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Kids screaming in garden next door!

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WorkHardPlayHard1 · 01/06/2023 11:17

So for the 5th time this Spring/Summer, the kids next door are playing happily and very loudly in the garden next door directly into the open door of my kitchen.

I really like the adult neighbours (their parents) and really don't want to fall out with then.

Any suggestions of how to approach this as can't bear the idea of a full Summer of screeching kids! They are 10 and 7! 😬

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cruisebaba1 · 01/06/2023 19:15

Jagoda · 01/06/2023 11:18

Two options spring to mind.

Shut your door.

Kill them.

😂😂😂😂😂

ilovesooty · 01/06/2023 19:27

DinoDaddy · 01/06/2023 19:07

You would really hate us. Our 4 kids play out most days and can be quite noisy. If the neighbours asked me to make them keep it down I would probably encourage music instruments in the garden for the next few days. Give them something to actual moan about.

You would really hate us

I'm rather grateful you don't live next door to me.

Tidsleytiddy · 01/06/2023 19:30

And me. What does being extra irritating to neighbours teach them

HauntedPencil · 01/06/2023 19:36

They aren't purposefully trying to annoy people. Some people just have a very short wick.

Summer means you'll hear music/smell BBQs/ hear adults talking laughing making noise/kids playing my god unless it's anti social levels maybe live and let live a bit.

bringincrazyback · 01/06/2023 19:37

DinoDaddy · 01/06/2023 19:07

You would really hate us. Our 4 kids play out most days and can be quite noisy. If the neighbours asked me to make them keep it down I would probably encourage music instruments in the garden for the next few days. Give them something to actual moan about.

That's a really mature method of conflict resolution you're modelling for your kids there...

bringincrazyback · 01/06/2023 19:39

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Does actual screaming and screeching not bother you, then? I'm not talking about shouting or general loudness, but literal screaming.

HauntedPencil · 01/06/2023 19:45

OP is talking about children who are playing "happily and loudly" for about 5 times the whole spring summer to date. COME ON.

Vintagejazzing · 01/06/2023 19:57

DinoDaddy · 01/06/2023 19:07

You would really hate us. Our 4 kids play out most days and can be quite noisy. If the neighbours asked me to make them keep it down I would probably encourage music instruments in the garden for the next few days. Give them something to actual moan about.

Oh if only we could all be as cool and rebellious as you😴. Not to mention stupid and annoying. Bet your kids are a delight to behold

bringincrazyback · 01/06/2023 19:57

HauntedPencil · 01/06/2023 19:45

OP is talking about children who are playing "happily and loudly" for about 5 times the whole spring summer to date. COME ON.

The thread title specifically mentions 'kids screaming'.

HauntedPencil · 01/06/2023 19:59

I've directly quoted from the post.

HauntedPencil · 01/06/2023 20:02

Idk some of you sound like way worse neighbours with some serious intolerance. My kids are younger but might be a bit noisy in the garden, next door have older kids who have friends around in the evening that can be a bit noisy, the bloke a few doors down likes to play loud music on occasion. Yes all the above can be irritating on occasion but total nonsense if no-one is silent through the summer.

I'd take kids all the day long over noisy music adults:

Vintagejazzing · 01/06/2023 20:03

lovemycottage · 01/06/2023 15:24

Well op kids are kids, the weather is beautiful, it's healthy to be outside.

Did you not play outside as a kid?

Did you not have considerate parents who knew when to rein it in?

fancreek · 01/06/2023 20:08

DinoDaddy · 01/06/2023 19:07

You would really hate us. Our 4 kids play out most days and can be quite noisy. If the neighbours asked me to make them keep it down I would probably encourage music instruments in the garden for the next few days. Give them something to actual moan about.

Tell us you're a shit parent without saying you're a shit parent...

IAmTheWalrus85 · 01/06/2023 20:14

None of us were there so none of us can tell how unreasonable the noise level was.

But on the face of it, it wasn’t a reasonable time of day. It’s presumably only school holidays and weekends. You really like the parents - which presumably means they’re otherwise good neighbours? Having good neighbours and maintaining a cordial relationship with them is so important.

Based on what you’ve told us I think I’d suck it up and wouldn’t jeopardise a relationship with an otherwise pleasant neighbour over it. There’s far worse noise out there than happy children playing in the middle of the day in school holidays. And you never know when you might need them to be understanding of you.

