Or is Mansplaining getting worse?

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Filling up my car screen wash on my driveway. No hose or outside tap at the front so I'm using a big watering can.

Random man: you know that's a watering can right? It's for watering plants. You can put a nozzle on the end to make it sprinkle the water out.

Me: Umm. Yes. I do know.

RM: It's not actually for filling up the car.

Me: Yes. I know. I also use it in the garden.

RM: You can use a hose to fill up the car.

Me: I know, but I don't have an outside tap, so I used this to move water from inside my house to outside. Because its a water moving receptacle.

RM: It wasn't made for filling up the car though.

Me: ........

RM: Hurumpf.

And off he wanders.

I mean.... what!?

Whats mansplaining?

FYI a snail floated to the top of my washer bottle last time I topped it up.
The wee bugger must have been in the watering can, got poured into the washer bottle and spent a couple of months touring the country.

I once had an extreme case of mansplaining out of the blue on the street. I ended up saying, "Thank you for your advice, but I don't need it".

Mine texts my partner when we are on the way round to tell him to tell me which parking space will be best to park in, then stands at his front door pointing to it when we arrive just to make sure I know which one he means. Thereby ensuring that I park anywhere except that space.

Misandry. A way of shutting down a man. The male version of ‘Karen’.

My DH has a bit of a mansplaining habit.

I usually just fix him with a beady eye and say; 'Words of one syllable please darling. You know I'm thick'.

He does NOT get on with his brother and I confess i had to laugh at his brother's face when DH mansplained the correct way to pronounce 'Moet'.

a) i had explianed it to him just the day before
b) his brother works in the wine industry.

Mo--ey?

Blessed relief for us then

Mo-ett.

The founder was Dutch so you pronounce the 't' ending.

tbf I only know that because I went on a winery tour.

This is the most perfect response!

It's happened since time immemorial, don't think it's worsened.

I’m just chiming in to say I needed some of these laughs this morning! 😆
I’ll have to let my mother know I have discovered a new use for her old wine bottles!!

It's just a shame you didn't turn to your DD3 and say, 'And honey, that's an example of a misogynistic know it all, please don't ever bring one home.'

Agree completely but this isn't mansplaining. It's patronising meddling.

@NumberTheory no, its the way he does it. He's not confirming he has understood, he sort of showboats telling the rest of the team and using far more words than are necessary and as if it's his idea or knowledge, its very odd.

I try to ignore it usually but he really got to me last week!

Very annoying!

Patronising eh? You do know the origin of the word, right?

maybe a new acronym for these, wtbat? (were they being a t*) answer is yes btw!

Personally I’ve found it more often to be a generation thing

60+yrs are the worst

in my experience, anyway

So so many Random Men when I was dog training in person.. (retired now!)..

Sat in my manual wheelchair in the street, with clients massive German Shepherd in a nice downstay next to me and owner standing in front of us, I am demonstrating dropping treats to the dog each time we hear a noise or see something moving. Dog already has a downstay cued by us not moving, and knows to wait for a release cue to get up - what we're working on is 'all these distractions = continue to stay put, it's a good thing'...

Random man hoves into view... sees us, clearly working on something and I have a shirt that says WIDDLIN'S FAB DOG TRAINING - HEAD TRAINER (or words to that effect) on the front and back... Client 'oh noooo... its hiiiiim...'

Comes right up and stands just a couple of feet away.

RM: 'Why are you giving the dog treats, he's doing nothing to earn them, you'll spoil him.

Owner: 'We're working on some training, she is learning to ignore distractions'

RM: 'I can show you how, just.... reaches for the lead...'

Me: 'Please step back, we're working on some training here!'

RM: 'Dogs love me, I am great with dogs.... GSD couldn't give a shit, zero love there...'

Me: (Owner now wibbling, confrontations with twats in the street being something else we're working on!) - 'I am sure they do, but this dog is working with me right now, please step back drops dog huge handful of treats

RM: 'But this is a MANS dog... women can't train a MANS dog and all that food will make him fat!'..

Me - to dog: 'Ok FREE....close...' *we roll/walk away, dog heeling close between owner and I without a hand on the lead (it's clipped to my waist belt as owner is on crutches)...

RM FOLLOWS US...

RM: 'You should get a dog trainer, like that bloke off telly, TSSSSSST TSSSSSST! '

Me: 'I am a dog trainer.... can you please give us some space?'

RM follows us all the way to the owners driveway, telling us all about Cesar Milan and how he doesn't give food he can just tap the dog with his foot and say TSST and he can show us if I'll just hand him the lead.

He didn't go away until we went back in the house.

I taught her dog a 'speak' cue using a hand signal, which gets her bouncing on the spot doing ferocious barking, teeth flashing, spit flying... but to the dog is a game and ends in her squeaky pig toy (so theres zero intent or desire to bite anyone, its just a trick!). Works REALLY well apparently as RM took off running the next time he tried harrassing her!

New boyfriend was directing me to his home and told me how to get on the bus. Told me I need to wait and then when I see it coming to stick out my hand so it stops. He text me to explain this. I was like wtf

On a holiday in Spain a few years ago, you could hire kettles at the hotel reception and we did so because we love our early morning mug of tea on the balcony.

On our last day there DH mansplained to me how to take it back to reception and get the deposit returned!! He sheepishly backed off because he could see from my incredulous expression that he was in serious danger of finding said kettle shoved up his arse!! 🤣.

I do think it's more prevalent but I do call it out now - especially at work. I once saw a group of men mansplaining a technically accountancy issue to (you guessed it) the actual CIPFA qualified female accountant. Of course none of them had any finance qualifications or experience at all. She put them in their place though.

Oh this is rife in accounting - and I speak from experience!