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Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive

641 replies

Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 15:10

Have had to nc as incredibly outing.

I enquired about a blossom tree installation in my restaurant, someone got back to me with a quote and I said great what’s his timescales. He let me know a date and I told him it would be suitable but nothing yet agreed.
Next thing I know he says he requires a 50% deposit because he’s ordered the blossom for the tree.
I never asked him to order the blossom, never agreed that the work would actually be done and certainly didn’t agree to give him 50% upfront.

I’ve had to block him as he is continuously ringing and messaging me and is just being plain nasty, to both my husband and I.

I think he’s gone a step too far with this Facebook post though, the reference to scrubbing korma pans and polishing shoes just gets to me, I feel he’s being racist, we have an Indian restaurant but I don’t actually go/work there so he’s obviously made that up to be spiteful.

Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive
OP posts:
DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 21:02

Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 21:01

I didn’t post the details of his business, he came on here and told everyone all by himself. You clearly missed all the racist posts he made that MN deleted

Actually, I don't think this poster missed them at all...

Turdboy choosing a new theme?

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 21:02

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Just4ThisThread · 22/05/2023 21:02

Reads like he’s realised how bad this could be for him and is now trying to scare you into having the thread deleted OP.

Serrina · 22/05/2023 21:02

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

If you really can't see any racism the I suggest you read the whole thread. Most of the worst ones have actually been deleted by MN so what does that tell you. Oh let me guess, MN are just being "woke" 🙄

IClaudine · 22/05/2023 21:02

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 21:00

Laugh all you want. If you paint someone a racist on a site like this then best believe there are severe consequences if you are in fact making it up

Hi Skidoo.

PumpkinSpiceLattePlease · 22/05/2023 21:02

This must be the most bonkers thread I've ever seen on here. Why has it not been deleted @mnhq? Threads are zapped for a lot less but this disgusting example of racism passes by without comment. Op, I really hope you are ok.

danceyourselfdizzy1 · 22/05/2023 21:04

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

How many name changes is that now @LibertyFloral? You could try changing the language about a bit to not be quite so obvious you know. Just deeply unpleasant and sad really.

More socks than M&S on this thread.

😂@IClaudine

BodgerLovesMashedPotato · 22/05/2023 21:04

Just4ThisThread · 22/05/2023 21:00

Did you not see his posts here then?

It's like any of the bigoted opinions on here, whether homophobic or racist.
"I see no comments, if you do MN will delete them."
They get deleted "waaaah, I'm being silenced! Erased! They're after us!"
Pushes them further into bigotry, just got to hope there's still some sanity out there 🙂

SchoolQuestionnaire · 22/05/2023 21:04

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 22/05/2023 18:24

Wow so no sole trader or partnership can ever be a 'proper business' especially not if their turnover is below the VAT limit?

Not defending this guy at all but these posts are really unfair to the millions of legit and honest sole traders out there.

I’ve dealt with many ‘legit and honest sole traders’. Not one has asked me to pay 50% up front.

PRMachine · 22/05/2023 21:04

User1432423532 · 22/05/2023 21:02

Hahahah never mind, found it! Can’t believe Skid was so stupid to leave the review using his real name. Just google it plus giant tree and it’s the first hit (Google actual autofills the search bar showing a lot of people have been searching tonight 😂)

I can’t see it. Just an obituary. Wishful thinking?

IClaudine · 22/05/2023 21:06

SchoolQuestionnaire · 22/05/2023 21:04

I’ve dealt with many ‘legit and honest sole traders’. Not one has asked me to pay 50% up front.

Yeah, it is often a red flag that suggests cash flow problems.

Terino · 22/05/2023 21:07

Longstanding poster here on a NC (MN can verify if needed). Also a local business owner, surprised to see we're in the same locale, if other posts regarding the businesses involved are correct.
He has damaged his business, OP, what a ridiculous, rude man. Most of us don't post unprofessional public outbursts like he did, but we all know which local businesses to avoid, and they are discussed when other traders meet up/work together. He's done much more damage to his own business with this.

Just4ThisThread · 22/05/2023 21:10

BodgerLovesMashedPotato · 22/05/2023 21:04

It's like any of the bigoted opinions on here, whether homophobic or racist.
"I see no comments, if you do MN will delete them."
They get deleted "waaaah, I'm being silenced! Erased! They're after us!"
Pushes them further into bigotry, just got to hope there's still some sanity out there 🙂

Unfortunately have seen this play out many times. IMO The Royal Family board is the worst for it.

User1432423532 · 22/05/2023 21:10

@PRMachine Try “large artificial tree” instead of giant tree

maddening · 22/05/2023 21:12

I think the fact that he required a deposit would mean that the op could reasonably believe that she had not commenced with any contract and that he would not commence without the deposit.

Just4ThisThread · 22/05/2023 21:15

Absolutely this, it’s like booking any service that requires a deposit surely.

Be it a holiday, driving lesson blocks, tattoo appointment etc. Not confirmed until deposit is received.

RightOnTheEdge · 22/05/2023 21:16

@PRMachine I got the same at first but try the name and then giant blossom tree.

PRMachine · 22/05/2023 21:18

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Terino · 22/05/2023 21:19

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Bingo.

EasterBreak · 22/05/2023 21:20

OP please report this vindictive racist nut job to the police.

OneTC · 22/05/2023 21:20

Looking at the prices on the site you must have been getting an epic tree for 8k OP!

InBeautifulKindWays · 22/05/2023 21:21

If the racist is not Daniel Carter from Crafted Canopy, I shall delete this comment.

😂 Hes racist and thick to use his real name. So unprofessional. What a dick.

PumpkinSpiceLattePlease · 22/05/2023 21:22

God, those trees are absolute shite. My 8 year old could do better.

Isthatascratchonmygrandmother · 22/05/2023 21:22

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 21:00

Laugh all you want. If you paint someone a racist on a site like this then best believe there are severe consequences if you are in fact making it up

What a spanner Hmm

PinkFrogss · 22/05/2023 21:23

I see Mumsnet is continuing to prove racism is alive and well Hmm