girl is targeting or bothering her.

I was questioning why the OP didn’t either destroy it or put it somewhere the child wouldn’t see. OP replied that she put it on a high shelf where the children can’t reach, yet found it on her DC’s floor.

This may well be from someone who has heard an older sister and her friends messing about and calling each other "bitch". However, it wouldn't hurt to let the teacher know so that s/he can discourage the use of that sort of language.

I would mention it to the teacher.

She could well have older siblings who call their friends 'bitch' as a joke. If you look at vines (I'm old) and similar you see people doing that. It isn't appropriate for a get well card and the child needs to know that just because behaviour, like swearing, is perfectly OK in some settings, it can cause huge offence in others. She needs to learn to err on the side of politeness unless she is absolutely sure how the recipient will take it.

That would be because it's year 5.

I'd show teacher

Where does OP say it was a shelf in a hospital room?

Even year 5 age 9-10 it's a bit infantile.

If you have doubts about the OP then you should report, don't troll hunt

I think the handwriting looks perfectly fine for a 10 year old! It was done for a card, not a piece of schoolwork and is written in felt tip. They weren't practising their cursive writing and penmanship!

Kids in year 5 and 6 say some pretty awful stuff. If they are nice kids it's meant as a joke. Listen to your kids when they are playing online. You will be pretty shocked.Sounds like one friend to another saying " You'd better get better".
Ask your child. Are they upset?

I wouldn't be happy about that even from a friend who didn't mean it as an insult.

It surely isn't an appropriate thing to do at school?

I’d show it to the teacher, but in a “wasn’t sure what to do about this or whether to leave it - but just thought you ought to see this…..”. And just show it to her without any explanation your end and see what she says about it.

Quite.
Also the writing is more stilted and less fluent than the drawing as they were trying to work out the code as they went along.

Yeah, I'd show it to the school. Mainly because, malicious or not, it's in appropriate and there's no way it should have got through a teacher check and onto the card.