Kids screaming in garden next door!

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So for the 5th time this Spring/Summer, the kids next door are playing happily and very loudly in the garden next door directly into the open door of my kitchen.

I really like the adult neighbours (their parents) and really don't want to fall out with then.

Any suggestions of how to approach this as can't bear the idea of a full Summer of screeching kids! They are 10 and 7! 😬

And another poster describing a normal day with kids...and having a nice neighbour😂Wtf does that have to do with the OPs post?

But OP says she really likes the children’s parents. Presumably they are otherwise nice neighbours!

Not poor kids at all! We were brought up the same way - to be considerate of our neighbours-

That wouldn't bother me at all. You are entitled to play music in your garden. My children know some words are "rude words" and for adults only. In fact, we sometimes play music with explicit lyrics in anyway, so this wouldn't deter us in the slightest. Although, loud music could be a noise abatement issue with the council, where as children playing isn't.

OP asked if she was being unreasonable, based on my experience of both having children and neighbours and their reaction- I think she is.

And as an adult, I believe there are times to be considerate to children.

Oh Dino...what a wanker you are. Feel free to report my comment. That wouldn't bother me at all.😂

But you're 'experience' isn't the same as the OPs. You just described a perfectly normal, boring day that some of us have with our neighbours, while the kids play. You clearly don't have shrieking kids next door so...unless your kids are the shriekers? Are they?

Yes my kid does on occasion shriek with delight while being chased around the the garden by her friends/dad/aunty- frankly I would be concerned if she did not, and unless she was screaming all day long at unearthly hours I would not stop her. Children have a right to play outside and enjoy life and i think complaining about some kids playing 'happily and loudly' five times during the three months we've already had of spring/summer is unreasonable.
Yes I was bought up to be respectful of elders but I also believe that we should be respectful to children, treat them as the humans they are- the humans we share this earth with- if there's only been five occasions in which they've made a noise, OP has had her time to enjoy her peace so should live and let live.

All fine, but not the point. Screaming, literally screaming their heads off, not really what you're ok is saying. Is it?

YANBU, but I don't think you can really say anything without offending the parents. Hopefully at some stage the parents will get fed up of listening to it!

I have a 7yo and 5yo and I tell them off for screaming. No one wants to hear that, me included! Normal playing, chatting, giggling, goodness knows what else fine, but screaming and shrieking isn't neccessary. I also had to have a quick conversation around "we don't under any circumstances comment on what is on the neighbour's washing line guys, it's a bit rude" earlier today when they started shouting about next door's knickers - cringe!

She didnt say they had screamed/shrieked, she just said they had played happily and loudly-
She used shrieking at the end of her post as if she expected it at a future point.
Even if they do shriek on occasion, I do not see the problem, they are children and it's to be expected. If they can't shriek on their own back garden on occasion, which it's clear this is, then where can they? Perhaps they don't live near forests/fields/beaches where they can let of steam and the gardens all they've got- why can't an adult just suck it up, why is it always the child that has to.

Did the OP say they’re ‘literally screaming their heads off’?

@IAmTheWalrus85 no , your honour: we've moved on from the OP, though.

@grievinggirlneedsadvice . Again, many a post. Not really just referring to the OP. Living beside screaming kids, I'd have to disagree that it's normal. Actually, you'll not from my post, telling them to be quiet works because, yes, they're kids.

I'm not quite sure where you are going with your comments to me.
In all my comments I have addressed the fact that the OP is being unreasonable, not everyone. This is based on the what they OP has told us about the children she is living next to. The children the OP has mentioned played happily and loudly on five occasions this spring/summer, thus we can assume they have not been screaming their heads off day after day.
Based on this, I believe the OP is unreasonable, and all the other 'children should be seen and not heard' posters that have been horrified by these five occasions. I don't believe we should have this attitude towards children, and that OP as a grown adult can overlook this occasional noise.
Never have I mentioned children making shrieking or screaming noises day after day all day- that is another matter. As I mentioned in a previous post we should live and let live, so just as OP can provide space for children to make a noise, children need to give adults opportunity for peace in their garden. However, the OP has ample opportunity for peace given that her neighbours children have only been noisy on five occasions, so in this case she is unreasonable and should just get on with it and let them have their fun.

Yes, but you ignored the thread title.

Once again, occasional shrieks, totally normal, that's not what this thread is about. I don't know why you're so determined to try and make out that people on this thread are total fun sponges when you're describing normal everyday happenings that most people would have no problems with.

and unless she was screaming all day long at unearthly hours I would not stop her

Some people do let their kids do this for hours at a time.

She didnt say they had screamed/shrieked, she just said they had played happily and loudly

For goodness sake. It's right there in the thread title. Kids screaming in garden next door

Because the OP has said this has been five times in three months, so yes agreeing with the OP would in my opinion make anyone a fun sponge.
Others may have bought in tales where children were making noise for much longer periods of time- not allowing the neighbours to have any peace in their garden at all- that is another matter. I am talking about the OP and in my opinion she is unreasonable and not being considerate of her neighbours and the fact those children are allowed to have fun and let off steam in their garden and that she has ample time for peace.

Move to the country with no neighbors, kids play , deal with it .

Anyway OP, once I said something to my neighbour we haven't had a problem since. Got a bunch of flowers delivered as an apology too...although I suspect that was probably the nan that lives there also, rather than the mother.
It is quite an awkward thing to broach, but it just wasn't fair anymore - we couldn't use our garden because of how they were using theirs.
I made sure that I expressed that I wasn't expecting silence, I just wanted a bit more of a happy medium.

They don’t have to scream though. It’s obnoxious. I’d put the hose on them.

@grievinggirlneedsadvice I can't be arsed reading your essay. Suffice to say, as per my first post, just yell at them to shut up if they're too annoying.

Is that you neighbour at number 8?

I'm not sure what you think should happen. The kids don't play in their garden? Is that the resolution you're expecting?

In all honesty I suggest you close your open door because that's within your control and a reasonable thing for you to do.

You can complain it then gets too hot in your kitchen but then you want the kids to stop playing so you can be comfortable. Seems mightily selfish.