Partners step dad has a locked room in family home

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They have a spare bedroom which he has a padlocked door on.

They live together partners mum and him and there two children. Age 15 and 12

He works from home drawing up roofs. He didn't go to uni etc and isn't top of his company etc (not to be putting it down) but there's no reason for the lock on the door for this work. He isn't doing really big deals. Just there regular things. People in the office wouldn't have a lock etc. it would all just be out on the tables. My partner works there too so I asked about set up. No one's work is locked away. It's open plan. They have visitors in etc. only certain people do the big jobs even they aren't locked away.

His kids are much too old for going in and messing up his work. And they could easily be told don't go in and touch the work.

I don't like him. Hes very narcissistic and inappropriate and creepy. Especially to younger girls

No one has ever seen in his room. His wife doesn't go in, he spends a lot of time in it. It is very much don't go in or he will be very angry if anyone did or tried to. Not that they could because it's padlocked off.

Am I right in feelings it's off or is it just because he's very narcissistic? I personally would hate it and feel very uncomfortable if it is just for the work I'd want to know the code too. But his wife doesn't and isn't allowed in

Page 3 calendars lining the walls
Hornby train set
Illegal/paedo porn on computer
Full sized AI sex doll
Kink chamber
Gaming set-up
Guns/ammunition (could be perfectly legal but needs to be locked away)
Ego maniac who thinks his space is sacred

@Maireas If it's Kent fire & rescue service they will call in to assess your home for fire risk.

Sounds a bit creepy and dubious.

I have a lock on my bedroom door but only lock it when out of the house travelling because I have all my personal admin in there, don't want people snooping into my private stuff, bank statements etc.

So what would they do?
Force him to unlock the door?

This thread is peak MN

Christ I've read some shite on here over many years but this one is up there with the worst. Stepsons nosey girlfriend with nowt better to do. Some of the responses are, to be frank, stupid.

900 men are arrested every month in England and Wales for watching child abuse material online.

It's not rare sadly.

They can't force anyone to unlock a door but might ask for it to be unlocked if they were doing a risk assessment. Though you'd have to invite them to come and do it in the first place.

No, it's not rare. It's horrific. I genuinely have the utmost admiration for the police dealing with this, the most sick and vile of crimes.
However. Mostly they get caught by other means, not because their door lock was forced.

For all those of you mocking us for saying call the police, where do you think the tip offs of men viewing child sex abuse images come from? It’s not always IP addresses; often it is tip off’s from concerned family and friends asking for a computer to be looked at.

Add the locked room to the creepy towards young girls comment, and it’s seriously worrying.

Do you realise how common child abuse is? How common viewing child sex abuse images is? We’re talking hundreds of thousands of men. Men you know. Men who seem ordinary. Men you work with.

OP, report him.

Right so, you'd get someone from the fire brigade so that the bloke could be encouraged to unlock his door?
You don't think that constitutes a waste of time for overstretched essential services?

Realistic sex doll 100%
Probably a small “teen” one.

What do you think the police can do with “he has a locked room and is a bit creepy” hardly enough for a warrant is it?

And this isn’t a police state, the point of the police isn’t to call them over every minor thing and expect them to keep it all on record.

If there’s something more tangible to his creepiness then that may be something to report.

What? How is that comparable? If the bathroom was locked it would have someone in it. Which means in the event of a fire they could unlock it and come out safely.

With a room that's padlocked shut on the outside, what if a fire started inside and the only person with keys for the padlock were not on the premises? Things could get out of hand very quickly. If there's anything electrical in there at all - and realistically there almost certainly is - then there's an elevated fire risk attached to making the room inaccessible, which is stupid imo.

(And my bathroom doesn't have a lock actually, but since it's not the same thing at all, that's not really relevant.)

This is what I was thinking

it’s very odd in bad way.
Are you sure his wife doesn’t know? Maybe she doesn’t want to say.
i haven’t understood who lives in the house but it doesn’t look like the padlock is necessary.

That was my first thought as well.

Love how the first reaction is to call the police. OP, if he is a narc then the code will probably be his birthday or similar. Have a play with the code for a bit. Or, as previously suggested, take the hasp and staple off the door then fix it back on.
It could be habit at this point. Or totally innocent. When I was a teenager my younger teen sister would always go on my room to watch my telly or borrow clothes or just piss about with my stuff. The easiest and cheapest way for me to lock the door was to put a padlock on it.

Can’t imagine having a room in my house I wasn’t allowed in, let alone a padlocked one. Very odd.

It's a standard service that they offer.

But the real point is to impress upon this idiot that whatever he's doing/keeping in there, he's creating a stupid and unnecessary risk tp the whole household. You don't actually need the fire brigade to make that point, except if he's the pigheaded type who won't be told anything by his own wife/family. Perhaps OP can answer that for us.

???? You honestly think the police have grounds to go in and search a house because there's a padlock on a door?

Nothing is going to come off that police report. A padlocked room in a house won't result in a judge approving a search warrant for indecent images of children.

He probably locks it so you can't get in.

Is it really any of your business?

Because if the emergency is someone keeling over on the toilet or slipping in the shower, people will have to get in won't they? People are more likely to have an accident in the bathroom than a random room catching fire, yet most bathrooms have locks on them. In an emergency, a locked door won't keep people out. If the room catches fire, they'll just break down the door or go through the window.

It doesn't work that way.

The OP hasn't seen him looking at indecent images.

She has no evidence for that.

The police won't look at a computer, just because it's behind a padlocked door.

There needs to be proper intelligence for something like that to have happened so that the police can get a search warrant.