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Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive

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Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 15:10

Have had to nc as incredibly outing.

I enquired about a blossom tree installation in my restaurant, someone got back to me with a quote and I said great what’s his timescales. He let me know a date and I told him it would be suitable but nothing yet agreed.
Next thing I know he says he requires a 50% deposit because he’s ordered the blossom for the tree.
I never asked him to order the blossom, never agreed that the work would actually be done and certainly didn’t agree to give him 50% upfront.

I’ve had to block him as he is continuously ringing and messaging me and is just being plain nasty, to both my husband and I.

I think he’s gone a step too far with this Facebook post though, the reference to scrubbing korma pans and polishing shoes just gets to me, I feel he’s being racist, we have an Indian restaurant but I don’t actually go/work there so he’s obviously made that up to be spiteful.

Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive
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BodgerLovesMashedPotato · 22/05/2023 20:45

Sorry, was quoting the post that you were referring to

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 20:46

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Shut up. For your own sake. Shut up.

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Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 20:47

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 20:37

Take screenshots, now.

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I have taken screen shots of what I can, I missed some of the comments that got deleted though.

Like many others though, I do feel Sanjeep and skid are one and the same.

Thank you to all those that have given me support, private messages etc.

As I said, I grew up and was born in the UK, 20 years ago racism was very different, I grew up in a time where I was physically assaulted and racially attacked very publicly and it was obvious that it was racism.

And no, I don’t think racism has reduced, just evolved as thankfully it’s not as acceptable as it was when I was growing up.

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OneTC · 22/05/2023 20:49

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oh jtfo

SnackSizeRaisin · 22/05/2023 20:49

Xenia · 22/05/2023 20:12

Contract law basics - offer and acceptance. English law provides that can be by phojne, email, whatsapp, Facebook. IF that occurred then he is entitled to claim the profits he would have made (or the costs of what bought in). If not then that is not so.

Once he's done the work. I don't think there's anything in law that states he can get paid 4k before he has done anything?

slore · 22/05/2023 20:50

Serrina · 22/05/2023 20:42

The only reason you believe racism has reduced and not evolved is because it doesn't affect you.

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I can assure you it does.

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 20:51

Skid is basically what racism usually is now. Someone being mostly fine until you annoy them and then they weaponise your race while trying to attack you while denying that they're doing it. This was classic.

I wondered initially why he was calling himself Skidmark (dog story was clearly bollocks) but after the second name I saw the common theme and it doesn't take a genius to figure out why he chose it. Utterly disgusting. Can't believe this still happens.

Rowthe · 22/05/2023 20:53

Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 20:47

I have taken screen shots of what I can, I missed some of the comments that got deleted though.

Like many others though, I do feel Sanjeep and skid are one and the same.

Thank you to all those that have given me support, private messages etc.

As I said, I grew up and was born in the UK, 20 years ago racism was very different, I grew up in a time where I was physically assaulted and racially attacked very publicly and it was obvious that it was racism.

And no, I don’t think racism has reduced, just evolved as thankfully it’s not as acceptable as it was when I was growing up.

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I hope you get the Police to take it seriously.

Absolutely disgusting behaviour from this individual.

BenCoopersSupportWren · 22/05/2023 20:54

I hope you’re okay OP. Whatever the ins and outs of the finer points of the order / contract, being on the receiving end of this Neanderthal’s racism (and off-board harassment) must be a deeply unpleasant experience for you.

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:57

I think the poster is actually the racist here. If you did agree a sale then this is in you. Be careful this doesn't turn on you. He could do you for defamation of character more than you could do him for racism. Not right. But fact

CockSpadget · 22/05/2023 20:58

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:57

I think the poster is actually the racist here. If you did agree a sale then this is in you. Be careful this doesn't turn on you. He could do you for defamation of character more than you could do him for racism. Not right. But fact

😂😂😂

User1432423532 · 22/05/2023 20:58

Can someone please just post the name of the business? It’s not doxxing or defamation to link a public page of a business. Anything that’s already out in public is not secret information

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

BodgerLovesMashedPotato · 22/05/2023 20:59

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:57

I think the poster is actually the racist here. If you did agree a sale then this is in you. Be careful this doesn't turn on you. He could do you for defamation of character more than you could do him for racism. Not right. But fact

How exactly is the OP the racist?
Is it racist to call out racist remarks?
That makes no sense.

CockSpadget · 22/05/2023 21:00

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

You’re not seeing the racist comments because they have been deleted (because they were racist) however, you sound like you would probably agree with them anyway.

Just4ThisThread · 22/05/2023 21:00

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

Did you not see his posts here then?

InstantPotForDummies · 22/05/2023 21:00

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:57

I think the poster is actually the racist here. If you did agree a sale then this is in you. Be careful this doesn't turn on you. He could do you for defamation of character more than you could do him for racism. Not right. But fact

What the fuck are you talking about?

BodgerLovesMashedPotato · 22/05/2023 21:00

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

Crave racism 😂🙄
What are you actually on about?

IClaudine · 22/05/2023 21:00

More socks than M&S on this thread.

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 21:00

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

I see no racist comments.

That's because they've all been deleted!

Is Skid back again??

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 21:00

Laugh all you want. If you paint someone a racist on a site like this then best believe there are severe consequences if you are in fact making it up

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Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 21:01

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:57

I think the poster is actually the racist here. If you did agree a sale then this is in you. Be careful this doesn't turn on you. He could do you for defamation of character more than you could do him for racism. Not right. But fact

I didn’t post the details of his business, he came on here and told everyone all by himself. You clearly missed all the racist posts he made that MN deleted

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CockSpadget · 22/05/2023 21:02

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 21:00

Laugh all you want. If you paint someone a racist on a site like this then best believe there are severe consequences if you are in fact making it up

They quite openly came on and painted themselves as racist. But hey ho 😂

User1432423532 · 22/05/2023 21:02

Hahahah never mind, found it! Can’t believe Skid was so stupid to leave the review using his real name. Just google it plus giant tree and it’s the first hit (Google actual autofills the search bar showing a lot of people have been searching tonight 😂)

PRMachine · 22/05/2023 21:02

Lucyandclive · 22/05/2023 20:59

This is all very one sided. I see no racist comments. What I do see is a lot of people really wanting this to be racism. If you crave racism you are in fact racist yourself

Oh just bore off, you racist fool.