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Have covid and attend outdoor event, would you go?

297 replies

Mydietstartstomorrow · 28/05/2023 06:59

Tested positive for covid on Friday after feeling rough for a few days but just thought it was a head cold, was pretty surprised when that red line appeared! Felt much better yesterday and this morning. There’s an outdoors music festival on today, which I’d ruled out since said red line but friends (ones that were, 3 years ago, very freaked out by the whole thing, rule abiding, social distancing fanatics etc) are like “it’s fine just go, it’s just a cold now” etc! But I feel uncomfortable about it. Obviously I wouldn’t hug anyone or cough on them (bit of a cough still!) wwyd? Would you still go?

OP posts:
Okshacky · 28/05/2023 07:51

It’s exactly the same, to me, as if you had chicken pox or German measles. I wouldn’t go anywhere I could infect someone with a life changing illness. We just would you be so selfish?

Maebh9 · 28/05/2023 07:52

My partner wasn't at the party. He caught it because he's an essential worker and had to be in the room with someone who went.

Afterwards she said "oh it's just a cold though!"

Bbqshowdownusa · 28/05/2023 07:52

Okshacky · 28/05/2023 07:51

It’s exactly the same, to me, as if you had chicken pox or German measles. I wouldn’t go anywhere I could infect someone with a life changing illness. We just would you be so selfish?

Because not everyone sees it like that.

I compare it to a cold, a common cold. That I would still get on with my life with.

grayhairdontcare · 28/05/2023 07:53

@Maebh9 I work in a building with 1100 people.
We all have to attend unless severely Ill.
We also don't test anymore.
If I woke up well enough to attend an event I would go.
Life has moved on from testing and staying in your own home.
I'm sorry you are still so affected by it.

ThirstyThursday · 28/05/2023 07:53

Soapyspuds · 28/05/2023 07:43

IF somebody is that susceptible from getting badly ill from covid they should not be going to a music festival. OP go and have a great day if you feel well enough.

@Soapyspuds and should they also stop their partners & children from going?

@Mydietstartstomorrow I wouldn't, I think it's wrong to go to something like that when you know you're ill (other things too, not just covid). I couldn't knowing how ill I could make others, or they could die, I just couldn't enjoy it. To ME it's incredibly selfish.

maybe you'd have gone if you hadn't tested? But it's irrelevant really, you have tested.

DreamCatcherTheThird · 28/05/2023 07:53

No I wouldn’t go, some people live with a compromised immune system. A friend for instance has one transplanted kidney or pregnant women.

Advice is pretty straightforward.

NHS advice

nhs.uk

COVID-19 symptoms and what to do

Find out about the symptoms of COVID-19, what to do if you or your child has them and when to get medical help.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/covid-19/covid-19-symptoms-and-what-to-do/

Okshacky · 28/05/2023 07:55

Bbqshowdownusa · 28/05/2023 07:52

Because not everyone sees it like that.

I compare it to a cold, a common cold. That I would still get on with my life with.

If covid was the same as a common cold then why do you think they test you for it before you go into hospital and cancel appointments if you have it?

dooneyousmugelf · 28/05/2023 07:56

On balance I would still most likely go. What's relevant here isn't that most people (myself included) don't test. It's that you have had reason to test and you do know for a fact you have Covid. It's what you do with that information. Me? Yeah I think I'd go. I wouldn't be grabbing random people's faces and coughing into them or be snogging them or even being close to them so why not.

Mutabiliss · 28/05/2023 07:56

It just seems a bit mean, don't you think?

You know you're still infectious, so chances are you'll infect someone - outdoors is much less of a risk but you'll likely be close to someone at the bar, they'll go into the portaloo after you, or you'll be singing at the top of your lungs and projecting virus all over the people in front of you (singing is one of the most effective ways of spreading it).

But of course, anyone going to a festival knows there's a good chance they'll catch something, so perhaps it doesn't matter as it's just one of those things now. I don't know... I wouldn't go myself, but that's perhaps because Covid always gives me a high fever and hacking cough. I don't fancy getting it again anytime soon and wouldn't want to inflict it on anyone else.

