To tell new lad this is my room

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I know this is ridiculous but its really pissing me off Iv just started seeing someone new and he's been staying over and everything has been going great except I like to sleep with a fan on, the landing light on and the TV or something on my phone for background noise. he hates the fan and tv/phone being on he wants complete darkness and silence and wants to sleep with the window open. Aibu to tell him it's my room so it's tough 💩 how he likes to sleep.

Yes you are. But posting constantly about all of your problems and disturbing behaviour gets you noticed. And makes people worried for your children.

I post on here as I don't have real life support except from professionals which isn't the same as an average person's views on things.

It is your room place and you're entitled to sleep how you like, but most normal people like dark and quiet.

I could live with the landing light on (eye mask or pillow, plus I do have eyelids), I could suffer the fan on a hot night as long as it was a fairly quiet model but the tv / phone would be an absolute deal breaker and I find that really weird.

I woudn't stay over, I couldn't see it lasting long to be fair.

I do use sleep timer on tv

Gently, you never take the advice though. I've lost count of the amount of posts you've made about sleeping with people in the past couple of months, and here we are again.

There are some wise women on here who have been through, and survived, a hell of a lot. Listen to them and take it on board.

I have taken some advice from my posts and there has been some really helpful stuff but there is also stuff I don't agree with so obviously won't follow advice on

plus I do have eyelids 😆

Not past childhood, generally, no

This is why I like mumsnet as everyone around me is like me so it's nice to hear how others live

Exactly the same thing as happened with ghostspirit. Never taking advice but lots of disturbing life-drama posts. So then people got frustrated and her threads would deteriorate into bun-fights.and calls for MNHQ to step in and do something in real life to protect her kids . Then MNetters going to other forums to talk about whether she was in fact a troll or not.

It all got very messy.

I would really struggle to sleep with the noise. The light wouldn't bother me (although it is odd).

The window would be fine either way - unless it was noisy outside, then it would need to be closed.

If you ever decide to live together, plan on having separate rooms.

But I have listened to advice and iv had several conversations with mnhq why are you comparing me to someone else do u think everyone in life who has struggled with trauma, addiction and mental illness are the same 🤔

Oh dayum! I didn't see all the pages and it looks like the thread has moved on. Apologies.

I can't sleep with the window open to many bugs 😬

If you have a net curtain/voile it keeps bugs out 🙂

No thankyou the thread hasn't moved on I still need opinions of original problems ignore the people derailing my thread

This is something I would compromise with il have a Google ty 😊

"I know this is ridiculous "

Im happy you are so self aware

"I think the reality of why this is a problem is because I don't actually care about him so am not willing to compromise"

Errrr....

""I only introduce anyone to my kids if they're staying over and the kids are here, and I just say they're friends"

......?!

Your thread is reads like your head and life is one big chaotic mess.

You're not listening to the advice to stop shagging random people you don't even like and putting your kids at risk.

So that's why people notice when you post again about the latest one.

I'm not comparing you as a person to GS, just saying when you become the poster that people are noticing and they're concerned about your kids, people get pissed off and it gets messy.

Ah, yeah. Where I am now (second floor flat in a more built up area) it's not really an issue. In the house I was in before, much more rural, I kept the windows closed for exactly that reason.

oh I think I remember you, what happened with your friends dad. Is that you? Or am I mistaken?

We no longer talk

The dad or your friend?

It's literally like inviting the cast of bugs life in if I leave a window open

The dad