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TheDogsGoneMad · 2023-05-29T08:20:16+00:00

^^ He woke us at 8.24 am moving his lawn. Is that normal? AIBU to think that’s too early? We’re three terraced houses so you can’t escape some noise but ^8^.24 ^on a bank holiday^!? He’s been annoying since they moved in so i think I’m just annoyed at ^him^.

Thriftnugget · 31/05/2023 07:42

8.24 lawnmower is a bit peeving maybe but not unreasonable. I’d be more upset about the dogs snarls. I wouldn’t normally feed other peoples dogs but in this circumstance I think I’d make a campaign of chucking dog treats towards said hound every time you encounter it. Hopefully it will soon love you and not see you as an enemy. 🤷‍♀️ Of course you shouldn’t have to do this but pragmatism…..? (Noted this done by our lovely Postie, btw, who is adored by all canines locally).

SamW98 · 31/05/2023 07:43

Thesunnymood · 31/05/2023 05:17

The waking time of kids in UK is actually interesting topic amongst some immigrants 😁
It appears people here put kids to bed quite earlier than many other parts of Europe so they wake up earlier.

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I’m English and I never understood the obsession with putting kids in bed at 7pm - that’s the middle of the afternoon for me!

I cone from a family of night owls. Even as a very young child, our family stayed up late and slept in when we could and I did dance with my son.

People have different body clocks so the posters sneering about being lazy because we’re not up with the larks need to get over themselves.

Expo23 · 31/05/2023 08:02

SamW98 · 29/05/2023 12:00

I think he’s very selfish yes. Weekends and bank holidays, anything before 9 is too early imo.

It seems a case of well I’m awake so everyone else should be. Many people use weekends and bank holidays did a much needed lie in and others may have been out so not got to bed til the early hours.

Im a night owl not a morning person at all so getting woken up before I’m ready would make me grumpy the rest of the day

I agree. I've always gone by the rule of 9am, even at 9 I would cringe at bit so would still avoid if possible. I am up by 5am generally too due to my body clock. I find other things to do - there are always other things to do. People have lots going on in their lives so I try to be considerate where I can. People could be on shift, hanging, been up with baby, ill (temporarily or long term) I'm not of the 'I'm alright, Jack' mindset.

BittenontheBum · 31/05/2023 11:07

@MargaretThursday I really wouldn't want your dear ol dad to be on his knees with scissors, that would be a travesty.

As I say I'm having a few issues (GOB) and I definitely wouldn't say anything 🌺

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 31/05/2023 12:57

I like the sound of a lawnmower and it's unlikely it would wake me, but that early on BH is too early.

I don't care if your kids wake you, you're up anyway, you're of the "6 is a lie in" crowd, or you're just some judgmental arsehole who thinks it's 'lazy' to not be up by then. It's inconsiderate to your neighbours.

9am is about the absolute earliest I would consider doing noisy work, esp at the weekend or BH.

Tiredmama53 · 31/05/2023 13:15

Not everyone will be on the same timetable as you I think you sound ridiculous tbh. We sometimes take the bin out at 12, my husband works nights and on weekends and Bank Holiday he's still awake at night so his routine isn't messed up, its annoying that people mow the lawn in the middle of the day or afternoon for him but we put up with it because we live on a street with other people and they shouldn't have to run their lives around when he's sleeping. You're neighbour may have had things to do with his day and 8.30 isn't quiet hours.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 31/05/2023 13:27

Tiredmama53 · 31/05/2023 13:15

Not everyone will be on the same timetable as you I think you sound ridiculous tbh. We sometimes take the bin out at 12, my husband works nights and on weekends and Bank Holiday he's still awake at night so his routine isn't messed up, its annoying that people mow the lawn in the middle of the day or afternoon for him but we put up with it because we live on a street with other people and they shouldn't have to run their lives around when he's sleeping. You're neighbour may have had things to do with his day and 8.30 isn't quiet hours.

So what I'm reading from this is that you're ok with it because you're just as inconsiderate taking the bins out at midnight?

Rock on.

Tinybrother · 31/05/2023 14:24

SamW98 · 31/05/2023 07:43

I’m English and I never understood the obsession with putting kids in bed at 7pm - that’s the middle of the afternoon for me!

I cone from a family of night owls. Even as a very young child, our family stayed up late and slept in when we could and I did dance with my son.

People have different body clocks so the posters sneering about being lazy because we’re not up with the larks need to get over themselves.

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you don’t like people sneering about different body clocks and yet you sneer at a supposed “obsession with putting kids in bed at 7pm”?