Bbqshowdownusa · 28/05/2023 07:56

Okshacky · 28/05/2023 07:55

If covid was the same as a common cold then why do you think they test you for it before you go into hospital and cancel appointments if you have it?

I never said it was the same. I said I compare it to the common cold.

because for me that’s all it is.

Im not stopping my life for something so minor.

Bbqshowdownusa · 28/05/2023 07:57

DreamCatcherTheThird · 28/05/2023 07:53

No I wouldn’t go, some people live with a compromised immune system. A friend for instance has one transplanted kidney or pregnant women.

Advice is pretty straightforward.

NHS advice

It literally says

If your child has mild symptoms such as a runny nose, sore throat or mild cough, and they feel well enough, they can go to school or childcare.

So the rules are clear, her symptoms are mild and she’s allowed to go out and enjoy herself.

No need to feel guilty about having a good time.

Hesma · 28/05/2023 07:57

I’d stay home

VenAqui · 28/05/2023 07:59

I work with people who are positive and have to come to work if they feel okay to so yes, I’d still go. Presumably most people have been vaccinated.

JustDanceAddict · 28/05/2023 08:00

Have you retested? What’s your line like now?
i saw a friend the day before I tested positive- I actually had cold symptoms already but a neg nose test so I still went. We hugged hello etc & she didn’t get it from me. I then isolated for a week since symptoms began and then another friend said it was ok to see her even though I wasn’t 100% and again, no-one caught it.
However from that bout of covid I was pretty unwell for a while and still have a probable lifelong ailment from it (can’t be proven 100% but it’s pretty obvious) so I’d likely keep away from people until at least a week has passed.
idk where I caught it from other than being out and about on one specific day so it is random, but again you don’t want to knowingly spread it either.

ThirstyThursday · 28/05/2023 08:00

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Soapyspuds · 28/05/2023 08:00

@ThirstyThursday

and should they also stop their partners & children from going

It depends how bad they are immunocompromised. But you should expect your children to consider at least a parents medical condition, you cannot expect random unknowns to mitigate for you. This is 2023 and live has moved on.

BriarHare · 28/05/2023 08:02

I’d go. I don’t know anyone that still tests. Loads of people there could have covid and not know it.

MN is actually the only place I see covid still mentioned.

I’d assume the CEV take their own precautions.

ThirstyThursday · 28/05/2023 08:02

Bbqshowdownusa · 28/05/2023 07:57

It literally says

If your child has mild symptoms such as a runny nose, sore throat or mild cough, and they feel well enough, they can go to school or childcare.

So the rules are clear, her symptoms are mild and she’s allowed to go out and enjoy herself.

No need to feel guilty about having a good time.

She's literally NOT a child.

JustDanceAddict · 28/05/2023 08:02

Ps: it’s not the common cold though, it’s systemic so can affect different parts of your anatomy. A cold stays in your nose!! This is why people have long covid.

awakeeveeynight · 28/05/2023 08:04

I'd go but not kiss or hug anyone

ThirstyThursday · 28/05/2023 08:05

VenAqui · 28/05/2023 07:59

I work with people who are positive and have to come to work if they feel okay to so yes, I’d still go. Presumably most people have been vaccinated.

@VenAqui

your work situation has nothing to do with a festival except you're more likely to be positive than others.

vaccinations wear off, that argument will only be valid when the make one that last many years or forever.

crossstitchingnana · 28/05/2023 08:06

No. You should isolate.

Bbqshowdownusa · 28/05/2023 08:06

ThirstyThursday · 28/05/2023 08:02

She's literally NOT a child.

It still says

You can go back to your normal activities when you feel better or do not have a high temperature.

So she is still free to carry on.

MumUndone · 28/05/2023 08:07

Would you go with a cold? Yes? Then you can go with Covid.

FrenchandSaunders · 28/05/2023 08:08

@BriarHare thats so true, nobody I know ever mentions covid these days, but it’s still on here a lot.