To tell pronoun announcing recruiter I don't want the job

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Had a call with a recruiter today- clearly female name, pic on linked in clearly female & then at start of call she announced 'my pronouns are she/her, may I ask what yours are?'... I mean she was polite, but it just seemed ridiculously performative (I too am clearly female) & has made me question if I want to work for this organisation. I have nothing against trans people etc I just really bristle with all the over the top performative stuff.. Am I just totally out of touch? My current company does not have any kind of stance in this area which I guess is terrible if you are one to name their pronouns..tbh I've got enough shit going on to have to explain my preferred pronouns to everyone I meet!

Good luck with what's left

You know how pronouns work, right?!
If so I think you'd get a bit bored in RL of "All Black said try was going to me grandma's tomorrow, said try was taking some of me cake."
Outside of saying it on MN for comedy value in the hope of amusing other pronoun refusers

@Chevybaby you'd be on thin ice - gender critical beliefs are protected beliefs under the Equality Act (confirmed by the Forstater judgment). Are you planning to weed out Hindus and lesbians too, or are other protected characteristic ok?

Lucky you then, passing the "pretty enough to be a real woman" test 🙄
I've been told I look like a bloke before.
Think they needed a trip to Specsavers personally.

Do as you wish. They'll have dodged a bullet, as they appear to run an inclusive workplace.

Yes, this! They do well to tolerate the amount of myself that I DO bring - they really wouldn't want the rest of me!

An inclusive workplace that would not want employees who don't want to express "preferred pronouns"?

How can your brain not match your anatomy? Is your brain not a part of your anatomy? Do you keep it in a jar?

Ah the grammatical slight. Good one.

You’re being performative because you’re making a song and dance about a simple, quick question. Not every question is designed to for your specific worldview.

You probably won’t be welcome at the organisation you’re interviewing for anyway, so save yourself the trouble.

Women don't need to be "pretty enough" to be identified as female. No idea why you think attractiveness is a defining quality of being female. Women have a different body shape to men, regardless of variation within the class of women. Women walk differently to men because of the differences in skeletons and how the tendons and muscles connect, and because of the differences in fat distribution. Etc etc. In nearly all cases, sex can be correctly identified with ease.

There’s no evidence they aren’t also respectful of people who don’t wish to express their pronouns.

Women don't need to be "pretty enough" to be identified as female. No idea why you think attractiveness is a defining quality of being female.
I know that as well as you do you clearly missed the 🙄 and biscuit at the end of my comment, to note the tone and sarcasm

I’m not pretty in the slightest. But I’m still very evidently a female. I look like one, sound like one, have a name that I’ve only heard used for females.

I think you're overstating to say nearly all cases.

And even if I was to be mistaken on occasion for a male, I’d just assume whoever got it wrong had made a mistake or was a bit daft, certainly not that I somehow wasn’t visibly a woman or needed to start announcing my pronouns

@WhateverHappenedToMe
Perfect.

Also agree with poster which says going along with this shit helps it become ingrained.

I'm liberal if people want to whatever fine but don't impact me.

The onus is on them to announce it

Not every question is designed to for your specific worldview.
That's how I see it - I'm.currently applying for jobs and one the other day for a well known banking organisation asked lots of what some people on here might take objection with
There was Do you identify as transgender? Answer- no.
Are you black British? No.
Do you identify as the sex you were born? Yes.
I'm perfectly aware that others aren't me though, and might answer differently.
Not everyone is the same, we're all individual.

@BodgerLovesMashedPotato the problem with emojis to represent meaning is that they are left to the reader's interpretation, and you assume that all of us reading are adept at guessing your intentions from those emojis. I did not interpret your use of the eye roll to mean that you meant the exact opposite of what you wrote. Nor do I really know what the biscuit one means. Seems to be used to mean "shut up and go away" by lots of posters.

You’re being performative because you’re making a song and dance about a simple, quick question. Not every question is designed to for your specific worldview

Nice one. Trivialise the legitimate objections of the OP.

The question is laden with worldview implications and the recruiter wanted a specific response which requires a world view/attitude on the part of the OP.

Isn't it?
I've heard countless comments towards women who don't look like "women" behind their backs and to their faces.

Nor do I really know what the biscuit one means
It means not even worthy of a proper response.
Stems from the Gordon Brown webchat on here of refusing to state his biscuit preference if I remember correctly!

Yes, same

But they are still female, given there are only 2 sexes 😬

I’ve seen that come primarily from TRAs, ie MtF transwomen, trying to make out they are more womanly than actual women.

And in schools and workplaces to this day.
Which, to me, necessitates equating women's/womyn's/lgbtq+/etc rights. We're on the same side.