Petty AIBU but… sandwiches!

[Flyinggeesei234]

I make my partner sandwiches to take to the office most weekdays.

I do this in the evening then put them in the fridge for him to take in the morning.

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

This annoys me as it seems so lazy and I have sandwiches to make again for the next day. He could save the ones I made for the following day.

I’d love to know if this would annoy others too. It drives me mad.

You did post in AIBU OP. No point in getting pissed off with answers you don’t want to read.

Ask him whether or not he's going into the office before making it if it's an issue for you.

Very surprised at the number of people unwilling to eat two day old sandwiches. Clearly my standards are too low!

Oh god no to 2 day old sandwiches! Eww

Clearly I’m doing adulting wrong because I always make my husbands lunch for the next day. Didn’t realise it was frowned upon 😂😂 I clear up from tea and make lunches for the next day and does bath time

*he does

Why are you pandering to him? Does he ever make your lunch for work ?

It would depend whats on the sandwiches, something with tomato or a 'wet' filling wouldn't be as nice 2 days later.

Isn’t it funny how women ‘showing love’ is often about doing Wife Work.

I wonder what he does for the OP. I bet it’s along the lines of ‘I washed the dishes for you’

Why have you jumped to that conclusion?

I was just about to say the same thing we all have our own laundry basket.
Makes washing easier don't need to sort out who clothes belong to who.

We also have a laundry basket for bedding and towels.

Yeah. I have never once met a woman whose DH made her lunch, bought her pants/socks or packed her suitcase for a trip. But I barely know a man over 50 whose wife doesn't do all of those things.

I was going to say the same , I am really surprised at the amount of people that won't eat two day old sandwiches.
Unless they have something like tomatoes in direct contact ( no butter ) with the bread they will be fine presuming they are in a box / bag / foil/ flim .

@Flyinggeesei234 , I would be a bit miffed to , but if you don't make them does that mean he won't do his thing for you ?

I think the best way round it is get him to let you know his schedule a few days in advance, and you only make them in those days.

My husband makes my packed lunch every day. And cooks my dinner 😯.

I am a bit jealous of people having sandwiches for lunch 😩

My lunches involve at least 4 tupperwares due to my restrictive diet.

You've never met a single women who's husband made her lunch?
Well that is depressing and says a lot about who you chose to spend your time with.

Do you work op?

Not a packed lunch for her to take to the office no

Lunch at home for the whole family sure

Well you haven’t met me but… 🙋🏻‍♀️. My husband makes my lunch for me to take to the office every day.

Given your post I find your user name interest @DHiscookingalerttheworld

YABU you’ve made the sandwiches for him, presumably out of choice, so it’s up to him when he wants to eat them surely. If you’re annoyed about when he eats them the simple solution is to stop making them for him.

And not just a sandwich, he usually makes me something like a chicken and avocado salad, or chicken noodles.

I believe you.

I have worked in a lot of offices though and I have heard a fair few men open their lunch box and say something like "oh nice, I got the good ham/cheese/whatever" and one man who threw away a beautiful salad made by his wife every day to go and buy chips but never once a woman who said anything to imply they hadn't made their own. So I think it's rare.

It gives everyone the chance to go on about it being 1940 and WHY are you making your DP sandwiches?? Is he a child? etc etc etc

ON MN, there's usually an outpouring of faux-horror when any woman admits to doing one single thing for her DP.

Back in the real world - or my real world anyway - most couples seem to have a fair division of labour that makes home life tick along. So yep, making sandwiches for someone is pretty basic normal (if you're happy to do it, not the case here it seems).

I find it weirder that people apparently refuse point blank to do ANYTHING for their DP, so they make themselves a slice of toast but NOT their DP, or put THEIR washing into the machine, but no one else's. 'Course, the alternative is that people are just showboating on threads, which is more likely.

There's a TikTok trend of women showing what they’ve packed for their boyfriend’s/husband’s lunch. And it goes way beyond the humble sandwich. There are hot meals, various little snacks, various sweet treats, several drinks. Sometimes a love note.

I think they've all been hypnotised.