Or is Mansplaining getting worse?

[PaperwhiteTheGhost]

Filling up my car screen wash on my driveway. No hose or outside tap at the front so I'm using a big watering can.

Random man: you know that's a watering can right? It's for watering plants. You can put a nozzle on the end to make it sprinkle the water out.

Me: Umm. Yes. I do know.

RM: It's not actually for filling up the car.

Me: Yes. I know. I also use it in the garden.

RM: You can use a hose to fill up the car.

Me: I know, but I don't have an outside tap, so I used this to move water from inside my house to outside. Because its a water moving receptacle.

RM: It wasn't made for filling up the car though.

Me: ........

RM: Hurumpf.

And off he wanders.

I mean.... what!?

Love that 😂

My DP mansplains things to me. All the bloody time. But according to him he isn't.

I did it back to him the other day and he asked why I was being sarcastic.

I continue on to fight this battle. But next time I will definitely just ask him if he'd of explained that to a man. I expect his answer will be yes though, but maybe just maybe it might sink in a little more to just STFU with it.

I hear you, OP. I just had a colleague try and mansplain a £££ project I'm leading on.

'And my ears weren't designed to listen to interfering random man crap, yet here I am. Again'.

Is what I like to think I'd have said in the same situation.

I agree- this sums it up perfectly.

And this is exactly why I completely ignore all conversational overtures from randoms. Admittedly around here it is usually a sobstory leading up to asking for money, or they are about to make a disgusting sexual comment. But blanking them also means I don’t get mansplained to either.

Aaaaandbreath,I love that ‘ in a more manly way’! I’m surprised it didn’t fix it.

I am a (hopefully not random) man, but I did get a lot of random women when DD was little.

DP used to work weekends so every weekend was just me and DD and the amount of well meaning but unneeded advice I got off strange women was nuts. "Make sure she's got enough suncream on", "has she had enough to drink", "don't let her run off" and on and on.

I'd manage to raise the small human for 3 years at this point without losing or getting her killed, and yet every other trip out I was apparently giving off vibes of "I need help!!!!"

DD is now 15, alive, not lost, and occasionally even deigns to actually speak to me (when an eye roll isn't sufficient to get the message across)

A friend of mine once explained 'Mansplaining' this wife...

To his wife, I meant. Duh.

@PaperwhiteTheGhost I was on the pavement the other day heading down the road and a woman coming the other way tutted at me because I didn't step onto the road for her. It was quite a wide pavement so not really sure what that was all about.

Long and short of it though. I don't think this is mansplaining. Some people are just plain weird. Actually, quite a lot of people 😂

Is he not just checking he understood? That sounds like the sort of thing they recommend in books on how to get on in the work place.

Surely that can was made for watering mansplainers?

When we first moved here I was walking the dog, offlead ( I'm not in the UK and it's a designated dog exercise area) , whistled him and a man came up to tell me that gun dogs NEVER respond to a whistle and asked who my dog belonged to as he was too big to be walked by a " female like yourself "
I was so gobsmacked that I sent my labrador off again, whistled so that he turned on a sixpence and returned to me then asked the mansplainer if he would stop other men to comment - he said of course not !

lol

@SweetBirdsong

My lovely 73 y.o. friend Anne has had a PC and the internet since 2005, and she had a smartphone 3 years before I did!

My 71 year old self has had computers of various kinds since 1981, including one she built from an early kit, had PCs since 1990, been using and programming on Linux since 1999, and regularly gets boysplained.

My 8 year old mansplains (boysplains?) driving to me. He's lucky I haven't run him over.

A PP mentioned camping, but caravanning and canal boating are also Mansplain Central.
DH is usually a reasonable and respectful man, and has only ever caravanned and canal boated with me and we have always shared the driving, towing, steering... however, somehow he thinks he's an expert and I need advice about everything. A sharp "Fuck off!" usually fixes things.

A man with his wife and 2 DDs was in front of us at a canal lock once , mansplaining loudly to them how to pull into the side carefully and gently. The loud crunch as he crashed into the side was something else!

Also, both of my adult DDs have been competetive rowers, one representing her (famously rowing) uni, the other having competed nationally at junior level. When we hired a 4 person rowing boat on holiday they took an oar each. The man in the next boat said "Those 'girls' aren't going to get anywhere fast, they're facing the wrong way for a start", they don't realise you have to blah blah blah completely inaccurate stuff"
Our boat shot off at speed, while his failed around as he tried to row in the direction he was facing!

I get this from a much younger female colleague explaining the job I’ve done successfully for many years more than her and I’m senior to her. She’s also openly told others she should be on the same band as me. Obviously doesn’t count as mansplaining but she has perfected the patronising tone.

My family own a garage which does MOTs, servicing and repairs. We use watering cans to put water in the washer reservoirs etc. We often have men trying to mansplain to us. It’s proper boring

Both my ex partners wouldn't listen to what I said. Then a man would give the exact same advice and they'd listen.

So infuriating.

I used to think mansplaining was getting worse until I spoke it to my husband who told me it wasn’t.

My standard answer for mansplaining is ‘silly me, I forgot I left my penis at home - it does all my thinking for me.’

'Everyone's weird except you & me. And some days, I'm not too sure about you.'

😁

My Dad used to do that whenever we were visiting them and needed to turn our car round on their drive. I left him to it, but did really find it much more off-putting than helpful.

It used to irritate me (and of course, why wouldn't it?) but since he died a couple of years ago now it is on of the things I actually miss when we go to visit my mother, who still lives there. 🙄☹️