Nursery no longer lets parents in..

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MaryWhy · 22/05/2023 14:41

I've just been to collect my DD from nursery early as she has a doctors appointment. When I arrive I'm told she's sleeping and I'll have to wait outside for a while whilst they wake her up, take her to the toilet and what not. She's 4 for reference and has long since dropped the naps at home but anyhow.

I was hoping to be able to use the loo quickly (i'm pregnant and was bursting!) so feel mildly annoyed by the new "rules" and lack of hospitality for parents.

No idea why the new rules exist, nursery employee was in a rush to close the door.

AIBU to find this odd?

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AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 25/05/2023 23:46

Fairywhale
You clearly have some personal issues.
Ranting and raving on here, replying to every PP and clogging up the thread with your ravings isn't helpful.

You both suggest parents should turn up at any time to spy and surprise nursery teachers and then say parents won't do that.

The fact you don't see that there can be massive safeguarding risks to letting parents in is worrying. It's been explained. Calm Tf down

KateyCuckoo · 26/05/2023 07:25

Gosh if Fairywhale was one of my parents, I'd give notice. Being a bit nosy and wishing you could come in is one thing, but out and out accusations regarding the carers of your children is absolutely not tolerated in my setting.

KateyCuckoo · 26/05/2023 07:27

I should clarify, unfounded accusations.

Rosebel · 26/05/2023 08:30

fairywhale · 25/05/2023 21:29

So for tens of years it was acknowledged how important it was for children and for parents to be able to walk in and see how a child is in a nursery, and to settle them in, but since covid no parent access to nurseries has been normalised and nurseries have been turned into prisons where no parental vigilance is allowed and safeguarding compromised.
It's very poor and some shit nurseries and or in areas with shortage of supply keep making up excuses to keep parents out to stop complaints to ofsted, to stop you observing when they are our of ratios, noticing when someone raises their voice at children, or drags or pulls a child, or to stop you knowing your child sleeps most of the day in there, or has a nappy filled down to the floor for most of the day, or when crying children are left to cry their eyes out.
It is despicable that ofsted and the government has allowed the most vulnerable, voiceless members of society to continue to be mistreated like this, with babies as young as under 1 handed over the gate or door, often with strange staff since the regular ones may be too busy or out if ratios to leave the room to take your child, not settling the child into an activity before leaving, handing the child over to pretty much anyone when it's bank staff or staff from unfamiliar room. What does it teach kids being handed over at the door like this. These are babies and toddlers, and this is all very damaging. Nurseries submit paperwork to ofsted showing parents have access but in fact in some cases it's false. Complain to ofsted and complain to the council, leave reviews. Hopefully they'll close the abusive vicious fuckers who deny parents access down. Many have gone out of business after not reopening during covid when told so in may 2020 and further continuing with this shit, making up ridiculous excuses (e.g that kids settle quicker is a popular one) keeping the parents out, many simply do not send their kids to what's operating like a fucking jail for babies and toddlers. A patent should be able to walk in at any time and see their child in their environment and to assess it without any notice or prompt. Open door has always been and still is best practice. Of course you have security in place, as has always been the case.
You are not assisted by the gullible morons happy with any excuse nursery makes up or limited by the choice in their area. But this needs to stop. There are nurseries that do not allow parents in to phase a child or baby in, and requiring a baby who may have never been away from parents dropped at the door. Vile.

Truly disgusting post which just shows you don't have a clue what you're talking about.
I'm really sorry if your child has suffered like that but not allowing parents in doesn't make staff vile, abusive or anything else.
When we do handovers at the door we are never out of ratio. Either the manager or an extra staff member comes in to the room. Just pointing out that will be the case pretty much everywhere. We're simply not allowed out of ratio. End of.

Dodger101 · 28/05/2023 00:54

PurpleWisteria1 · 23/05/2023 12:45
Dodger101 · 23/05/2023 12:40

Would want to be able to drop in at any time to see what was happening. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors.
Oh dear. What about school then? Going to expect to drop into the classroom any time because of closed doors?

What an awful manner you have about you.

turtool · 28/05/2023 01:56

@Rosebel you can't be in ratio and keep the children safe if you have random adults there around kids your responsible for. All it takes is that one adult that comes in and does something bad. How do you recover from that

Rosebel · 30/05/2023 21:27

We do handovers at the door. So parents don't come in. If I go to take a child out to their parents either a floating staff member or manager will come in the room to keep the child staff ratio correct.
But even if parents did come in we wouldn't allow random people in or leave them alone with the children.

Overthehill123 · 30/05/2023 21:35

My daughters nursery is a drop off and collect at the door. I’ve never thought it was weird- they do always invite parents into the office to wait if it’s raining though. The staff there are lovely and I’m sure if I was heavily pregnant and bursting for a wee they’d have no problem letting me use the toilet very briefly.

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