If your abusive parents offered you £70,000 - would you take it?

[Thenamechangey]

You don’t talk to your parents because they were very horribly abusive - physically, mentally and emotionally. You haven’t talked to them for three years because of their behaviour.

They get in touch and offer you £70,000 because they’ve sold a property and want to give you the money.

Would you take it?

Of course I'd take it.

Yes I would.

If I needed it and it would make my life better, I would. It will come with strings attached though

Yes

Take ot and cut them off. I would with mine...

I would, then I'd go right back to being NC with them 🤷‍♀️

Damn right

Yes I think I would, but only if it came with no strings or expectations... I wouldn't take it if they expected a relationship at all.

Yes I’d take it. But I wouldn’t then start contact with them

I'd be really, REALLY suspicious why they were doing it.

Hoping to 'make up' and gain contact with you now they've given you money? Trying to assuage themselves of guilt and responsibility for their actions?

I wouldn't. I have complex PTSD from my childhood and I wouldn't accept any form of contact. Money doesn't mean much to me though.

Yes as long as it didn’t have any legal contract or something behind it.

Not if it was conditional upon re-establishing a relationship with them.

Definitely. I'd open a basic bank account for them to use and close it again as soon as I'd transferred it out, though.

Well if they are abusive, there'd be strings attached

Depends on the strings

My dad is awful. But if he offered me £70k. I’d take it and think of it as payment for all the shit I’ve had to put up with. Not that there’s any chance of that happening. I wouldn’t feel obliged to make more of an effort with our relationship because of it

Imo see it as compensation op. And enjoy every penny..
Also had a shitty childhood so you have my support in accepting it..

Hell yeah! I'd think it's the absolute least they could do for me. Still wouldn't have contact, tho. Go for it, OP.

No if I’d been abused by them and gone NC taking money from them would not be something I would be comfortable with.

I would take it it’s the least I would deserve after what I had to put up with.

I wouldn't, but I wouldn't judge anyone for taking it either.

I'd tell them to stick it up their arses. It's "clear your conscious" money to me.

Yes I’d take it. They wouldn’t get anything in return though. I’d take it and use it to make my life better

Are strings attached?

No, I'd prefer not to. But there's nothing wrong if you do, just make sure there's no strings attached