Or is Mansplaining getting worse?

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Filling up my car screen wash on my driveway. No hose or outside tap at the front so I'm using a big watering can.

Random man: you know that's a watering can right? It's for watering plants. You can put a nozzle on the end to make it sprinkle the water out.

Me: Umm. Yes. I do know.

RM: It's not actually for filling up the car.

Me: Yes. I know. I also use it in the garden.

RM: You can use a hose to fill up the car.

Me: I know, but I don't have an outside tap, so I used this to move water from inside my house to outside. Because its a water moving receptacle.

RM: It wasn't made for filling up the car though.

Me: ........

RM: Hurumpf.

And off he wanders.

I mean.... what!?

This reminds me of my friend with Asperger's, if anything.

a water-moving receptacle 😆

Why the hell would you use a hose to fill your screen wash bottle? Does he drive a VLCC or something?

Weird. Was he pissed?

Interestingly, I never come across any mansplaining at all which seems to be unusual!

I use a big jug to fill the screen wash up. Surely a hose is stupid unless you have a huge screen wash container.

And you've just reminded me that my screen wash ran out this morning! Best go get my jug...

I actually only recently bought the watering can, he'd have loved seeing me last time traipsing in and out with 2 wine bottles!

I use whatever I can find to fill up 😬

Mine actually is pretty big (which is good, less filling). It used to take about 6 wine bottles.

I guess that'd be about 4 jugs

I use an old 2 litre water bottle and leave it in the garage for next time

I wonder what he'd say to me with my cider flagon that I use for topping up the screen wash.

😂

I find replying like

oh my god - so it is - bugger me. It’s a watering can - for flowers ….. not for the car, oh no - I wanted my car to grow - what am I going to do now !! Etc works wonders

I think the standard answer in these circumstances is "piss off and mind your own business" 🤬

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I use what ever water moving receptacle is at hand. Kettle, empty and washed out milk container or used water bottle usually 2l. Don't understand using a hose as it sounds it would be a complete faff.

Had a similar experience this past week while painting a wall at the front of my house while a random man walked past...

Random man: you need to be using waterproof paint for that, because of the weather in this country.

Me: (puzzled as to why he's even talking to me) yes, I know. It's masonry paint.

RM: if you're using normal paint it will come off you know.

Me: (again puzzled) yes, as I said it's masonry paint, it's for outside.

RM again: you need to make sure you're using the correct paint.

Me: I'm not a painter but I used to work in the construction industry and I do know a bit about these things. The wall has been primer and I am using the correct paint.

(Annoyed at myself for explaining myself to RM)

RM: yes just make sure you've got the right paint as you wouldn't want it to come off. As soon as it rains it will just peel off if you haven't.

Me: ...

Maybe he was trying to be helpful but I did feel very mansplained to. I'm a woman on my own and I do a lot of DIY myself.

Gosh he really didn't get it did he. You were very patient with him. I would have lost it after the 2nd "bit of advice"

I don't think this is limited to men (although I accept it's probably more prevalent) I have had a lot of incorrect and unhelpful advice from Women over the years, interfering into what I was doing with irrelevant, unhelpful or simply batshit "advice".

I don't know if this is "mansplaining" but at work last week, a man repeatedly insisted I could do something I knew for a fact I couldn't do. Honestly in fairness it could have been a man or a woman who did this though, it was a case of "I know better than you" rather than "I know better than you because I'm a man and you're a woman".
In our office, our phone rings three times on the reception desk and if it isn't picked up, it then jumps to my phone where I can pick up the call. The man (a husband of someone else who works in the office) heard the phone ring, as did I. Reception was unattended.

Man: "are you going to get that?"

Me: "Yep, I will as soon as the call transfers to my phone"

Man: "You can pick it up before then you know?"

By that time the call had transferred to my phone so I answered it and deal with the call. After the call....

Man: "You can answer it even when it's not ringing on your phone"

Me: "Unfortunately not, it's set up to ring on reception three times and then transfers to me afterwards"

Man: "I'm sure you can, you must be able to! We can in our office, you must be able to! Are you sure you're not accidentally ending the call when answering? You actually need to say hello or they won't reply" - it was along the lines of this. It was very patronising and he rambled on for 30 seconds or so, incorrectly explaining to me how to use the phone set I'd been using for years.

It's as if the "perfect timing gods" were watching because another call then came through which I proceeded to try and answer before it went to my phone. Cue lots of "hello insert company name, hello?" while speaking to a phone which then started ringing while the receiver was in my hand. I then put the reciever back on the handset and picked it back up, which stopped the ringing and answered the call. Man had left before I had ended the call so there was no time for a direct "I told you so" but I know the point was made.

I would have loved to have said "Oh no it's not screenwaah it's fertiliser. It makes things grow. I need a bigger car."

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Who uses a hose to fill up the screen wash on their car?!?
Sounds like a lot more hassle than using a watering can / any other random liquid receptacle!

Apparently mine takes two big jugs, which sounds like something a Mansplaining type might like to start a conversation about.

Isn’t this what the phrase “Thank you, Random man” was designed for?

I have fortunately had very little of this in recent years, so I’m not sure it’s increasing. But it’s still annoying!

I work with a mansplainer

For context I'm middle aged and have been doing my job for the last 7 years

He's 16,fresh out of school and had been doing the job for less than half an hour

If he tells me just one more time how to do my bloody job (which is mainly common sense and patience) I will deck him

I walked onto shift and the first words out of his mouth where

'Do you know we need to clean the trays?'

Me-'yes,I know'

Him-'this needs taking to table 4-do you know where table 4 is?'

Before I have chance to answer

'It's that one there!' (Points)

Me-'yes,I know'

Him-'do you?!'

Him-'we need to talk to the customer!'

Me-'yes I know' (and I'm good at that part of my job!)

Him-'it means you have to strike up a conversation with them-they will talk back to you'

Me-yes I know'

(He looks surprised)

Him-you press that button if you want coke but that button if you want diet coke-and you press that button on the lid if it is diet coke and two buttons if its coke zero'

Me-'yes,I know'

Rinse and repeat all shift

I want to strangle him (and whoever thought it was a good idea to have him doing my job)

(He once mansplained in great detail,what to do if your taking it in turns with someone-he went on for over half an hour-half of my lunch break-it sounds funny but its not)