The children I know, in the U.K. and European countries, go to bed according to their individual needs, often dictated by when school/childcare is opening in the morning/when parents need to go to work. in many countries school starts earlier than in the U.K. and those children who need it go to bed correspondingly earlier. Holidays everywhere are more relaxed because less likely to be on that schedule

my children go to bed relatively late generally but it doesn’t stop one of them being awake early (always has been)

SamW98 · 31/05/2023 14:37

Tinybrother · 31/05/2023 14:24

you don’t like people sneering about different body clocks and yet you sneer at a supposed “obsession with putting kids in bed at 7pm”?

The children I know, in the U.K. and European countries, go to bed according to their individual needs, often dictated by when school/childcare is opening in the morning/when parents need to go to work. in many countries school starts earlier than in the U.K. and those children who need it go to bed correspondingly earlier. Holidays everywhere are more relaxed because less likely to be on that schedule

my children go to bed relatively late generally but it doesn’t stop one of them being awake early (always has been)

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Where am I sneering? Just saying I’ve never got it - calling it sneering just a bit of a stretch

Tinybrother · 31/05/2023 14:52

“Obsession” is sneery, though you may not have intended it to be so

SamW98 · 31/05/2023 14:53

Tinybrother · 31/05/2023 14:52

“Obsession” is sneery, though you may not have intended it to be so

Not in my opinion but ok then

paddyclampofthethirdkind · 31/05/2023 15:29

YANBU. After 9 is ok. I value my lie ins and my kids enjoy them too!

Manthide · 31/05/2023 18:47

SamW98 · 31/05/2023 07:43

I’m English and I never understood the obsession with putting kids in bed at 7pm - that’s the middle of the afternoon for me!

I cone from a family of night owls. Even as a very young child, our family stayed up late and slept in when we could and I did dance with my son.

People have different body clocks so the posters sneering about being lazy because we’re not up with the larks need to get over themselves.

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I'm English but I lived in Greece for 10 years and I hated children still being up at 10 or 11pm. The adults had no time alone ( though they generally ignored the children) and the children often watched inappropriate films etc on the tv. My dd2 puts her ds to sleep late atm as it's more convenient for her ( he's 13 months) but I'm sure that will change.

opinionssoughtplease · 31/05/2023 18:57

Tiredmama53 · 31/05/2023 13:15

Not everyone will be on the same timetable as you I think you sound ridiculous tbh. We sometimes take the bin out at 12, my husband works nights and on weekends and Bank Holiday he's still awake at night so his routine isn't messed up, its annoying that people mow the lawn in the middle of the day or afternoon for him but we put up with it because we live on a street with other people and they shouldn't have to run their lives around when he's sleeping. You're neighbour may have had things to do with his day and 8.30 isn't quiet hours.

This

opinionssoughtplease · 31/05/2023 19:05

TeaParty4Me · 29/05/2023 12:52

Maybe for you if you go bed so early but for many people who’ve been working or out having fun until the early morning it will only be a couple of hours sleep.

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I don’t understand. So you think that because someone goes out and has fun, (great, carry on) but everyone else has to have their day mucked up (plans/work/family/ responsibilities etc later in the day) and not get their lawn mown when the morning and the day is well and truly underway? Don’t we all have to muck along together? We’re all doing our best with what we have, live and let live and all that. He’s just mowing his lawn!

Stripedbag101 · 02/06/2023 08:38

Tiredmama53 · 31/05/2023 13:15

Not everyone will be on the same timetable as you I think you sound ridiculous tbh. We sometimes take the bin out at 12, my husband works nights and on weekends and Bank Holiday he's still awake at night so his routine isn't messed up, its annoying that people mow the lawn in the middle of the day or afternoon for him but we put up with it because we live on a street with other people and they shouldn't have to run their lives around when he's sleeping. You're neighbour may have had things to do with his day and 8.30 isn't quiet hours.

You sound selfish and I bet your neighbours get annoyed by the midnight rattle of the bins. The majority of people will be asleep! While the majority will be awake in the afternoon. Don’t you understand that?

when did people stop being considerate and neighbourly!

Tiredmama53 · 02/06/2023 15:40

We only have one neighbour who is an alcoholic and plays loud music till 3 in the morning and constantly has the police round because her and her husband keep trying to kill each other so I dgaf if my bins annoy them to be honest. But even if they were nice neighbours I'm not living my life around them in the same way i wouldn't expect them to live theirs around me. The sound of a bin being put out is minimal, its not excessive music or constant banging. The owls are louder.

Cheeserollanyone · 03/06/2023 17:28

It wouldn't bother me with my neighbour mowing the lawn at 8.30am but I am up early. Then again, if I was working late all week and needed a lay-in, then I would be pissed off. Depends on the mood I am in or how tired I am. 😉
My neighbour has a dog and he barks like mad every morning when he is let out in his garden at 6am. I wear ear plugs which helps but it is the neighbour the other side who wakes me up with his shouting. "David, will you please give us all a break and shut up your fu*king dog" been going on for months and the two neighbours actually dislike each other so much, we are sure David does it on purpose and he doesn't care.