Kids screaming in garden next door!

[WorkHardPlayHard1]

So for the 5th time this Spring/Summer, the kids next door are playing happily and very loudly in the garden next door directly into the open door of my kitchen.

I really like the adult neighbours (their parents) and really don't want to fall out with then.

Any suggestions of how to approach this as can't bear the idea of a full Summer of screeching kids! They are 10 and 7! 😬

You really wouldn’t, you’re talking shite..

She's said screaming in the title, yet clarified by this she means "happy and noisy" playing FIVE times with otherwise good relations (so assumes they aren't these terrible parents with feral constant goings on that some imagine)

No of course you wouldn't put the hose on them, stop showing off.

I'd rather live next to screeching kids than some of you aggressive lot but since it's all imaginary maybe you aren't so bad:

Just go out and screech back at them.

Actually they are kids , screaming while playing is nit only common but healthy .

They won't be out in their garden all the time fgs. You'll get an idea of their favourite garden playing times, then just avoid your kitchen at these times. It's their garden, they're not doing anything offensive, they're kids, be more tolerant.

They don’t have to scream though. It’s obnoxious. I’d put the hose on them.

You wouldn't and if a neighbour did that to my kids, the hose would be through their open door.

Agreed

Yeah well the adults who want to make sure the whole street can hear their party are annoying too.

As are the tradesmen with their loud music.

As for garden cinemas...

Noise pollution is a significant problem, and can cause health problems. Just have a little consideration and keep the noise down.

Yes this is an amazing idea and will definitely not make you look completely terrible.

People have a bit of a nerve having a pop at other peoples parenting when they, a grown adult, come up with ideas like this.

Children can have fun without having to screech all the time.

My neighbours with the screeching daughter moved last year and it's been wonderful every since. She was 8 so no excuses. Screech, shriek, screech was all you ever heard.

She said screaming in the title and screeching in the penultimate sentence.

The sound of people enjoying their garden reasonably in the summer is not noise pollution. I have every sympathy for people i during proper anti social noise but can we get a grip on this one which is a property with a good neighbour relationship and kids that have played out five times the whole season to date.

Complaining about everyday noise is also a form of harassment often used and can be detrimental to others mental health.

You have my sympathies OP, we have the same situation. Reasonable noise is fine but when it's all day and it's shrieking and screaming it's bad parenting.

We don't complain to our neighbours, but having just renovated our garden, we're planning to have frequent parties and will expect the same level of discretion from them. Heaven help them if they knock on our door complaining about the noise from our guests at 9pm on a weekend because their kids are in bed...

Absollutely agree. Dinodaddy you are the abosulte wanker of a parent that allows your children kick the bag of airplane seats too :)

That Prob allows

I got deleted for the first time in years this week for saying something much milder than that - the person I was talking to must have complained.

He does sound, as I said, like the parent you don't want to live next door to.

You don't think a bit of consideration for your neighbours is a reasonable thing to ask for, @DinoDaddy? I don't think most people expect kids to play silently in the garden - and as I said earlier on the thread, I enjoy hearing the happy noise of kids playing outside - but I don't think it is unreasonable to think we can all treat our neighbours with consideration - and sometimes that means keeping the noise level (whether from kids, music etc) at a reasonable level.

Or do you truly think that you and your children can do whatever you and they want, however loudly you want, and fuck the rest of the world - because that is a pretty poor bit of parenting, if you do.

Oh dear…. We must all be silent in our garden, not have work done, not use the garden, I wonder why they even sell BBQs?

You consider incessant screaming to be 'enjoying their garden reasonably'?

Do you not understand the difference between reasonable vs unsociable enjoyment of your garden?

Children playing (laughing, some shouting, some arguing) - OK
Children screeching endlessly so that neighbours cannot hear themselves talk in their own garden - not OK

Lawn mowing, DIY projects - OK
Regular bonfires at a time when people are enjoying the weather, hours of leaf blowing/pressure washing/drilling - not OK

Having people round to enjoy a BBQ - OK
People having drunken karaoke at 3am - not OK

😂

Mine are grown up now but, like all kids, could get carried away sometimes. The difference was that we always brought them in if they started getting too loud and disturbing people.

We were also happy for our neighbours to tell them to put a sock in it as well.

I just don't get this new approach to parenting whereby the children have all the rights to make as much noise as they want and it is the adults who have to inconvenience themselves. It makes me worry for what society will be like when those children become adults.

Im only 50 and I am not, and was not, a perfect parent by any means...but when my children and their friends, my friends children etc were young...only 20 years ago....we were very much aware of our children needing to learn how to behave in order to fit into society and not that society (adults) have to bend to their will.

Because she sets boundaries about screaming?

I understand perfectly, but this particularly poster is whinging about everyone……. She’s the common denominator and not sure noise pollution is caused by people enjoying their gardens.