It’s a Schofield question - don’t click if you’re fed up with it!

[Schofe99]

I know there are lots of other threads. I haven’t found anyone asking/thinking what I am.

I watched the interview. The way he softened when mentioning the young man and emphasised several times that he’s the one he’s most concerned about.

Was it just me thinking WHAT ABOUT YOUR WIFE??? When Amol asked why it was wrong/what he regretted, I assumed he’d say “well, mainly I was unfaithful to my wife. That was wrong. Im so sorry about that.”

And when he was asked about other gay experiences/relationships he shut that down. Which left me thinking, again, WHAT ABOUT BEING UNFAITHFUL TO YOUR WIFE!!!

He’s talked about “us four” before and mentioned it again in the interview. But it’s not ok for him to have all the cosiness and support of a family unit when he’s being unfaithful, surely?

So my AIBU is am I the only one who is seeing this mainly through the eyes of his wife who is watching her husbands infidelity playing out in public? Maybe they’re not sexually intimate and haven’t been for years. But they’re clearly emotionally intimate, spend a lot of time together etc. How UTTERLY GRIM if she didn’t know that her husband was shagging young men. (I really don’t think she did know - I believe him when he says he lied to her).

Gave her a good life? Money isn't everything. I'd be devastated if I'd been denied the chance of being in a genuine loving partnership because of a man's selfishness and lies.

So are you saying she was blind to him being gay when it’s obvious to anyone he is, never mind the wife he’s been with for DECADES?

Yes I would be devastated too hotel but I know women who turn a blind eye because they perceive they have more to lose.

Some posters (including myself) have been personally affected by this issue so GFY seriously. Since you have obviously not been personally affected by it, that would make you the gossiping housewife.

Other people aren’t you. Not everyone feels the same under identical circumstances. I have a friend whose bloke gradually discovered he was gay in his 40s as they were approaching their silver wedding. They’re still together 20 years on.

No idea what GFY means. 🧐

If it turns out that Philip Schofield is telling the truth and this is a one off thing with a consenting adult, if young and the amount of contact he had when the young man was underage was so limited it is unfair to say it was grooming, then I agree it's true he is being treated worse than a lot of others who have made bad choices in their private lives. Yes plenty of powerful men had affairs with their secretary and it didn't affect their career or public standing.

What is concerning/interesting people here is the J.Saville/Rolf Harris/Harvey Weinstein scandals. There has been a lot of these cases of people using their power to abuse in recent years, and with P.S there's that implication that this is just the tip of the iceberg and there is more to come out. Maybe it was unfortunate for him that his brothers trial for paedophilia was closely followed by these revelations and the mysterious feud with Holly and he has done nothing else wrong.

If that is the case and nothing else turns up I predict he will follow the Bojack Horseman course of a few years in showbiz exile followed by an apology tour and then all is forgiven.

I think there must be a lot more to come and this is the tip of the iceberg. It is public knowledge that he met MM age 10, followed him on Twitter when he was 15, got him work experience on TM and there are videos of him having meals with him years ago.

He used blatant nepotism to get him a permanent job at TM when there must have been thousands of other applications from people with more experience and training. TM treated him differently to other runners and even spent thousands on a showreel for him. When TM received complaints about the inappropriate relationship, MM was moved to Loose Women. The Loose Women staff said their current runner was just removed one day without warning and replaced by MM even though current runner had been there for a long time and was really well liked.

I agree @Unicorn2022 . I think there's a lot of deflection going on, which is what the interview was intended to do - hence the CF reference and all the 'poor me'. I just hope it all comes out soon so this doesn't drag on.

I agree @Unicorn2022 . The press are only reporting what they know they are legally safe to report. That doesn't mean it is the extent of what he had done.