But only you know whether you can tolerate it.

HauntedPencil · 01/06/2023 20:15

So the mumsnet definition of a shit parent nowadays is someone who's kids play in the garden and can be "quite loud"

AS IF your kids don't. All this site seems to be nowadays is people out- nastying each other it's really tedious isn't it.

grievinggirlneedsadvice · 01/06/2023 20:16

Wow, my neighbour buys my child toys to play with in the garden, while we have a coffee- she's happy to hear her& her friends having fun. She is kind to us and helps us out and vice versa.
I'm pretty glad to have her and not you, grumbling on about the five measly times you've been disturbed by your poor neighbours children actually enjoying their lives.

ClaudiaWankleman · 01/06/2023 20:43

Vintagejazzing · 01/06/2023 18:55

I was actually addressing your post where you said 'children can do anything they like in their garden at 11am' so presumably you meant literally 'anything they like'. Or is that hyperbole as well?

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Well I actually said they can play how they like.

ClaudiaWankleman · 01/06/2023 20:45

Olive19741205 · 01/06/2023 18:25

I live just down the road from a primary school of 800 pupils. At break times I am consistently incredulous at just how loud they can be.

"Down the road" is not right next to your garden.

No, it's about 50m away. There are 800 of them, however... so I think it all washes out.

ClaudiaWankleman · 01/06/2023 20:48

TheOrigRights · 01/06/2023 17:20

800 children will indeed make a lot of noise (that's a massive Primary school BTW!).
The playing noise of a bunch of kids is very different to just a few children screaming. If one of my children wanted to speak to me when they were out and I was in, I would expect them to come in and call me, not just scream MUMMY from the garden.

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Yeah but these children aren't screaming for someone, they're playing loudly.

It is a huge school though. 4 classes per year. I actually just had a look on the Gov.uk schools service - 810 pupils on the school roll but a capacity of 914!

ILikePizzas · 01/06/2023 20:52

Mumsnet - "How can I solve a problem I have with someone without speaking to them? Can't I just magic it away without them knowing?"

NotMyMill · 01/06/2023 20:54

BallandBoe · 01/06/2023 11:23

Wow. Kids doing what kids do. In their own garden. FIVE times this year.

Terrible.

I know right. I don’t even have kids but I find this attitude miserable. Only in Britain.

Olive19741205 · 01/06/2023 21:06

DinoDaddy · 01/06/2023 19:07

You would really hate us. Our 4 kids play out most days and can be quite noisy. If the neighbours asked me to make them keep it down I would probably encourage music instruments in the garden for the next few days. Give them something to actual moan about.

I don't think you understand what this thread's about. Most of us have kids who play out and can be quite noisy, that's normal for children. It's the ones who shriek and scream and the parents do nothing about it that people are having problems with. Do you not know the difference?

Olive19741205 · 01/06/2023 21:13

HauntedPencil · 01/06/2023 20:02

Idk some of you sound like way worse neighbours with some serious intolerance. My kids are younger but might be a bit noisy in the garden, next door have older kids who have friends around in the evening that can be a bit noisy, the bloke a few doors down likes to play loud music on occasion. Yes all the above can be irritating on occasion but total nonsense if no-one is silent through the summer.

I'd take kids all the day long over noisy music adults:

Wtf is going on with this thread? Why are people blatantly ignoring what the actual thread is about. This poster here has described nearly every street/estate in summer that we all live on...of course we fucking know we'll hear all that noise, we'll even be the ones making some of that noise. Total silence? 😂What the hell are you talking about? Have you even read the thread or just jumped straight in on defence mode because you're are one of those parents with shrieking kids?

Assssssssssss · 01/06/2023 21:14

The kids feel comfortable as its in their own home so they do tend to let go a bit and will probably be louder then when out and about and at school. Excessive screaming is different though you just have to access what category they fall into and act appropriately.

WiddlinDiddlin · 01/06/2023 21:15

DinoDaddy · 01/06/2023 19:07

You would really hate us. Our 4 kids play out most days and can be quite noisy. If the neighbours asked me to make them keep it down I would probably encourage music instruments in the garden for the next few days. Give them something to actual moan about.

You'd find them learning all the explicit lyrics to the foulest music I could find if you did that to us.

You're serious that a polite request to ask them to not shout/scream would be met by petty revenge? No wonder people think some parents are entitled twats is it!