To tell new lad this is my room

[Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy]

I know this is ridiculous but its really pissing me off Iv just started seeing someone new and he's been staying over and everything has been going great except I like to sleep with a fan on, the landing light on and the TV or something on my phone for background noise. he hates the fan and tv/phone being on he wants complete darkness and silence and wants to sleep with the window open. Aibu to tell him it's my room so it's tough 💩 how he likes to sleep.

Of course it is not normal. Normal people sleep in the dark and with minimal background noise. I think you can tell your bedroom your rules, but I wouldnt blame him for deciding not to stay over. BTW, I often have the TV on, but I know that it is not what the majority do.

So he's still there every night?

So much for the “I’d do anything for my kids” comments. Anything but give up putting them in danger by having random men spending the night in the house, apparently.

My kids haven't been here. Iv got my eldest tonight and he ain't staying

Good.

How was your pamper night with your girl @Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy?

Yeah thanks she loved it

Did you manage to sleep alone?

My daughter slept with me but she asked me. I didn't ask her

My daughter has gone back to her dad's now we've had a nice weekend thanks everyone for encouraging us to have 1 on 1 time she loved it and is excited for staying over again, she says she wants us to do facemasks and makeovers next time.

That's really encouraging OP - spending time like that with your daughter is invaluable in terms of making memories and creating bonds.

This is lovely!

The lad I'm seeing is here tonight i had a nice weekend with dd but I have missed him.

Have you missed him, or have you missed the idea of an adult who appears to care about you? I don't mean this in a hostile way - just that a "lad" whom you barely know but have had sex with isn't really an individual whom you'd miss in any meaningful way. Do you miss your daughters?

I do miss my daughters when their not here but I need my own life to. No iv missed him i do really like him and like him being here.

Your way of sleeping is highly unconventional.

His way of sleeping is more normal/universal.

You definitely need to compromise.

A lad? Missed him? How old are you?

Yeah we have compromised now no telly or fan but landing light stays on, window closed and I'm allowed on my phone when he's asleep

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It's called compromise

I see my children as much as I'm allowed to see them I can't help that i see him more. We've been seeing each other a couple of weeks, he's the same age as me and of course where having sex when we see each other thats what you do at the start of a relationship