It’s a Schofield question - don’t click if you’re fed up with it!

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I know there are lots of other threads. I haven’t found anyone asking/thinking what I am.

I watched the interview. The way he softened when mentioning the young man and emphasised several times that he’s the one he’s most concerned about.

Was it just me thinking WHAT ABOUT YOUR WIFE??? When Amol asked why it was wrong/what he regretted, I assumed he’d say “well, mainly I was unfaithful to my wife. That was wrong. Im so sorry about that.”

And when he was asked about other gay experiences/relationships he shut that down. Which left me thinking, again, WHAT ABOUT BEING UNFAITHFUL TO YOUR WIFE!!!

He’s talked about “us four” before and mentioned it again in the interview. But it’s not ok for him to have all the cosiness and support of a family unit when he’s being unfaithful, surely?

So my AIBU is am I the only one who is seeing this mainly through the eyes of his wife who is watching her husbands infidelity playing out in public? Maybe they’re not sexually intimate and haven’t been for years. But they’re clearly emotionally intimate, spend a lot of time together etc. How UTTERLY GRIM if she didn’t know that her husband was shagging young men. (I really don’t think she did know - I believe him when he says he lied to her).

I thought exactly the same thing. No mention of his wife at all until prompted.

Well I think she probably knew all about it, so... Lying to us probably, not lying to her.

I assume his wife knew he was gay and had lovers.

He's a narc. Gives zero fucks about anyone but himself. He's not upset about what he has done. He is upset that he has been caught and called out on it.

As above. The wife was likely aware and they with each other for convenience. Probably living her own life too.

My thoughts exactly.

But to not say in the interview, when asked what he did that was wrong “I was unfaithful to my wife. Who has stood by me. I was unfaithful to my daughter’s mother.” It’s so, so grim.

I think there are a lot of couples who are happily married - and genuinely so - where the husband likes to explore his more off piste sexual activities outside the marriage. I’m old enough to remember the Jeffrey Archer case and the judge’s comments about his wife; that was pretty clearly a case of that. So maybe the Schofields had come to terms with that a long time ago?

As I've said on another thread, I knew he was gay in early 2000s along with many many other people in the entertainment industry.

I find it really difficult to believe that his wife and kids didn't know.

He has very clearly been shagging men for decades and shut that question down quickly because he can't be seen to be lying again (but also knows there are probs a lot of people about to start crawling out of the woodwork to give their story).

He's making out that he was mates with someone and it led to more and it was the first time anything like this happened/was confused. This is absolutely NOT the case and it's embarrassing that he's trying to make out it was.

It's exactly the same as when Matt Hancock's affair came out. No mention of the fact he was married and had completely betrayed his wife! It was all "i'm sorry for breaking lockdown rules, but I fell in love"

Really winds me up! Is infidelity not wrong anymore?

they live apart, ps and his wife.

@WimpoleHat That reminds me of another thing I remembered. Archer was interviewed by PS years ago and was challenged about being unfaithful (I think JA was saying how wonderful his wife was). I remember PS and Fern saying “I don’t sleep with other people, do you?” “No, I don’t either.”

I'd be surprised if she didn't know his sexuality after being married to him for however many years.

Also made me sick to see him holding up his wedding ring "We're separated but we're together" huh?

@hotelmotelpremierinn I think you’re right

@Bexx87 It’s not that she didn’t know he was gay. But rather that she didn’t know he was shagging people.

I feel like there’s so much about this story that has me totally bewildered.

1. Why is it all coming out NOW as if it’s new information? Even I, a nobody who has never watched TM, heard numerous rumours.
2. Can there really have been no injunction or NDA?
3. Why is everyone making out that so many people didn’t know and it was a secret when, again, even I and half the people online knew about it? Are they going to stick to this story that most people close to him or the show had no idea?
4. Why didn’t the press leak but now they are? - were they protecting him? Is there a bigger story? - a new piece of information?
5. Why did he issue his statement via the Daily Mail??

The question for me, is in all the years he's been on TV he must have had hundreds of young people ask for work experience/ the chance to be a runner etc to break into the industry...what made him give this person that opportunity??..that to me is the clue that he was interested in him from the start, he gave this boy special treatment, because he saw something he wanted in return.

Also sickens me how he still wears his wedding ring, like he's using her to show he's still and upstanding and loyal husband bleugh.

He’s a piece of shit. And all those saying it’s homophobia at play should be ashamed

he lied, to his wife, to his kids, to his agency, to work, to the public, everyone. He only ‘came out’ when pushed and I remain to be convinced that actually he’s not gay he is bi but using the gay narrative to get sympathy, cos he’s a nasty horrible twat. otherwise why carry on wearing a wedding ring and seeing his wife?

His true colours are showing with his chats on TV, he cares only about him, he thinks the public want to hear about the relationship, therefore he says he feels sorry for M.

He cares about no one that himself

Never could see what people saw in him

@catsnhats11 I thought that too. I have several friends who work in tv. They are asked for help getting a job/work experience by hundreds of people every month.

I find it hard to believe she knew he was gay, but not exploring that? That would be extremely naive of her as it was of the public who thought that when he came out.
We of course have no idea of their relationship, but it's very likely she's always known, probably not about much younger men, but certainly about men in general.

Also sickens me how he still wears his wedding ring, like he's using her to show he's still and upstanding and loyal husband bleugh
Yes in actual fact he might have got more respect for giving her a divorce.

Who's to say she didn't know? A lot goes on in people's marriages that's no one else's business. She might have accepted it, they might have no longer had a sexual relationship between the two of them? Who knows? Married people have affairs, although I'm not condoning his behaviour, it's hardly an eye opener.

There's every possibility his wife didn't know. I had a long term relationship with a man who was seeing other men in secret and I didn't know.

Looking back, I think I had some suspicions as he would occasionally bring up the name of different 'mates' and when I asked who these men were and how he knew them, he admitted he'd met them online. It seemed strange to me that a grown man with a partner/wide circle of friends would also be chatting loads to 'mates' he met in chat rooms but at the same time I was so deeply invested in the relationship that I dismissed it as a 'quirk'.

It all came out when I was using his computer one day (with his permission) and his Facebook messenger was logged in. A message popped up from a male FB friend and it was something flirty/dirty. The chat history then showed me the whole undeniable story.

Point being that it is possible to have an otherwise seemingly normal relationship with someone and not know all their secrets. Even if she did know, I can't imagine a scenario where she was at peace with that.

Having said all of that, these are real people's lives and mental health struggles that are being discussed and I don't want to contribute to anyone else's anguish. I hope that all concerned are soon able to fade from the headlines and get whatever help/healing they need.

@Chickychoccyegg really? Genuinely baffles me. If you decide you’re gay, you need to formalise the end of your marriage before you start any sort of relationship with someone else.

To all those who think people have affairs, it happens. Yes. But it’s still not ok.

The selfishness of not formally ending a marriage, keeping the bits beneficial to him but also cheating sexually is really not ok. Just because people do this, it’s not ok. It’s so disrespectful to his wife and children who he claims to love so much.