Or is Mansplaining getting worse?

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Filling up my car screen wash on my driveway. No hose or outside tap at the front so I'm using a big watering can.

Random man: you know that's a watering can right? It's for watering plants. You can put a nozzle on the end to make it sprinkle the water out.

Me: Umm. Yes. I do know.

RM: It's not actually for filling up the car.

Me: Yes. I know. I also use it in the garden.

RM: You can use a hose to fill up the car.

Me: I know, but I don't have an outside tap, so I used this to move water from inside my house to outside. Because its a water moving receptacle.

RM: It wasn't made for filling up the car though.

Me: ........

RM: Hurumpf.

And off he wanders.

I mean.... what!?

Yes what is it @tailinthejam about men thinking they know about finance when that's clearly not their job? I now ask them if they like to hear my uninformed views on their specialist subjects (emergency services) and they tend to back down quite quickly.

I am sure a man will pop onto the thread in a while to explain what mansplaining is. in the meantime make a cup of tea, remember to let the water boil and use a teapot not a mug. Milk in last…..

When I was painting outside of ( rendered) house. Neighbour: you know you’re making a mistake don’t you? Me: I don’t think so Neighbour: you know that’ll never work don’t you? Me: ignoring him Neighbour: you know you’re making a mistake? Me: I’ve a lot to do and no time to talk sorry
I mean what the effin ‘ell goes through their heads? He lived 3 doors away and yelled from his doorstep. I wanted to say you focus on you and I’ll focus on me.

Very good!

I'm probably guilty of indulging the manspaining types, i mean the "helpful" random man types, I am usually very polite and try to say i can do it myself, but I tend to thank them for their help. Possibly cos I'm a bit overly polite anyhow but also i feel kind of sorry for them, to me there is something a bit lacking either socially or intellectually to be going around trying to strike up a weird conversation with a stranger. I feel that their pathetic little ego is better after helping someone and let them off. A mansplainer in a prof capacity - very different story!! They can F off.

More sexist than mansplaining - A few years ago I was painting and a man was calling to service the boiler. I got down from my ladder opened the door and showed him around, then said I'll keep working away if you don't mind and went back up my ladder. He said "well I've seen it all now, a painting housewife!!" . I literally didn't know what to say, not only is housewife a term I don't like but I hadn't said anything about my work, I could have been a CEO for all he knew! But because I was a SAHM at the time I couldn't really correct him without sounding silly. I did point out that painting wasn't a man's job and sure why wouldn't I paint my own house. He was so chatty and pleasant I didn't want to be mean but afterwards i wish I had said "well I've seen it all now, a sexist tradesman!!"

I dunno - probably can't cope with the fact that they are the business owners, who happen to know a great deal about running their business, but sweet FA about organising the finances of it and producing a set of accounts. They have to know better than you, despite them having engaged you to sort out the mess in the first place!

(so glad I'm not a freelancer any more!!)

But mightnt I burn my precious feeble hands?

My nephew mansplained fruit squash to me. However he gets a pass because he was only 6. My sister is working on ensuring he becomes a less irritating adult 😁

Inaccurate. Here's a hint: look at the examples on this thread. If a random or a co-worker does it, the woman in question never seems to accuse the man of mansplaining. So it doesn't shut a man down & it's nothing like 'Karen'.

@Mygrandadwasmywingman has it occurred to you that this could be ASD rather than mansplaining? I only ask because explaining what "talking to a customer" means and what "taking turns" means sounds very much like someone who is extremely focused on explaining something seemingly simple but that he's probably had to work really hard on. If that is the case then, although it might be frustrating, it's not really aimed at you in particular.

This just showed up on FB

Exactly! 😂

Ha! I already lent that can of foam to someone else. Getting a replacement has been on my to-do list for quite a while. 😬

@Screwballs

What is mansplaining?

mansplaining

NOUNINFORMAL

the explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing:

to explain something to someone in a way that suggests that they are stupid; used especially when a man explains something to a woman that she already understands

When unsolicited advice or direction is given to a woman by a man in a condescending manner. The reasons typically being, the man does not believe the woman is capable of completing the task independently and must need guidance.

I have perfected my response to mansplaining. I give a withering death stare, say absolutely nothing, hold their gaze for at least 10 seconds then turn back to what I was doing. It has never failed.

I have honestly lost count of the number of men whose feet I have run over in my (very heavy) electric wheelchair or have hurt themselves trying to lift it & me up!

A taxi driver nearly got flattened because he didn’t listen when he asked if I needed help and I said no thank you, I’m used to doing it myself and it’s dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing.

I was trying to reverse down the ramp, my wife was standing where I needed her to to double check I wasn’t going to come off the edge (I don’t really need her to do it but if she is there she will) and the driver suddenly leapt past her like some sort of lemming, shouting “I will help you!’. He landed on the ramp behind me AS I WAS ALREADY MOVING my all terrain power chair with 15 stone me in it, and then kicked off when I couldn’t stop in time and he got hurt.

The one i had recently was funny. I'd gone to put air in my tyres because the pressure light came on the dash. I'd got the valve caps off, set the pressure i needed and when i went to check them, the machine was throwing up errors and was letting air out the tyres.

So i went into the petrol station to let them know it wasn't working and found the counter was manned by a kid that looked barely old enough to shave lol. He tried to tell me i must be doing it wrong and the machine is working. He told me i needed to take the dust caps off 1st, well duh. Have you set the pressure etc. erm, yeh! He was still sure it was something I was doing wrong and insisted he show me how to work the machine 😂Surprise, surprise when he went out to it, it was still showing the same error it showed me. He insisted i show him how i tried to use it because it WAS working. Instead of filling my tyre, it deflated my it even more than it already was. I told the lad that it's 100% not working, it's not something i've done wrong and that i'd been using air pressure machines for more years than he's been alive and that when a woman tells him the machine ain't working to believe them instead of mansplaining how to do it.

Another one that really grinds my gears is when you are doing something like changing a tyre. You've got the bolts loosened, car jacked up, spare wheel out and just about to take the original one off and then a guy comes over and ask if you want help or says something like are you sure you can manage to do that yourself. Erm, i'm a woman, not ruddy useless! 😂😂

I ran over a blokes foot, as he INSISTED on holding a door for me that I did not need holding, in a way t hat meant his foot was in my way.

I told him twice that I would run over his foot, he insisted it was fine, I said I really didn't think it would be given my weight and the narrowness of the wheels, but he was adamant... (to impress his girlfriend at how helpy he was to the poor cripple...

It wasn't fine. I mean he didn't say any words, but the sounds he did make were pretty evidently 'not fine' at all. His girlfriend called him a prat which saved me the bother 😂

😂😂😂 hopefully he will learn.

I’ve had men do it with their children- tell me there is definitely space for me to get past when I know full well I would run over the child’s feet. Obviously I don’t do it but then I’m stuck arguing the toss with some arrogant fool who thinks he is the great I am.

I use a 4 pint milk carton so he'd be having kittens explaining to me why milk isn't good for my screen 🤣

He may need to mind his own business and you may need to stop pandering to this "only trying to help" crap.

YABU OP

I really appreciate advice (from men and women). But then I'm confident enough to make my own decisions.

No, these men have always existed. My housemate at university once asked me in a baby voice "do you know how the gears work, shall I show you?" When I brought a new bike..... Umm, no thanks, I've ridden a bike before....

I think this thread deserves to be nominated for 'Classics'. :)

So is the OP. So are we all. We hear the mansplaining & we are confident enough to ignore it.