DH has RAN AWAY in foreign country.

[Greekrunaway23]

Away with our DC’s, I appreciate the need for downtime but every night I’ve sat alone in silence whilst he watches films.

Tonight i broached this and said I just felt really flat and lonely after 12 days of this, still 2 to go. He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful and said I really wasn’t starting an argument, I just wanted to chat of an evening. He kept on repeating that I can speak to him whenever I like, and I explained it would be nice to feel as if I wasn’t disturbing him and him to initiate conversation.

Then he ran away, it’s 12.32am here he’s gone. It’s really rough weather here tonight too and I’m scared. He hasn’t got a key as the fob for the electric is welded onto the key so I have no idea what to do.

aibu to phone the Greek police?

He needed to talk to someone who would listen

You’ve had a rough night, stop, crying and go to sleep

He’s a man child, a drama queen and a dick. I’d be getting home and dumping his pathetic arse, he ran away purely for attention imo. What a wet wipe he is sitting watching watching films with his headphones on when you’re on holiday. Why people put up with this shit is beyond me.

I will be glad to go home tomorrow, I guess at home the loneliness was busied away with evening bits around the house but sat in a small villa infront of each other in silence is just an eye opener of how my life really is.

Its a shame because I do love him, but he only loves me when I question nothing and be happy at all times.

What a twat, I hope you're ok and manage to get some sleep.

By busy tones I mean it rang then went to busy each time, as if he was rejecting the call.

Never knew this, thanks for saying.

Get home. Let him make his own travel arrangements. He has shown his true colours. His behaviour is slowly escalating to being more abusive, manipulative and gas lighting. Get rid of him because you can have a happy future with someone who loves you and wants to talk to you or live with this idiot for the rest of your life and that's a bleak picture to look forward to! You deserve so much better.

Hi OP, I couldn't read and not reply. I'm so sorry you're having such a rubbish time. This should have been a lovely break for you and your family and what great news to celebrate too. But it seems your partner has some serious issues to think it's acceptable to ignore you every evening. What does he expect you to do while he is watching movies? And what is the point of going away if you can't have much quality time together.

He sounds very selfish, and that you'd be better off without him.

Do you think that perhaps he is suffering from post natal depression? Men can suffer from that, too. His behaviour seems very odd, and there is obviously something going on inside his mind, that or he's just a selfish bellend

I’m glad he’s back OP. It sounds so difficult. I know it’s hard but I would try to get some rest and think / talk about it tomorrow if you can xx

@Greekrunaway23 I'm so sorry what you're going through!! It sounds like there are issues on his side which if he is unwilling to tell you about and taking out on you. It sounds like you're being very nice about it and you must feel vulnerable and lonely being pregnant.

Just a suggestion, but maybe let him know tomorrow that you can tell something isn't right and he's upset but you're not a mindreader so you'd really like to sit down and discuss it. Would he prefer to do that once returned from holiday?

Its a shame because I do love him, but he only loves me when I question nothing and be happy at all times.

What part of that makes him loveable?

I would suggest that you love the idea of what you think he is because what he actually is isn’t very lovable. You have got used to not wanting much. Get home and focus on you because being alone is less lonely than what you are describing. Hope you get some sleep and can get some support from friends and family.

Oh dear, I just realised that you're currently pregnant, I thought you had given birth 9 weeks ago 🥲 it's late and I'm tired lol.

Don't be an arsehole. No matter how desperate you are to be one.
You just look like an arsehole.

He ran away like a silly little boy and worried the OP. He’s watched films every night of the holiday ignoring her. Talk about it? The only thing to talk about is divorce. Why would anyone want to set their bar so low to stay with someone like this?

Have you not RTFT?

Um... what?

i am sorry that you are going through this… it sounds awful.
I think your idea of going home tomorrow is a great one.
I think it sends a strong message that you are not going to tolerate this behaviour.

Rude. She has every right to be upset considering her dh has purposefully messed with her head to make her upset. Op I'm sorry this has happened. Once home I'd talk to DH and find out if he wants to change his ways or seek help for any issues. If he's got committed to sorting himself out I wouldn't stay in the long term

Wow, you sound like a very unhappy person. What a way to get your kicks (being a wanker on the internet won't make you feel better about yourself btw).