My mother called the police

[Mooshamoo]

My elderly mother can be overbearing. However she has reached new levels.

I told her I would call her last night. However something came up and I didn't. I decided I would call her today instead.

Because I didn't call her last night.

She called the police to come round and check on me this morning. I opened the door to a police woman this morning. The policewoman said "your mother rang us and said she was worried about you".

On top of that, she did something else.

I am selling my house. My mother rang my estate agent this morning aswell and asked him to ring me to check on me.

It was so embarassing. When he rang me I thought he was ringing about the house. He rang and said "your mother called us".

When I spoke to her later I said "why on earth did you ring my estate agent". She said "because he had a key to your house".

I felt so harassed and stressed this morning. like it's way over the top. I mean come on!

@MyrtlethePurpleTurtle if that’s the case, how much of that do you think might be down to years of abuse by her controlling and vindictive mother?

Could we be overlooking the possibility that OP's mother has legitimate reason to be over concerned about her?

Her mother called her dirty lazy and useless for not answering a call from her. Im pretty sure whats going on here is not concern.

Control and abuse on the other hand...

@Anonymouseposter Please READ ALL OF OP'S REPLIES. Her mother is an abusive narcissist who never wanted her or loved her. Please don't reply until you have read all of the OPs fucking posts on this thread! Geesus @mnhq can you do something about these idiots that are too fucking lazy to READ THE THREAD before replying?!??

Please read all of OP's posts at least.

Her mother has been abusive towards her for her whole life.

You're overlooking that I'm afraid!

At least one poster has seen other threads involving the OP and has posted that she appears unwell and vulnerable herself.

Calm down before you blow a blood vessel. It’s a simple question, and upthread somewhere someone has mentioned seeing other posts from the OP that indicate she is unwell and vulnerable.

And your point is?!????

WHO WOULDN'T be unwell and vulnerable with her upbringing??

I don't know what point you think you are making.

@Rosscameasdoody

At least one poster has seen other threads involving the OP and has posted that she appears unwell and vulnerable herself.

And?

I think most people who had been abused by a parent throughout their life would be unwell and vulnerable at times.

I don’t ‘think’ I’m making a point, I am making one. The possibility of the OP being unwell and vulnerable had already been brought up by someone who had seen evidence of that on other threads, so the poster on whom you lost your shit wasn’t unreasonable in posting that as a concern, and it didn’t mean she hadn’t read all of the OP’s posts, which seemed to be what irked you. And now you’re attacking me for pointing that out. There’s really no need to be so rude.

Not disagreeing with that at all. My comments were directed at another poster and you’ve taken them out of context.

If someone has read all of the OPs posts and thinks her mother is actually concerned for her then I think maybe they are reading the wrong thread

People who have normal loving relationships with their mums will never understand the sort of manipulative, controlling mothers some of us have.

OP, you have my sympathies, I get it completely….the guilt, anxiety, the constant drainIng stress of having a mum like this. Hugs to you.

@Mooshamoo I get it. There aren't the need for words, but I completely get what you're saying.

Love to you ❤️

That’s not what was said. There was a post upthread regarding the OPs posts on other threads which suggested she was unwell and vulnerable and that poster was asking if this had been overlooked - that’s all.

I'm literally responding to your post where you say:

it didn’t mean she hadn’t read all of the OP’s posts

To which I responded

If someone has read all of the OPs posts and thinks her mother is actually concerned for her then I think maybe they are reading the wrong thread

I'm not sure how from that you can get

That’s not what was said

I know there was a post upthread that implied the OP was vulnerable. If the OP is vulnerable it still wouldn't mean someone would read all her posts and think her mother has any concern for her at all.

Do we hear the mother's side of the story?

Do we EVER hear 'both sides' on Mumsnet?

What's your point?

No way will I read 26 pages of post. She should have explained at the beginning.

The point is obvious.

If you can't, then don't bother replying at all. Besides, all you need to do is click on See all under the first post to read only the OP's replies in the thread. It's not that difficult. Here is a link: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4818996-my-mother-called-the-police?postsby=Mooshamoo

No, it is not. Not at all.

The op is a 39 year old woman make what you are posting make sense.

Honestly, there is a massive difference between the op and your mother the first one is age. Can you not see that what the op's mother is doing is controlling and does not come from a caring place at all.

How dare the OP not fully explain herself. She should have known it would run to 26 pages and timesaretight is far too busy posting nasty stuff, including on another thread posting the same comment as here "I'm pleased your [sic] not my daughter". I suspect she would be doing this even if she had read the OP's post, which she was to lazy to read, saying:
My mother has been hard work since I was a young child. She hated having children and told me that she regretted having children. She never once showed me any love. Ever. Just shouted and screamed at me since the day i was born.

Just block her number. She's clearly not bringing anything to your life, you don't care about her. She sounds awful TBH. Block her number and begin the process of going no contact.