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Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive

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Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 15:10

Have had to nc as incredibly outing.

I enquired about a blossom tree installation in my restaurant, someone got back to me with a quote and I said great what’s his timescales. He let me know a date and I told him it would be suitable but nothing yet agreed.
Next thing I know he says he requires a 50% deposit because he’s ordered the blossom for the tree.
I never asked him to order the blossom, never agreed that the work would actually be done and certainly didn’t agree to give him 50% upfront.

I’ve had to block him as he is continuously ringing and messaging me and is just being plain nasty, to both my husband and I.

I think he’s gone a step too far with this Facebook post though, the reference to scrubbing korma pans and polishing shoes just gets to me, I feel he’s being racist, we have an Indian restaurant but I don’t actually go/work there so he’s obviously made that up to be spiteful.

Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive
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InstantPotForDummies · 22/05/2023 20:34

Tellmeimcrazy · 22/05/2023 20:29

Do we really think skidmark and the floater are two different people? It's so obvious with the names.

It's so obvious. The username is disgustingly racist.

Endlesssummer2022 · 22/05/2023 20:34

I’m glad a lot of people who wilfully refuse to see racism on here have been embarrassed by how this has turned out though. Skidmark is clearly racist but there were more than enough PPs on here minimising. The UK has gone backwards.

slore · 22/05/2023 20:34

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GeraltsBathtub · 22/05/2023 20:35

@slore you think the OP is the one being racist? Gold medal for mental gymnastics there

CockSpadget · 22/05/2023 20:35

Endlesssummer2022 · 22/05/2023 20:34

I’m glad a lot of people who wilfully refuse to see racism on here have been embarrassed by how this has turned out though. Skidmark is clearly racist but there were more than enough PPs on here minimising. The UK has gone backwards.

When we got an openly racist pm, it set us back decades. It gave people the courage to once again voice their vile inner feelings.

Tellmeimcrazy · 22/05/2023 20:35

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Are you kidding me? Racism has reduced? We must be living in vastly different worlds

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 20:36

Ammez · 22/05/2023 20:25

@Sanjeepthefloater Is that you Skidmark? 🤔

Of course it was.

@MNHQ, any way of deleting the offensive username too?

Endlesssummer2022 · 22/05/2023 20:37

CockSpadget · 22/05/2023 20:35

When we got an openly racist pm, it set us back decades. It gave people the courage to once again voice their vile inner feelings.

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Yes it’s reached the point where the OP has just been called racist for pointing out racism. Unbelievable.

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 20:37

Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 20:33

The phone calls I’ve been getting in the last hour are constant and obviously this trader.
I’ll likely now go to the police as it’s interrupting with the business.
If the thread gets deleted will MN be able to help with providing this thread to the police?

Take screenshots, now.

SnackSizeRaisin · 22/05/2023 20:38

Freshfoods · 22/05/2023 15:51

But he wasn't 'some random bloke ' He's someone you had a verbal agreement with. If you don't mind paying him then why not just pay?

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Hand over 4k to a complete stranger? I wouldn't. You are very trusting! I would want either a written contract from a legitimate company or the goods delivered to my house first

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 20:39

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My God that's embarrassing. Have you been following the thread??

IClaudine · 22/05/2023 20:39

Does anyone know how to archive, that might be helpful?

danceyourselfdizzy1 · 22/05/2023 20:40

@slore You're seriously calling OP the racist? People like you serve as a good reminder that there's a lot of work to be done in this country to reduce racism.

Unlike others, I don't think the thread should be deleted. When the usual suspects on threads like these whinge with their usual "I've never seen any racism on mumsnet" point them in the direction of this thread.

BodgerLovesMashedPotato · 22/05/2023 20:40

bellac11 · 22/05/2023 15:43

Im not sure if this whole thread can be true but if it is, I dont think referencing korma pans is racist, how can it be when presumably (and I get OP is saying he is making all these 'observations' up anyway) due to it being an Indian restaurant the pans are used for korma (and other dishes)?

What if this happened to a fish and chip business, or pizza restaurant and the comment was 'out the back scrubbing the pizza pans'/'out the back scrubbing the deep fat fryer'.

Personally I find dealing with tradesmen a lottery and hard work. DIY is overrated and so is getting someone in to do stuff. You cant win

I dont think referencing korma pans is racist, how can it be when presumably (and I get OP is saying he is making all these 'observations' up anyway) due to it being an Indian restaurant the pans are used for korma (and other dishes)?

Context. Slipped into a negative review as something to "paint" a better picture

InstantPotForDummies · 22/05/2023 20:41

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This might be the most brain dead post I've ever read in my 10+ years on mumsnet.

BabbleBee · 22/05/2023 20:41

I’m in disbelief at some of the disgusting comments on this thread! Racism is alive and well…

OP I hope you’re ok.

IClaudine · 22/05/2023 20:41

danceyourselfdizzy1 · 22/05/2023 20:40

@slore You're seriously calling OP the racist? People like you serve as a good reminder that there's a lot of work to be done in this country to reduce racism.

Unlike others, I don't think the thread should be deleted. When the usual suspects on threads like these whinge with their usual "I've never seen any racism on mumsnet" point them in the direction of this thread.

I agree. MNHQ could just close the thread rather than delete.

Serrina · 22/05/2023 20:42

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The only reason you believe racism has reduced and not evolved is because it doesn't affect you.

purpleboy · 22/05/2023 20:42

Endlesssummer2022 · 22/05/2023 20:31

So Skidmark is sock putting or got one of his EDL mates to post as Sanjeepthe floater? Sanjeep is an obvious Indian name and floater means shit. This thread is next level racist.

Isn't it just. It makes me fucking sick tbh.

Willful ignorance is being generous.

I'm actually horrified at some of the posters on here.

slore · 22/05/2023 20:43

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WisherWood · 22/05/2023 20:43

What is the chance of him reading mumsnet v chance of it just being a troll?

I think people who found the FB page gave him the heads up about this thread. A couple of people on here said they hoped he would find this. Whether or not they still think this is a good idea, now he's shown his true colours, is another matter.

@Restaurantlover the whole thread including deleted posts may well be on the MN server, even once we can't see it. But I would report your own thread and say you would like it kept as evidence.

BakedTattie · 22/05/2023 20:43

missing the point but a blossom tree, is it real blossom that’s used?

purpleboy · 22/05/2023 20:44

danceyourselfdizzy1 · 22/05/2023 20:40

@slore You're seriously calling OP the racist? People like you serve as a good reminder that there's a lot of work to be done in this country to reduce racism.

Unlike others, I don't think the thread should be deleted. When the usual suspects on threads like these whinge with their usual "I've never seen any racism on mumsnet" point them in the direction of this thread.

Agree, it's sickening.

Hope your ok op. That's tosser really showed himself up didn't he.

BodgerLovesMashedPotato · 22/05/2023 20:44

InstantPotForDummies · 22/05/2023 20:41

This might be the most brain dead post I've ever read in my 10+ years on mumsnet.

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Racism has not "evolved", it has reduced. Some people desperately still look for it. The demand for racism far exceeds the supply.
What a load of shit.
Are you seriously saying people are demanding racism, that they want it or something, that they like it?! 🙄

GeraltsBathtub · 22/05/2023 20:45

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We don’t know what race this guy is. All we know is that he’s said a load of racist shite. Defending him is really not a good look.

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